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I absolutely promise you that you did not become pregnant from kissing and clothed heavy petting. I promise. So, breathe. You know your periods aren’t regular, so not having one this month, especially when you have Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome (PMOS)—formerly known as Polycystic Ovarian…

Pregnancy is not likely to occur for most people who menstruate who have sex during their periods. But because ovulation schedules can vary – and be particularly erratic for younger people – it’s never smart to have unprotected sex at any time you do not WANT to become pregnant, even during your…

It sounds like you’re not confused at all to me: in fact, I hear you being really clear. You know he wants one thing, and you want something else. You know you don’t want to do something he wants to do. In short, you know that the two of you want different things and that as it stands, there’s no…

Hey Anon: I’m sorry about the loss of your Mom. Often Dads really can do just as good a job in terms of talking about these things, so if he’s open to it, you might want to consider talking to him. But obviously, what’s important is that you have someone to talk to you feel comfortable talking to…

Shaun: if not reaching orgasm with a partner during intercourse meant a person was still a virgin, there would be an AWFUL lot of cis women in their forties who have been having sex for two decades but were still virgins. Virginity isn’t some medical state or condition, or something you can get some…

Maybelline, I don’t mean to sound like your Mom, but I have to say that based on your last post and this one, I’m not so sure engaging in receptive anal sex is the right thing for you to be doing right now. I suggested that to you for a few reasons before, and I’m going to suggest it again now…

Hey there, Naptha. You’re right: while masturbation teaches us plenty about our own sexual responses, likes and dislikes, it IS very different from partnered sex. To boot, seems you’re finding out one of the lessons a lot of folks often aren’t prepared for with any new partner, and that’s that with…

Our general body size earnestly has very, very little – and most often nothing at all – to do with the “tightness” or “looseness” of our vaginal openings and vaginas. Genital size, whether we’re talking about penises or vaginas, most typically does not correspond to overall body size. I’m not…

Jako: let’s work backwards with your questions. For starters, her itchiness may have been irritation from either the condom OR the spermicide. Spermicides are essentially dish soap, and genital tissue is delicate, so you can imagine that for a lot of people, it doesn’t feel so good. Since irritation…

It strikes me as a bit odd to consider upping the ante to vaginal intercourse when as things are now, you’re not feeling sexually satisfied, and when you also express strong reservations about it. I’d suggest that before you step it up to add a sexual activity which carries greater risks – of…