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Hey Kyleg2007 -- unfortunately we do not have a doctor amongst our staff or volunteers so we would be unable to tell you exactly what you are experiencing, especially like this. As Sam mentioned before, they could possibly be sweat glands or hair follicles; those do occasionally get blocked and may swell as a result. Testicles also just sometimes have ridges or bumps that are part of the skin in that area. It sounds like you're concerned about it though, so perhaps it may be time to reach out to a healthcare provider for an exam to ease that worry and make sure everything is okay. Before you mentioned that the bumps hurt and itch, so then you went to the doctor - do I have that right? Did they have anything to say about them? Are the bumps causing itching or pain now?
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Hi Carly no I went to the doctors because my testicle was painful the bumps don’t hurt when I went for the exam they wasn’t there and I hadn’t noticed them before they appeared the day after the exam I’m still experiencing pain but it’s not as bad but it’s just a waiting game for the ultrasound I guess
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Okay, if the bumps aren't causing pain or discomfort then they're unlikely to be cause for concern, but you can follow up with your healthcare provider about them if they're worrying you. When you went for that appointment, did the healthcare provider have any recommendations for how to manage the pain while you wait for the ultrasound?
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He said just take paracetamol but it don’t work
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I'm sorry that hasn't been effective in stopping the pain! You may want to call in to the office to see if they have any other ideas for pain management before that appointment.
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Weird question but is it possible for someone to suck there own penis iv always wanted to do it but never can
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Hey Kyleg2007 -- yep, it is possible for some people with penises to suck their own penis. Some is a very important word here; there is no one "correct" way to do it (besides "don't hurt yourself!") because factors like height or erect penis length may play into someone's ability to comfortably reach, and those factors vary so much from person to person.
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Ok I’ll keep that in mind
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Hello, I have a question in porn I always see girls pressing down slightly above the vagina to make them squirt does this same thing work with men i have tried it and it feels more pleasurable but I don’t know if it helps me cum
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Hi Kyleg2007,

If it feels good for you then by all means go for it; increasing your pleasure will often make orgasm easier or more intense. I wouldn't say that this is a particular "thing" that's known to help with orgasm in people with a penis.

Also, just so you know, I wouldn't expect this to be a universal thing that makes ANYONE orgasm, or ejaculate. Porn isn't a very accurate portrayal of sex, not everyone with a vulva squirts or wants to squirt, and even when they do it doesn't always come with an orgasm!
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If I have surgery to get a vagina will I be able to squirt or if not cum more than a normal man does
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Hi Kyleg2007, before I get started on this answer, a quick note on the words you are using, as there is some better vocab you can use here. I assume here that when you say "normal man", you are referring to a person who has a penis and testes, and has a male gender identity. The term for what you are describing is actually 'cisgender man' ('cisgender' can be shortened to 'cis'); using the word "normal" in the way you did infers that people who identify as men who don't have a penis and testes are "lesser" men in some way, which is not at all the case and I'm sure you can get that inferring someone about that can be very hurtful and exclusionary to someone. I'm guessing that you just hadn't heard about the word "cisgender" before, so you didn't mean to actually infer anything like that, so please don't feel bad, and now you have the right word to use from now on when you need it. (Also, "normal" as a concept usually falls down pretty quickly when we look at it - there are so many ways to be human that are all valid that "normal" really isn't a useful concept in a lot of situations).

Moving on to your question, the kind of surgery you are referring to is a vaginoplasty, sometimes called "bottom surgery". The thing with bodies and people is that everyone is different, there is no way to predict exactly how one person will respond to this kind of surgery, particularly one as complex as this. Something that is especially important to consider in this case is that our most important sex organ is actually our brain. If we didn't have all the systems that run from your brain, which are effected by our emotions, stress, hormone levels and lots of other things, our genitals wouldn't do anything on their own. Whilst it is normal to be curious about how bodies work, it is important that we frame our thinking and how we ask questions about people's bodies in a way that acknowledges their humanity and experience. I mention this because depictions of sex and bodies in porn, are often detached from the ideas that there is a person with feelings and experiences involved - it's really different to real life in this way. For instance, in a surgery like this a lot in involved emotionally with transitioning and many medical processes (for example hormone therapy), and the emotional and psychological experiences that people have had of their gender identity and transition. As these are all such individual experiences psychologically and physiologically, there is no way to exactly predict how one person will respond to sexual experiences in the future (which is both a mental and physical experience).

I've introduced some dense concepts here so it is completely okay if this doesn't make sense all at one or it feels like you're missing some background info. These articles explain them more thoroughly:
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What my question was if I have surgery to have a vagina will I squirt or cum more than men Born men can
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As Elise explained, there's no way we can guarantee how your body would react to vaginoplasty. However, keep in mind that people with a vagina squirting is not exactly the same as people with a penis ejaculating. It's all more complicated than your question, but I'm going to go with no, that's not really how that works. Is bottom surgery something you are interested in for any reason outside of wanting to squirt, or is that the only reason you're asking about it?
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I asked because I was curious 2 because i don’t like the size of my penis and I like vaginas
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And more pleasure
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Hey Kyleg2007 -- I'll third what Elise and Sofi have explained: there's no way we can guarantee how your body would react to vaginoplasty, and this includes the ability to squirt or feel more pleasure. If those are the only reasons you'd be interested in the procedure, I don't think getting a vaginoplasty would be a good idea. Talking more about how you're feeling about the body you have currently might be helpful. What don't you like about the size of your penis? What does penis length mean to you?
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I don’t like the size of my penis either
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Recently my penis gets hard randomly in school is this normal
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Hey Kyleg2007 -- yep, this is normal for people with penises to experience, especially when going through puberty. The part of our brains that interprets sexual arousal also interprets a bunch of other emotions, so that can lead to erections when people with penises not particularly aroused by something they're seeing.

Also, is it okay if I ask you about what you wrote in before? We can totally move on from it if you want to, but we're open to talking more if you are. Why don't you like the size of your penis (too small, too big, etc.)? Why is having a particular, "better" size important to you?
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.I don’t like how small it is as iv gotten older it’s gotten smaller
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I think what Carly was asking was more about why you don't like the size; is there a particular thing that worries you about it?
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The size of it is smaller than my pinky finger and when erect just bigger than my middle finger (middle is the biggest and I don’t have long fingers)
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I think you might benefit from this article, which is all about addressing worries about penis size and shape: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown
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I’m not an adult
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