Hi Sam, That makes sense! I wanna thank you for clarifying. I'm still a bit awkward about it at times and had a bit of a struggle talking about a couple of these to my partner. Overall the conversation went well. It also may go hand in hand with shame and the very strict ideals I was brought up on w...

Hey y'all, I find myself more often recently fantasizing about other people that aren't my partner when masturbating. I wouldn't ever cheat and I really like this person. In these fantasies that don't involve them, I'm thinking about the person I met during an out-of-state conference and the sexual ...

I have heard of the TBuddy program! I guess I've steered clear of it or never really thought of it because I feel very awkward. Also on the surface it looks more like a big bro/little bro program tbh. I also feel nervous because a lot of my interactions with other black folk growing up was not being...

Hi Sam, So I do have, at most, two spaces. The thing that sucks is that one space is significantly small like roughly 10 people small so there's not as much contribution, plus people are all suffering and may be dealing with something similar. They may not have the spoons to talk about every little ...

Hello all, HUGE CW: internalized racism, dysphoria and mentions of George Floyd As the title reads I've been having a super rough time with this topic. I've been struggling heavily with gender dysphoria since the events concerning George Floyd and having constant reminders of racism and police bruta...

Hey Alexa!

I'll keep this in mind for my upcoming appointment, especially since I won't know if there will be another one after.

I hope all goes well next week.

Thanks!

Hi Siân! I've been looking toward the "what my body can do" goal for quite some time since I started boxing. It's why I love it so much; it helps me focus on self defense rather than how my body looks. The referral idea will hopefully help! I sometimes feel nervous about how referrals go b...

An Update on Gym related stuff: My dad had some old workout equipment from when he was in fitness. He's now physically removed from my family but his stuff is still here. I slowly started moving some of the equipment to the back porch and ou t of a fit of rage the other night I spent 3 hours disasse...

Hopefully. Until then I'm planning on trying to rejoin a gym I like when the pandemic ends eventually. I did mention it toward the end of our session but we won't be able to go until more detail until next time. I have a lot of other things going on in my life so I went through all of that first bef...

Initially I was weight lifting to gain muscle since I had a strong interest in bodybuilding at the time. I also lifted weights to cope with sadness and my unacknowledged depression. One day when I was still dealing with the rejection from a longstanding crush, I tried to weight lift to cope only to ...

Well Sam, on the readings regarding that toxicity, I've found quite a few but they seem to circulate around fatness (as they rightfully should due to fatphobia in society). Many more visible people discussing EDs in these communities are people who have already recovered or are proving the point tha...

Hi Sam! I'll go ahead and try to focus on it in my next therapy session. I tend to focus on many small things in therapy based around what's happening in my life. I'll talk to my therapist about centering around this topic as something to work on healing. As for challenging, I look at my partner who...

Hey y'all, CW for Fatphobia So I have no clue how relevant this is as this site usually deals with sexual health, relationships, etc. I still want to talk about this anyway. So for a long while, since I was about 13 or 14 I struggled heavily with my body image mixed in with gender dysphoria that was...

Hey Siân, So two things that stuck out to me: 1. I'm very aware of the possibility that my current partner and I are simply not sexually compatible enough and could ultimately end our romantic relationship because of that. However because it's only been 3 month AND we're in the midst of a pandemic I...

Hi Amanda! Well for the time being yes and no. They do at times get in the mood for sex, don't know EXACTLY what causes it but hey if it happens I try to enjoy it as much as possible and memorize everything for sexual fantasies and masturbation later. Our conversations are really productive. We reas...

Ok so I'll give a short description: I'm in a relationship that has been going on for a very nice 3 months. I've been vulnerable, consciously engaged with my new partner and communicating properly. We've both been on the same page for the majority of our relationship with some differences. One of th...

Hey Sam, Just to reassure you this was going on earlier in the month before the progression of the current events. This new person and I are now separated and have been separated since the increasing seriousness of the pandemic. I've been trying to stay well by focusing on hobbies and passing on the...

Hey Siân, So I've given it some thought and this new partner and I have been continuing to have sex. I was struggling because I had to relearn to be comfortable around them since they're a new partner. I like them a lot and I'm really attracted to them it's just the sexual shame relapsed. As for str...

Alright so despite all the mess going on I'm making the best of the situation. Conveniently right before this current situation occurring started to get worse I ended up with a very compatible and very casual partner. We really like each other and are very romantically compatible. We know our sitati...

Hey Mo, I will start to say that overall this was a good thing to hear and read. I'll go in actual order though: I'm happy to know that I'm going in the "right" direction with how I'm directing myself in response to everything. Once I read (and honestly forgot about it until I saw it) the ...

Hey Amanda! I really appreciate the support and reassurance about my upbringing and perceptions of sex growing up. A question that I have that's open to everyone is, how do I go about dating/super casual relationships/new sexual partners? Or at least, how to I cope with these feelings of sexual frus...

Hey Amanda, I like everything that you have to say here. It definitely shows there is some internalized ableism. The more I integrate my autism into my already very marginalized identity, the more I feel like it'll make it "too hard" for people I'm attracted to and/or interested in to date...

Hey Amanda, So after googling the definition to more accurately think of what compassion looks like, I would say that "You didn't know. No one taught you this thing was bad and because you care to take responsibility an change means that you are a good person for putting forth the effort"....

Hi Amanda, This topic has been brought up quite a few times with my therapist and there has never been a specific plan established to help aside from reassurance, reframing and remembering all people make mistakes. If someone I knew were saying the same things I wouldn't really be able to say much e...

Hey rubyted, I'll start out by saying there's a very small chance I could even contact this person. I went to high school with them, graduated two years before them and I don't even remember their last name. So just to clear some things up, I don't feel like I'm owed an apology exactly. What I would...