It's common enough for young people (and all the more so for LGBTQ young people) to be in sexual relationships where they do not feel they can be -- or just do not want to be -- honest with parents about the whole of their relationship, or some parts of it or sex within it.
Obviously, that can be stressful as hell, for a million reasons, and also can make all your relationships feel really unstable, like there's a ticking bomb under them and you just waiting to go off. We've also seen how often sneaking around seems to make it harder for some of our users to make sexual choices they feel good about, to deal with fears or conflicts around sex or their relationships, and to seek out things they need, like contraception or sexual healthcare.
And of course, if and when parents or guardians do find out, and they usually do, you've often got a double-whammy on your hands, where they have bad reactions to what you were hiding, paired with how they feel about you being dishonest with them, and catching you in lying.
Sound familiar? Want some support, including talking about other options so you don't have to deal with sneaking?
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We ask that users looking for general, ongoing emotional support post in this area of the boards, and that you use this space to both ask for, give and receive that support primarily from each other, rather than from our staff and volunteers. As a staff, we simply are often too overextended with all we need to do in running the organization and its services to do that for extended periods of time, and one of our main aims of our community at the boards has always been to facilitate peers to better be there for each other.
Users often report that they have no in-person peers they can talk to or seek support from: we want this to be a space for online peer support and somewhere everyone can get some practice asking for, getting and giving support so that doing it with people in your lives feels more doable.
Please remember that neither staff, volunteers nor your fellow users can provide or replace mental healthcare when that is something you need. Users struggling with issues like anxiety, depression, abuse or physical health issues are strongly encouraged to seek out qualified, in-person help with those issues in addition to peer or staff support.
We ask that users looking for general, ongoing emotional support post in this area of the boards, and that you use this space to both ask for, give and receive that support primarily from each other, rather than from our staff and volunteers. As a staff, we simply are often too overextended with all we need to do in running the organization and its services to do that for extended periods of time, and one of our main aims of our community at the boards has always been to facilitate peers to better be there for each other.
Users often report that they have no in-person peers they can talk to or seek support from: we want this to be a space for online peer support and somewhere everyone can get some practice asking for, getting and giving support so that doing it with people in your lives feels more doable.
Please remember that neither staff, volunteers nor your fellow users can provide or replace mental healthcare when that is something you need. Users struggling with issues like anxiety, depression, abuse or physical health issues are strongly encouraged to seek out qualified, in-person help with those issues in addition to peer or staff support.
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Heather
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