bisexual

Hoo boy. You’ve hit on a lot of big questions here. Some are the kind that can (and sometimes do) lead to knock-down, drag-out fights in the queer community. I’m going to do my best to tread lightly. What’s coming across in your question is that your evaluation of your friends’ identity is more…

Ben shares the moments and realizations that helped him understand his sexual orientation.

Sam shares how denial, internet searches, and queer media were all part of her learning about her sexual orientation.

Ruby shares the experiences that helped them make sense of their queer identity.

Jack talks about the process of figuring out their queer identity.

Welcome to the wonderful world of being a bisexual queer and feeling weird about it! This often means spending our lives moving in and out of environments that are supportive and unsupportive to varying degrees and coming into contact with stereotypes which other people hold in their minds, our own…

Being bisexual entails a very specific struggle that isn’t talked about enough: being believed.

Have all of your straight friends had sex with a guy if they’re girls, or with a girl if they’re guys? If not, how do they know they’re straight? See how silly that is? Hopefully they will, too. It’s not sage to make orientation something anyone needs to “prove” with sex for a whole lot of reasons…

Sometimes when we’re in a really horrible spot, on top of being supported, an unexpected gift can help, too. So, I got the best gift for you right now I could think of and that I had access to. It’s Kate Bornstein! If you don’t know about Kate already, know that she’s one of the most amazing people…

Although I think of myself as South Asian, I was born overseas and have always lived in a Western country. Our family still carries many of our traditional values from back home and we have a large community here. I came out to my parents around 3 years after having my own realizations. The impetus for this was that they had started to look for marriage partners for me.