Sexual Relationships

Oddly enough, I was just pulling up these statistics for something else the other day. Very few people in the world will have but one sexual or romantic partner in the whole of their lifetimes. A census sponsored by the CDC from 1999 to 2002 found that on average, adult men between the ages of 30…

If he’s kissing guys but not you, that might be a sound reason to think about his sexual orientation. But that doesn’t appear to be the case. Our sexual orientation isn’t based on who we do not feel emotional or sexual attraction to, but to who we do have those feelings for. Of course, if we’re not…

Here’s the kicker: there’s nothing we can do or know which will guarantee that a partner will enjoy something we do. Nothing. One facet of readiness for partnered sex has to do with being able to accept that and be okay with it. Another part is knowing that no matter what we do, there are probably…

There is no one way to do things when it comes to sex which will guarantee that a partner sticks around or does not. There also is not any one way men feel or behave when it comes to sex and relationships, nor any one way women do. Generalizations about these kinds of things are very infrequently…

I see a few issues that need to be addressed here. First things first: giving someone any kind of sex they want any time they want it not only will not keep them from having other sex partners, it is – as you’re experiencing – something that doesn’t create a healthy sexual dynamic or feel very…

If you’re not comfortable with anything sexual at any time, then the answer is always to make clear to a partner that you aren’t comfortable with what they want, and wait until you are comfortable with whatever that thing is. If you never are, that’s okay. It’s pretty rare that any two people will…

No, it isn’t. It’s not always true for men either, nor is there a sound reason why it would be more true for women than it would be for men. As well, if women have a female first sex partner, or men a male first sex partner, there also is no golden rule or given about if any of us will have long…

It sounds to me like this is really about you more than it is about him. The person having trouble with his history right now appears to be you, and that’s the person who I think needs to work through this. In other words, you say he won’t open up about this, but I’m not sure I can envision what you…

Some people think they’re ready for sex, but after they do it they find out they’re wrong. You need to ask him how he’s feeling about the experience. He’s obviously got something bothering him. He might think he’s inadequate because neither of you reached orgasm. He might be feeling guilty because…

A partner addressing your worries or nervousness about any kind of sex by telling you you need to “grow up,” needs to grow up WAY more than you do. In a word, if that’s how he responds to this, I’m less worried about him dumping you, and more concerned about you sticking around with the likes of him…