Sexual Relationships

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…

The very first thing I’d say to you is that I hope you know and accept that it’s always anyone’s prerogative to change their mind or their stance when it comes to any aspect of sex and sexuality. Sounds like you do, but just in case you don’t, please know that it’s okay. It’s also okay to realize…

One would hope that if you really liked someone for who they were that whatever their previous sexual experience was or was not would be irrelevant. Mostly, because it really is, save that any life experiences we have are a part of who we are. So, if you like someone, part of what you like about…

No, there is not. The only thing you can do is to ask your partner – giving you’re willing to be forthright and share the same information about yourself – and take her word for it. If you’re asking this because of concerns about sexually transmitted infections, understand that knowing how many…

The exact same way he can tell about you: by asking him. Then you take one another at your word. If you don’t feel you can, that’s another issue entirely. I’m not sure why he needs to have asked you any more than once, unless the two of you aren’t dating exclusively, and are seeing other people. If…

Well, I feel you shouldn’t fake it in the FIRST place, and would say it’s time to stop faking NOW. I know: it can be really hard sometimes to tell a partner we care a lot about that we’re dissatisfied, because we don’t want to hurt their feelings. But faking pleasure or orgasm is one of the best…

If he wants to wait until marriage and you don’t or feel you can’t, then this isn’t the person for you to be pursuing a sexual relationship with, because you two very obviously have strongly conflicting wants and needs. Talking to him isn’t likely to net the results you want, either – if he’s solid…

A young person is very unlikely to need or benefit from hormone therapy to help with sexual desire. And if she’s already been on many different types of birth control pills, it’s relatively safe to say that if hormonal BC is the issue here, then her best bet is to switch to another contraceptive…

Having sex with someone else is really intimate, and we’re all vulnerable in that space, and double for both when we have strong feelings for the person we’re with. So, in order to make our own best choices – including in terms of our emotional safety – we need to understand that. Does this person…

We talk a lot about sexual safety and safer sex here at Scarleteen in terms of your physical health. But what about checking in to see if sex is safe for you and yours emotionally? Taking care of your emotions, looking out for risk factors in advance – not just when they become an existing crisis – and safeguarding yourself, your partners and those around you from needless hurt and harm is just as important as doing what you can to prevent STIs and unwanted pregnancies.