Hookup angry I slept with his friend?

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Hookup angry I slept with his friend?

Unread postby PartySarah » Tue Sep 08, 2020 11:49 pm

So I met a guy over Tinder, and ended up having a one night stand. We exchanged numbers and agreed to meet up again. weeks later I ended hooking up with a different guy, turns out they are friends and the first guy I had a one night stand was angry that I slept with his friend. I tried to explain to the first guy that I wasn’t dating him or his friend and that both were just one night stands. Me and the first guy I slept with are not dating. He’s angry that I slept with his friend, not that I have had sex since I slept with him. I told him I didn’t know that the second guy I slept with was his friend.

I really like both of them. The sex was great and I had a orgasm both times and really want to keep having sex with both causally. :D :D :D How do I approach my first hookup? :?:

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Re: Hookup angry I slept with his friend?

Unread postby Sam W » Thu Sep 10, 2020 8:03 am

Hi PartySarah,

Honestly, I'd strike the first guy from your list of potential casual partners; someone who gets angry with you for that (especially when you had no way of knowing they were friends) is signalling that he's not a great candidate for ongoing sexual activity. As for how to navigate hook-ups in a more general sense, this article has some really solid information: Casual...Cool? Making Choices About Casual Sex.

Too, while it looks like Norway has comparatively low numbers of Covid cases, it still may be best to hold off on hook-ups until the pandemic is passed, or to be incredibly rigorous about talking about Covid precautions with the people you're planning to hook up with to see how careful they're being.

PartySarah
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Posts: 11
Joined: Sat Aug 01, 2020 10:45 pm
My Awesomeness Quotient: I’m a girl that likes to party
My primary language: English
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My sexual identity and orientation: Straight
Location: Norway

Re: Hookup angry I slept with his friend?

Unread postby PartySarah » Thu Sep 10, 2020 11:41 am

Sam W wrote:Hi PartySarah,

Honestly, I'd strike the first guy from your list of potential casual partners; someone who gets angry with you for that (especially when you had no way of knowing they were friends) is signalling that he's not a great candidate for ongoing sexual activity. As for how to navigate hook-ups in a more general sense, this article has some really solid information: Casual...Cool? Making Choices About Casual Sex.

Too, while it looks like Norway has comparatively low numbers of Covid cases, it still may be best to hold off on hook-ups until the pandemic is passed, or to be incredibly rigorous about talking about Covid precautions with the people you're planning to hook up with to see how careful they're being.


I heard somewhere that masks are supposed to be wore while having sex? Is that true? I ask because it sprang to mind when you mention COVID19 precautions.

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Re: Hookup angry I slept with his friend?

Unread postby Sam W » Fri Sep 11, 2020 7:57 am

The latest recommendations around sex and Covid-19 do suggest that wearing a mask can help lower the risk. I actually really like this rundown of what the risks are and what people can do to manage them if they choose to be sexual: https://www.sfcdcp.org/wp-content/uploa ... 5.2020.pdf.


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