first time

As I’m sure you’ve discovered, porn rarely answers one’s questions about sex in a very thorough fashion. A big part of that is probably because porn is fiction and fantasy portrayed in a way that will (supposedly) appeal to the audience. In real life, people don’t have the (dubious) “benefit” of…

Short answer: YES. You NEVER reuse a condom. NEVER. Even if you wash it really thoroughly, you cannot use it again. (If, by chance, by “it” you mean his penis, washing the penis isn’t a method of birth control either, and will not prevent pregnancy.) And if you take the step of having sex a second…

Hey, Katie. Well, in most people with vaginas there is a “skin thing,” at least at the beginning, and that’s the hymen. But it rarely is “popped” or needs to be “broken” by sex. The hymen is made up of thin folds of tissue that, when we’re young, mostly covers the vaginal opening. It’s right there…

There’s no “cherry” that needs popping in your vagina. Seriously. And virginity is a cultural idea or concept: it’s not a physical state of anything. In other words, the bodies of “virgins” and the bodies of “non-virgins” are often impossible to tell the difference between. Sometimes that term…

None of this has anything to do with how much you masturbate. Nor is this likely about something that’s wrong with your penis. I am, however, seeing a few issues here that are either misinformed or not as they should be which are the likely culprits. For starters, understand that the vagina really…

If he wants to wait until marriage and you don’t or feel you can’t, then this isn’t the person for you to be pursuing a sexual relationship with, because you two very obviously have strongly conflicting wants and needs. Talking to him isn’t likely to net the results you want, either – if he’s solid…

A candid memoir of first-time intercourse from the founder of Scarleteen.