Does this count as sexual abuse?
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Does this count as sexual abuse?
He always slapped my rear and touched all around my body. He made sexual comments about me. He had sex with his girlfriend while I was still on the bed with them multiple times. I'm just not sure how to categorize this because I know it was messed up, but I don't feel right calling this anything other than sexual harassment.
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Re: Does this count as sexual abuse?
Hi suomi,
I'm so sorry that person chose to do that to you. I want to start by saying that you are ultimately the one in control of how you choose to describe what happened; we can certainly give you our take on it, but you're the expert on your experiences and feelings.
With all that in mind, this does match the general understanding of sexual assault, particularly when it comes to repeatedly touching you in that way. Too, it sounds like he was functionally involving you in sexual activity you didn't want and didn't consent to by choosing to have sex while you were in bed with him and his girlfriend, which is also a MASSIVE violation of consent. Does that all make sense?
I'm so sorry that person chose to do that to you. I want to start by saying that you are ultimately the one in control of how you choose to describe what happened; we can certainly give you our take on it, but you're the expert on your experiences and feelings.
With all that in mind, this does match the general understanding of sexual assault, particularly when it comes to repeatedly touching you in that way. Too, it sounds like he was functionally involving you in sexual activity you didn't want and didn't consent to by choosing to have sex while you were in bed with him and his girlfriend, which is also a MASSIVE violation of consent. Does that all make sense?
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Re: Does this count as sexual abuse?
Yes! That makes perfect sense. Thank you so much for explaining this to me.
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Re: Does this count as sexual abuse?
You're so very welcome.
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