Sexual Relationships

What I don’t know is how strongly attracted you’ve felt to your boyfriend over the years, well before now. I bring that up because loving someone doesn’t always mean we want to have sex with that person, or that we’re sexually attracted to them. In some ways, sexual chemistry is something separate…

Well, it’s important to remember that bodies are not machines and they’re not exactly the same all the time. Just like many other things in our lives, our desire for sexual activity can wax and wane over time. In other words, everybody goes through periods where they may be interested in sex (of any…

Open, honest communication with your partners is key to healthy, beneficial and satisfying sexual experiences. Need some help learning how to make it happen and keep it flowing?

(Part of Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner) The Not-Just-Yet-Hookup: You’ve hung out with someone once or twice with friends, and wound up spending time alone both times. Now you’re hanging out alone in a private space for the first time, some enjoyable…

(Your question, continued) We continued to talk as “friends”, and I discussed the situation with his mom since he had told his parents what was going on. She explained that we needed to stop spending so much time alone and putting ourselves in such tempting situations, so my boyfriend and I talked…

It’s really normal, as a relationship goes on over time, for sex to take a bit more of a backseat. It’s also common for things to be very high-key sexually when people first start dating. Novelty – something or someone being new – tends to put a high into many people’s sex drives, and when that…

Before we get into anything else, I want to debunk a few things you’ve said here that don’t have any real basis. He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He’s a man. Men don’t automatically want more sex than women. Not all men and all women, not even most men and most women. Mind, we can say that…

Let’s start with the biggest question: is it wrong to have sex with someone you’re not in a capital-R or romantic relationship? You know, all this wrong and right stuff is arbitrary and very personal. I’m sure there are some things for me in my sex and general life that are right as rain for me, but…

I tend to think the best way of saying I love you is…well, saying “I love you.” But if you’re asking if sex can express love? Sure it can. It doesn’t always, but it absolutely always has that potential. People being mutually invested in each other’s comfort and pleasure, each other’s sexual growth…

If you say nothing, it’s unlikely he’ll know. The bodies of people with vaginas really don’t change when they have any kind of sex, unless they become pregnant or contract an infection. Vaginal sex can wear a hymen or partial hymen away more, but so can and do a lot of other things, and at your age…