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- Thu Aug 03, 2023 4:30 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?
- Replies: 24
- Views: 56515
Re: If painful periods aren’t normal, why do so many people have them?
Yep - many people are undiagnosed and might never even know they have something like endo because they think everyone experiences that much pain during their period, or are just reluctant to bring it up to a healthcare professional and/or would rather just "tough it out". The truth is, as ...
- Thu Jul 27, 2023 6:43 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I get super guilty after pleasuring to someone I look up to
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3879
Re: I get super guilty after pleasuring to someone I look up to
Hi there, welcome to the boards! You worded it just fine, and I want to assure you there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. When we fantasize about someone like a celebrity, we're not really harming them or anyone. There's nothing really unethical about having those thoughts and masturbating to...
- Thu Jul 27, 2023 6:25 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: i miss my family
- Replies: 3
- Views: 7366
Re: i miss my family
Hi swimminginspace, I just wanted to jump in and add that I'm proud of how self aware you are and how you're both acknowledging that this situation sucks while also seeing the positive and not giving up on finding a chosen family. I do hope your new friendship is longlasting but also remember that i...
- Thu Jul 27, 2023 6:17 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I want to get comfortable with wearing revealing clothes
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4122
Re: I want to get comfortable with wearing revealing clothes
That's a great start! Tighter shirts you're comfortable with are a good place to start, and it's okay to push past your previous comfort levels if it's something you know you want and as long as it isn't affecting you/causing you body dysmorphia. The wonderful thing is you can now start exploring di...
- Wed Jul 19, 2023 10:17 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Confused About Relationship
- Replies: 12
- Views: 11444
Re: Confused About Relationship
Hi ZionP, I'm just jumping in to let you know we're a bit backed up today but will get back to you tomorrow!
- Wed Jul 19, 2023 10:14 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: I kinda need help with everything
- Replies: 24
- Views: 92922
Re: I kinda need help with everything
You're right in your frustrations about the dance, those rules are unfair and don't help your feelings of wanting to be perceived the same as everyone else. Society does "other" queer people, as you have unfortunately found out firsthand, and it's a valid thing to be frustrated and upset a...
- Wed Jul 19, 2023 9:26 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Girlfriend says she'll lose sexual attraction for me if we open our relationship
- Replies: 5
- Views: 23747
Re: Girlfriend says she'll lose sexual attraction for me if we open our relationship
So there are a few options here, and while yes, perhaps it is best to discuss whether the relationship should continue or not (given that you two want different things), I don't want to go that route yet unless it's what you want. It sounds like you're still fully in it and wanting to find a way to ...
- Wed Jul 19, 2023 8:52 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: My (16M) girlfriend (18F) is scared that she might hurt me in the future
- Replies: 6
- Views: 6302
Re: My (16M) girlfriend (18F) is scared that she might hurt me in the future
Hi XLoL2007, welcome to the boards! It sounds like you care deeply about her and you've been giving this your all. Sometimes we see a future with someone and think they're our person, but it doesn't work out if they're not feeling the same way. From what you're describing it sounds like she might ha...
- Tue Jul 11, 2023 5:19 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I talk to my mam about sexual stuff
- Replies: 5
- Views: 9022
Re: How do I talk to my mam about sexual stuff
Hi there, welcome to the boards! In order to give you the best advice we can, I want to ask a couple questions for context, if that's okay. First, have you ever had ANY conversations about this kind of topic? Is this the kind of thing you think she'd be open minded about discussing? In the meantime,...
- Tue Jul 11, 2023 5:15 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behaviours,
- Replies: 18
- Views: 35886
Re: Did I have sexual OCD or sexual compulsive behaviours as a child? If not, is there a name for the cluster of behavio
May I ask what your definition of innocence is, and if you feel like it fits you? You mentioned in a previous post you like giving off that "innocence" vibe, is that because you want others to perceive you that way/it already is how you think they perceive you, or how you actually want the...
- Tue Jul 11, 2023 3:57 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: I had two meltdowns today
- Replies: 23
- Views: 31615
Re: I had two meltdowns today
Hi Jay27, I hope it's okay if I jump in. I am also autistic and I can relate to the anxiety you're describing <3 It makes me glad to hear you were able to shower and take your meds and eat, even if just a sandwich - any food is better than no food! It's okay if you can't get any work done today. If ...
- Mon Jul 10, 2023 2:04 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: smelly cat~
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3291
Re: smelly cat~
Hi acearohanda, have you brought this up to a gynecologist or any healthcare professional before? I know you mentioned it's been like this forever, but I wonder if it could be something other than your natural scent. Sometimes it's a matter of an unbalanced pH, although I'm glad to hear you're not u...
