long term

Advice
  • Heather Corinna

What I don't know is how strongly attracted you've felt to your boyfriend over the years, well before now. I bring that up because loving someone doesn't always mean we want to have sex with that person, or that we're sexually attracted to them. In some ways, sexual chemistry is something separate...

Advice
  • Heather Corinna

It's really normal, as a relationship goes on over time, for sex to take a bit more of a backseat. It's also common for things to be very high-key sexually when people first start dating. Novelty -- something or someone being new -- tends to put a high into many people's sex drives, and when that...

Article
  • Heather Corinna

Many people in long-term, committed relationships, be it marriage or steady partnership -- no matter their age -- have ideas about sex in partnerships they may not even be aware of. Often we base our ideas of relationships and sexuality on what we see in the media or in movies, on what our parents relationship is like, or on what we imagine, in a perfect world, sex and love to be. Talking about what those ideas are, communicating our feelings honestly, and creating clear limits and honoring them make everyone happier and healthier.