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The problem with asking someone else how to do something that’s just for and about yourself is that you know better than anyone else what’s best. But we can certainly fill you in on some basics. Includes the skinny on masturbation and UTIs, bleeding during masturbation and on finding masturbation just isn’t doing the trick.

There is no one sexual activity, nor any one way to engage in any one sexual activity, which will guarantee orgasm or ejaculation for any given person, or for any given person every time. Plenty of people with penises will reach orgasm and ejaculate with oral sex, though many of those people won’t…

Jules: what you’re asking is obviously something I’m not going to be able to sum up in one page. Partnered sex and all of sexuality is a huge topic! But what I can do is set you up with some primers to get you started, and give you some context so that it all makes more sense. How you have sex with…

No, the penis does not have to go far into the vaginal canal to result in pregnancy. There have been cases where pregnancies resulted without any insertion of a penis into a vaginal canal. All that needs to happen is sperm must get to the ovum (egg). Simply spilling fertile semen on the vulva can be…

You know, sex really is supposed to be fun, so while it is absolutely wise to do all you can to prevent a pregnancy, there are ways to do that which don’t have to be so involved or be a big buzzkill. Condoms, when used properly, are highly effective: around 98% effective with perfect use. Perfect…

Many people engage in oral sex, and find it a pleasurable of sexual activity. So long as you engage in it responsibly, it’s just as normal, healthy, safe and natural as any other kind of genital sex. Here are the answers to some of your most common questions – no secrets, no flashing lights and sirens, just the lowdown on going down.

Using a condom is generally easier than it looks (especially if you can relax about it), but the first few times, it can be tricky, especially if you’re nervous about knowing how to use one.

We get a lot of questions from teens who are wondering if they can prevent pregnancy after intercourse, whether the concern is due to a broken condom or from not using any method of contraception in the first place. Regardless of how it happened, there is something that can reduce the risk of pregnancy if used within 120 hours (or with an IUD, eight days) of your risk. That something is Emergency Contraception.

At least once every couple of days, someone posts or writes into Scarleteen reporting that vaginal entry – usually intercourse or manual vaginal sex, and usually (but not always) with cisgender male partners – is painful, uncomfortable, or unfulfilling for them. Whatever sort of vaginal entry we’re talking about – with fingers, a penis or a dildo, with partners of any gender – not only doesn’t have to be painful, it really shouldn’t be. More than that, any kind of sex shouldn’t be about a lack of pain, but about the presence of pleasure.

There’s a reason for taking things slowly, for putting off intercourse, or taking it away from center stage that often gets overlooked. I’m not talking about slowing things down for religious or moral ideals or social pressures. Not slowing things down to prevent STIs and pregnancy. Not even slowing things down for legal reasons or because of your age. I’m not talking about Just Say No, and I’m not talking about not having sex at all. I’m talking about PLEASURE.