communication

If he’s only asking for sex, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s pretty safe to assume he isn’t interested in asking you out. He’s expressed his interest: it’s sex. And if you’ve interest in having a boyfriend, and his only interest is in having someone to have sex with, that’s a recipe for disaster…

We hear a lot – for sound reasons – about how intercourse by itself isn’t very satisfying for a majority of cis women. What we hear less about is that it’s also not always satisfying for men. But just because we hear less about it doesn’t mean it’s not an issue for plenty of men. No one sexual…

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…

Learning to communicate with partners about any topic can be tricky. But working out those conversations about sex can be even more difficult. It’s really good that you want to discuss things and be open with your partner! Here’s the thing though, you can’t make someone talk about anything they…

Well, the first place I’d start is by having a good look at these four pieces here and sharing them with your spouse: Yield for Pleasure Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide First Intercourse 101 From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse Why did I link you to that first piece? In part…

You know, you’re not obliged to use language that you – or she – aren’t comfortable using, and which doesn’t make you or both of you feel good. What phone sex is – just like what other kinds of sex are – can differ a whole lot from couple to couple. And how any two people talk sex with each…

It’s fairly unusual for two people to be on the exact same page in the exact same way at the exact same time. It happens, for sure, but especially as relationships are just forming, it’s realistic to expect that at any given time, any one person may feel a bit more intense or a bit less about it…

In some ways, my answer to this one are going to be similar to an answer I gave earlier today, to a guy asking a very similar question here. Ultimately, this all really depends on the why of his reticence. Has he had any previous experience with another partner with cunnilingus? If so, I’d suggest…

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…