It’s extremely disingenuous to pretend that everyone but men struggle with emotions, and doesn’t help liberate us from the toxic ideal that “real men don’t cry,” or exhibit sadness. Men who date other men have additional obstacles to navigate if both they and their partners have difficultly accessing vulnerability. That’s why I’d like to take the time with you to discuss how social norms have shaped the emotional health of queer men and how crucial vulnerability is as an empowering vehicle towards deeper connection and compatibility in your relationships. I’ll also share some tips with you on how to uncover your own latent feelings and offer some suggestions on how to share these thoughts with someone you’re interested in or dating.
feelings
- Daniel Hall
Relationships, like gender and sexuality, don’t fit into a binary. The phrase queer platonic, which comes from the asexual community, means a deep and meaningful intimate relationship which isn’t based on sex. You can have this with anyone – no matter their gender or sexuality. Perhaps if the term were more normalised (I hadn’t heard of it before researching this article), more people would be comfortable with such a relationship.
- Ruby Seago
Hey, Kevin! This is a big thing to come to terms with, and I appreciate your honesty. I don’t think you’re alone, and I also think reaching out and asking for help when healing from your trauma (we all have it) takes a lot of courage and shows a willingness to be curious about yourself. So, thank...
- Mo Ranyart
I love this question, because it's something I think doesn't get discussed enough, and while I think the answer is fairly simple, that doesn't mean it's easy. I know the thought of asking someone out can be intimidating even to people who've done it before, so when you haven't had any experience...
- Mo Ranyart
It sounds like this is really stressing you out. Hopefully I can help by answering your first question right off the bat: yes, this is normal. I think you're right that the lack of contact could have been a factor in the cooling of your feelings towards your long-distance partners; that's a common...
- Heather Corinna
A miscarriage is a pregnancy that naturally ends before twenty weeks of pregnancy, all by itself. Here's what it's all about and how it can be as an experience.
- Heather Corinna
A starter guide to managing and resolving interpersonal conflict.
- Mo Ranyart
Maggie's question continued: I'm struggling with the fact that when I talk about being bisexual I mean that I could happily be in a committed relationship or desire to have sex with someone of any gender. I sometimes find that when people (as a way of trying to be supportive, which I am grateful for...
- Sam Wall
What to do, and what to avoid like the plague, when you're crushing on someone hard.
- Sam Wall
It's not surprising that this situation has you confused. It feels straight out of a romantic comedy, and when you take the plot of a romantic comedy and plop it into the real world it tends to feel much less humorous and more like someone stuck your head and heart in a blender and hit the "on"...