We talk about this a lot here at Scarleteen: virginity isn't physical or anything that can be universally proven or disproven with body parts. It's an intellectual concept, an idea, a belief, and perhaps most accurately, a word for identity some people use, usually to identify when they or others...
hymen
- Johanna Schorn
Nimpup's question continues: I know I could go down there and check but, I get too turned on when I see inside it and I just to want to have sex right then and there, so it's very hard for me to look for her. We've tried burning incense that is supposed to help stimulate us but it seems to only...
- Heather Corinna
There aren't any "shoulds" here. Not all people with vaginas bleed with first-time intercourse or other kinds of vaginal entry: in fact, most don't. Why some people do -- and for how long they do -- and some don't also varies. As to how many people with vaginas do and don't bleed after first...
- Anna Knöfel Magnusson/RSFU
The mythical status of the hymen has caused far too much harm for far too long. RFSU shares their fantastic information booklet intended to dispel some of the myths surrounding the hymen and virginity, including a new, improved term for that anatomy, the vaginal corona.
- Hollie West
Hi there, I am so sorry you had such a negative experience for your first PAP test. I promise you, it is not always like this, and it certainly doesn't HAVE to be like this. First off, your doctor TELLING YOU that you have to have a PAP test is wrong. A nurse practitioner (NP) cannot tell you what...
- Sarah Riley
Well, if the woman in question took a pen and wrote "I'm a virgin!" on her forehead, that might tell you something. However, otherwise there are not any signs one can look for to determine virginity short of asking the person in question. Virginity is not really a physical issue so much as it is a...
- Heather Corinna
If you go to an OB/GYN and your mother asks them to do this, the very first thing that should happen would be for that doctor to explain that is not what should motivate a parent to get their child sexual healthcare, and hopefully, they'll also tell her that going to the gynecologist should be about...
- Heather Corinna
You probably put the word cherry in quotes because you're not exactly sure what on earth it even is. That's understandable, since nobody really does, as it's not something real. Usually, when people talking about "cherry-popping," when it comes to sex, they are colloquially saying that someone...
- Heather Corinna
Not all people with vaginas bleed with first intercourse. Given your age at the time of your first intercourse, it would have been even less common for you to do so since by 26, it would have been more common for most of your hymen to have mostly eroded by then -- simply due to basic development...
- Heather Corinna
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this, confused. You know, most of what many people think about virginity just isn't accurate. And really, in so many ways, most ideas about virginity, and dynamics of virginity are sexist, have done a lot of women real harm through history and are...well...