expectation

No one should have to do anything sexually that doesn’t feel natural and right for them in order to keep a partner. And if your partnership really hinges on being ” a freak” in bed, or behaving in a way your boyfriend wants, but just isn’t really you or about you, you really, truly are better off…

You know, there are good reasons why we distinguish fantasy from reality. If your boyfriend not only expects that both of you CAN do everything he sees in pornography, but also that you will both – and not just because one of you does – even WANT to, then he needs a reality check. You don’t need…

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

Congratulations, you’re totally normal! It’s strange the way that we often have expectations about the way things “should feel” or “should work” that are totally in opposition to the way that our bodies are made. The vagina itself is not particularly rich in nerve endings. Even more specifically…

I wouldn’t say you’re probably doing anything “wrong” here per say. Unless something is causing pain or injury or simply isn’t wanted, it’s not really fair to characterize it as “wrong.” Have you asked your partner what he likes? If not, then I’d start there. Sure, you could go get a book or a…

Here’s the thing: when a person with a vagina is sexually aroused, in general, yheir vagina self-lubricates (becomes more wet), their clitoris and parts of the vulva become more erect, and the vaginal opening and vaginal canal relax and expand (become looser). So, to ask to be wet AND “tight” is a…

This can be an issue with men with thinner (less wide) penises during intercourse, especially circumcised men (who don’t have foreskins to provide extra friction), and it’s common enough for it to only become an issue once the female partner is more easily aroused and comfortable – which is as it…

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…

It’s a pretty mixed message to tell someone they’re perfect, then tell them that you’re only interested in engaging in a certain sexual activity with them if they look a certain way per your liking (shaved, unshaved, what have you). Sex with partners shouldn’t have entry requirements based on what a…

We talk a lot about sexual safety and safer sex here at Scarleteen in terms of your physical health. But what about checking in to see if sex is safe for you and yours emotionally? Taking care of your emotions, looking out for risk factors in advance – not just when they become an existing crisis – and safeguarding yourself, your partners and those around you from needless hurt and harm is just as important as doing what you can to prevent STIs and unwanted pregnancies.