- Mon Jul 10, 2023 1:32 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: i’ve rethought my thoughts on having sex with other people and im having issues
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2381
Re: i’ve rethought my thoughts on having sex with other people and im having issues
Hi SillyMcGoof, hope it's okay that I jump in. I think that last point you made is the most important one, and it's great that you realized that. Sometimes we just aren't in the right mental space for stuff like dating and sex, and that's okay - it's way better that we acknowledge it and work on it,...
- Tue Jul 04, 2023 3:36 pm
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Hole too small?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3159
Re: Hole too small?
Hi there, welcome to the boards! This sounds like it's been frustrating, I'm sorry you've been dealing with pain and discomfort. Sex of any kind should not be painful, so when it is, it's a sign something else is going on. Often it is what you mentioned already - that the person is not relaxed, comf...
- Tue Jul 04, 2023 3:16 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: identity troubles
- Replies: 8
- Views: 16077
Re: identity troubles
Makes total sense! I'm glad you all were able to figure that out and feel more confident
- Mon Jul 03, 2023 2:15 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: horny? dont know her..
- Replies: 25
- Views: 32556
Re: horny? dont know her..
Hi acearohanda, Heather is OOTO now and until Wednesday, but I didn't want you to think we forgot about you. They'll send you some resources when they're back, so for now can you provide me with some more info - mostly just where you're located (county and zip code), and any other info you think is ...
- Mon Jul 03, 2023 1:19 pm
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: I kinda regret wishing he have a crush on someone else
- Replies: 3
- Views: 5623
Re: I kinda regret wishing he have a crush on someone else
Hi there. What you're describing makes a lot of sense, it's valid for you to be feeling conflicted. You're a good friend for being happy for him; but of course, if you like him, it's normal to feel sad too. It can be confusing to feel both things at the same time, but you're doing a good job at sepa...
- Wed Jun 28, 2023 11:21 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: I feel weird about having relationship anxiety
- Replies: 12
- Views: 9809
Re: I feel weird about having relationship anxiety
That sounds like the route to take next time, because truly, if you're uncomfortable, it won't be a good experience for either of you. It sounds like your partner is very supportive and kind, so it would be great if you can talk about it with her and that way next time - if it happens again - you ca...
- Wed Jun 28, 2023 11:11 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: i feel broken and defective
- Replies: 11
- Views: 3169
Re: i feel broken and defective
Makes sense, and it sounds like you've tried different things already. I'm glad you're open to trying to write things down, I do think that might be helpful! I also wonder if fantasizing on your own doesn't work, what about a different type of sexual media than the porn you usually watch? There are ...
- Wed Jun 28, 2023 11:00 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: I’m questioning my gender for the first time in my life and I’m so scared, confused, and anxious, I really need advice
- Replies: 10
- Views: 63522
Re: I’m questioning my gender for the first time in my life and I’m so scared, confused, and anxious, I really need advi
I totally understand what you're saying, and the truth is 14 is a rough age for a LOT of people. You feel like you're not a kid anymore, but also not an adult yet, and you're in kind of a limbo. Do you have access to mental health resources like a therapist? It might be good to have a professional t...
- Wed Jun 28, 2023 9:49 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: horny? dont know her..
- Replies: 25
- Views: 32556
Re: horny? dont know her..
It's sounding to me like one of the things causing frustration is that the act of masturbation is being framed around the orgasm part of it, which is just one part of it (and to many people, not even part of it at all). It would help to see masturbating as a fun and/or sexy act that helps you relax ...
- Wed Jun 28, 2023 8:56 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: i feel like i'm going insane
- Replies: 7
- Views: 3319
Re: i feel like i'm going insane
I'm so sorry you've been in situations you didn't 100% want to go through and regret afterwards, sex should be a certain YES and not carry guilt or regret after. Has this been the case with one specific person, or with every sexual encounter? As for your parents being disappointed, is this something...
- Mon Jun 26, 2023 1:32 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: horny? dont know her..
- Replies: 25
- Views: 32556
Re: horny? dont know her..
So I think it's important to mention that not everyone else feels those things - in fact, tons of people have never had an orgasm at all, or have never felt "horny" either. On top of that, those things feel different for everyone. The way they're typically described is just sort of a gener...
- Wed Jun 21, 2023 9:20 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: struggles regarding hrt
- Replies: 36
- Views: 7168
Re: struggles regarding hrt
Ah, I can see why that is a concern. Do you think it's a conversation he would ever be open to having, if you want to be able to tell him? Or if you don't, which is also okay, do you think he would even ask or bring it up?
- Wed Jun 21, 2023 9:09 am
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: Travelling to lgbt+ hostile countries
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6362
Re: Travelling to lgbt+ hostile countries
Hi Theansweris42, it's nice hearing from you! Congrats on the invite, it sounds like you're really a role model and that's awesome. Unfortunately you're right, traveling while Queer can be scary and sometimes risky. I don't have experience traveling to either of those countries or any similar, but I...