Hi Cranberrykiller,

Yes, a common side-effect of EC is that it throws off your cycle for a little while. Unfortunately, there's no way to predict when that side-effect will wear off. You simply have to be patient, and maybe do some self-care, in the meantime: Self-Care a La Carte

Hi Kasha,

Depending on the type of question, we may actually be able to help you out here (we've addressed different BDSM topics and issues on different parts of the site). What things were you curious about?

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Hi Cranberry Killer, The first two, small things I wanted to address are, first, that there is nothing you can eat that will induce your period because that's not how periods work (you can read about how they do work here On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation ). The other is that, with EC, there's no ...

Hi Maeve, The white secretion you saw on your finger was just your vaginal discharge, something totally normal to have. And yes, some people find that the sensitivity of their clitoris makes it uncomfortable to touch it. My first suggestion, if you have not tried it already, is to start by taking a ...

Hi Arasia, There are a couple of things that sound like they are contributing to your confusion. The first is that, while there are some common side effects of birth control methods, everybody's body reacts a little differently, meaning that one person could gain weight while another could not while...

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Hi Samham, You mentioned in your other post that you're not sure if you're still a virgin or not. The thing is, virginity is not a concrete, physical thing. It's a social construct, an idea that people made up. Because of that, different people define "losing" their virginity in different ...

Capablehippie, I love Marina and the Diamonds!

Mine are "Don't Carry It All" by the Decemberists ("June Hymn" works too, but only on warm days. On cold days it makes me sad) and This Year" by the Mountain Goats

Hi Bobby, So, here's the thing: if you were to come to the boards with a question about sex, relationships, bodies, or any of the other topics that are our focus area, we would answer that question. Political alignment does not automatically bar you from getting help and support here. But if you wer...

Hi Woodpecker, Breakups, no matter how much they may be needed, can leave you feeling pretty raw. And when the breakup is fresh, it's normal to think back on the good times of the relationship and miss those parts. We've got this article that might be really helpful right now: Getting Through a Brea...

Hi notbella, There's nothing wrong with not enjoying masturbation or masturbating infrequently. In the situation you described, there could be a few things going on. One is that the dryness you felt means you needed a bit more lube, and the dryness itself can cause discomfort which diminishes or kil...

Yep, that's great!

You're welcome :) There's no perfect way to jump in to a conversation. One thing I'd recommend is that when you're introducing yourself to people, casually mention that this is your first time coming to this event. You can also ask people how they found out about the group, where they're from, or wh...

Hi amandat,

No, the lubricant should not affect the results of the test. To check, was the sex you had before the appointment with a barrier (like a condom)?

Hi Jackojacko, As someone who has dealt with social anxiety, I feel you on how stressful an event like this can be. I have two suggestions to start with. The first is to focus less on coming up with things to say and more on asking people questions. That gives you a chance to learn about them and fe...

Hi lucli, If the pill is marketed as emergency contraception, then it should produce the same effect. As Heather said in their first answer, if you want to increase your level of protection, taking emergency contraception sooner rather than later is your best bet. I think this piece may help with so...

Hi Angeldelight,

You can find out how protection occurs during the placebo period here: How do birth control pills really work, even during the placebo period?

And yes, assuming there are no gaps between pill packs, there should be no decrease in effectiveness.

Hi Kittypink,

It's not automatically unsafe, but you'd need to take extra care not to accidentally kick your partner with them on, and be careful of positions that require more balance (as it's easier to get unbalanced and fall/trip in heels).

The simplest route might be to call the store and ask them their policy and what the laws are.

Using porn frequently can sometimes lead to your brain or body getting stuck in a rut (in other words it's a little bored), which could decrease arousal, although that generally happens more with masturbation than partnered sex. As Edith mentioned above, the most likely culprit here is what's going ...

Hi Jk2911, That certainly happens for some people. Too, they can get caught in a cycle where they're anxious about sex, try to be sexual with someone and have that anxiety lower their libido , so they continue to view sex as anxiety producing. However, as mentioned in the article we linked to in you...

Those sound like excellent ideas

Hi Jellowl, You hit it on the nose when you said people get turned on by different things. As long as you're being consensual and taking appropriate safety steps (I generally caution against breath-play, as that can go wrong very easily, especially for people who are just starting out), there's noth...

Got it. I think, then, when you're daydreaming or writing about the future where you've gotten out, that's a really useful space to test-run some of that planning (that's not to say the exercise of dreaming isn't useful all on it's own, because it so is).