expectation

The short and easy answer: not everyone will feel so compelled as to moan during sex, so there’s nothing wrong with you. A lack of moaning does not mean that you’re not enjoying yourself, just as the presence of moaning does not mean that you are enjoying yourself. So now that we’ve knocked out the…

and Nadine asks, My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a month and to be fair we have only tried five times. The last time we tried I was completely aroused and when we started actually having sex it was fine at first. However, after some time my arousal suddenly went away for no apparent…

What you’re asking about is most typically called female ejaculation (even though not everyone with a vulva identifies as female, nor does everyone who identifies as female have a vulva), and often colloquially called “squirting.” Before I say anything else, I want to say these four things first: 1)…

There’s no reason for you to feel guilty or horrible about having the thoughts and concerns that you do. Being exclusive with someone is about making a choice, and a choice that is – ideally – meaningful if and when we make it. If it was rote or easy to make it wouldn’t be meaningful. If…

So in other words, he’s expecting you to suddenly become psychic, right? What your partner is asking for here seems more than a little unfair to me and I’m guessing that’s something you’re seeing here as well. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to tell a partner that we want them to do something for us…

The problem here isn’t your body, nor that fact that most women are just not going to orgasm from intercourse alone. The problem is, as you stated, the fact that your partner seems only interested in an activity which results in his own orgasm and his pleasure. That’s the big problem. That’s what…

First things first: really, partnered sex doesn’t make anyone more mature or grown-up, and it’s not necessarily a stepping-stone to greater maturity or “real” adulthood. Driving a car to school instead of a bike doesn’t make someone more mature: it could just mean one person is wealthier than…

Obviously, this is more of a personal judgment call than anything else. But personal ethics and the integrity of a relationship (as well as your own integrity) aside, you are likely to have some practical problems with not being truthful about faking and then expecting the sex to improve. I have to…

There is no one way to do things when it comes to sex which will guarantee that a partner sticks around or does not. There also is not any one way men feel or behave when it comes to sex and relationships, nor any one way women do. Generalizations about these kinds of things are very infrequently…

Honestly? The biggest fantasy driving the bus here is that the length of time your erection lasts has much to do with your partner’s pleasure (or yours, to some degree) at all. That isn’t to say that you won’t likely have sex partners – some, plenty, even all of them – who don’t enjoy sex that…