communication

There are a couple of things that I want to talk about here. Obviously, the fact that you’re not enjoying sex with your current partner is the big one, but I also want to address what sounds, from what you’ve written, like an assumption about what it means to be dominant or submissive, and a…

How do you navigate a relationship when one or both partners are dealing with pain?

MojMycha’s question continued: We’ve been together nearly a year and I am his first partner, both romantically and sexually. He only recently discovered he can feel sexual pleasure (besides that brought by orgasm) and he has never felt it in orgasm. I’ve brought him to orgasm by blow jobs and hand…

What’s so scary about asking when someone else may say no? Rejection. Read on to dial down the fear factor and learn to accept no like a pro.

Sometimes sex is amazing. Other times, it’s nice. Then there are the times it sucks. How do you deal, and what’s the hidden value in not-at-all-awesome sex?

How to tame those scary, growly feelings and use them for good.

I am really glad to hear that you have a close relationship with your mom. That can be tricky to maintain throughout the teen years, but for many people having a close relationship with parents is important, so it is awesome that you two seem to be doing great on that front. A big part of the reason…

Hi, bifabulous! Congrats on becoming more aware of your own sexuality! Sadly, you’re right: some people do harbor misconceptions and sexist notions about bisexual women. Racism and sexism added to the mix make the issue even thornier; as you said, there are a lot of harmful stereotypes about Asian…

Having a parent walk in on us when we’re doing something sexual is one of those things that is awkward at best and awful at worst. Our families, while not the only source of messages about sex, are definitely one source that leaves a big impression. So, it’s not surprising that, even though you’ve…

Let’s tackle those apparently “raging” hormones first. Having strong sexual desires is nothing to be ashamed of. People have a range of sex drives, from high to non-existent, and even then, that’s rarely static: in other words, it’s often less a “way people are,” than a way someone is at a given…