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When we have any kind of trauma, we don’t tend to heal by blocking it out. Of course, we generally cannot simply “block out” memories by sheer force of will in the first place. But it’s certainly common to wish we could. By all means, you had extremely poor care at the hospital – I hate even…

(Woah’s question continued) Even though I am on the pill and he washes his hands before hand, he almost has a panic attack every time that he fingers me. Also, every time that I feel the least bit icky and say anything about it he makes me promise him over and over that I’m not pregnant. I think…

While getting an erection when it’s not necessarily wanted is not something you hope will happen, I can assure you that it’s completely normal. What you’re describing here is something referred to as reflex erection. Young people with penises have reflex erections during any time of the day or night…

A lot of people are worried, anxious or nervous about sex, whether they are 15, 24 or 44. It’s not just you, really. Given how many people in the world have conflicting feelings about sex and sexuality, I’d disagree that the concerns you’re having are not normal at your age or any other. You say a…

I think it might help if you made some adjustments to the way you think about intercourse and sex as a whole. You use the word penetration, and talk about what you’re doing as stabbing or a kind of invasion. I also hear you saying that sex is something you are doing to your partner or on your…

If you are not looking to become pregnant, then chances are good you have just been very lucky so far. Generally, in one year of sex without any method of birth control, around 80 - 90% of young women will become pregnant. So, for now, it seems you’ve been that 10 - 20% of women who haven’t… so…

Unfortunately, some women don’t know or understand when they’re carrying around double-standards when it comes to being ready for sex. You’re not the first guy to ask this question or be in this situation. Just like it is for women, guys are not somehow automatically ready for sex any time their…

There is no one way to do things when it comes to sex which will guarantee that a partner sticks around or does not. There also is not any one way men feel or behave when it comes to sex and relationships, nor any one way women do. Generalizations about these kinds of things are very infrequently…

Well, not all men do freeze up when asked (and not all men watch porn, either). For that matter, some women also watch pornographic movies, and they don’t all become mute when you ask them about it, either. As someone who has written on these issues a lot over the last ten years, and asks others…

Hey Dan: thanks for the props. :) ED drugs really aren’t intended for younger men, nor for the occasional problem with ED. Rather, they’re intended for a very persistent and ongoing problem, over time, and for older men who have ED for physical reasons due to aging or another medical condition (like…