desires

If fantasies have you upset, please know that they’re (almost never) harmful—in fact, they’re a great way to safely explore your sexuality.

Well, a little bit higher than her vagina is her clitoris: not only is that not a strange idea, it’d be much more likely to result in greater pleasure for her, or any other person with a vagina, than licking just the vaginal opening would. :) But maybe you mean higher than her vulva? Such as…

If he wants to wait until marriage and you don’t or feel you can’t, then this isn’t the person for you to be pursuing a sexual relationship with, because you two very obviously have strongly conflicting wants and needs. Talking to him isn’t likely to net the results you want, either – if he’s solid…