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- Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:19 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Kids Kondoms
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4670
Re: Kids Kondoms
Hey there idk anymore, If external condoms don't fit your penis well, I would recommend your partner using internal condoms. They can be inserted into the vagina as-is, or you can remove the ring and insert them into the anus as well. This will protect you both without anything being tailored to you...
- Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:13 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: What's The Point
- Replies: 6
- Views: 8806
Re: What's The Point
Hey idk anymore,
If you don't want to share this with your therapist, I would recommend checking in with other professionals, like those at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255. They have a lot of experience helping folks through self-harm.
If you don't want to share this with your therapist, I would recommend checking in with other professionals, like those at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255. They have a lot of experience helping folks through self-harm.
- Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:12 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused
- Replies: 11
- Views: 10595
Re: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused
Hey LovePineapples! Please do think about what Sian said and the article she shared. We're always here to chat through it! Here's a section on trust from that same article, since you've spoken about his trouble with trusting: Trust: Is my friend or partner trustworthy, and do I trust them? Can they ...
- Sun Dec 20, 2020 8:03 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: About hook up
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1484
Re: About hook up
Hey Pan, It is not wrong to see a sex worker, and you are not a bad person for seeking the help of a sex worker. Using condoms every time is a great way to protect yourself from STIs! It isn't guaranteed, however -- there is still some chance that you can transmit STIs when using condoms. That's why...
- Sun Dec 13, 2020 9:38 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
- Replies: 51
- Views: 12392
Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Just here to validate that it's hard to find the "right time" to re-establish boundaries or have a defining-the-relationship convo with someone! The best we can do is get to know our wants/needs as well as possible and express them with care <3
- Sun Dec 13, 2020 9:33 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity
- Replies: 2
- Views: 7563
Re: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity
That's awesome, bikinksterboy. I also feel like I've had the time to try things out with my appearance/presentation -- and to do so privately, since I'm not leaving the house much. I've really enjoyed it and I think it's made me more comfortable in my body overall.
- Sun Dec 13, 2020 9:31 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
- Replies: 20
- Views: 118960
Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
In my experience, when I have trouble getting out of my head, it's been helpful to have on some background music or something -- something that's minorly distracting, but that I don't have to pay much attention to (like porn). I have ADHD, so having some minor stimulation for my brain helps me enjoy...
- Thu Dec 10, 2020 3:07 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
- Replies: 51
- Views: 12392
Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
I just want to reaffirm that it is not unempathic or cold to have boundaries! And, as Heather said, "forgetting boundaries" is not an excuse -- they are important and we need to set reminders for ourselves/rework our habits to meet people where they're at, comfortably. These things also go...
- Sun Dec 06, 2020 8:08 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
- Replies: 51
- Views: 12392
Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Hey Sabine, A fellow non-monogamous person here -- just wanted to throw my two cents in! I'm hearing a lot of comparisons between California and Irish girl, wondering which one is a better fit, who should get more of your time, etc. It's important to remember that in nonmonogamy, we are not burdened...
- Sun Dec 06, 2020 7:54 am
- Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
- Topic: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?
- Replies: 4
- Views: 19603
Re: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?
Hey eatyourgreens, THIS: I kind of thought I had to know and be sure before talking about it with others. This is a realization I have all the time when I'm trying to make difficult choices! It's so good to use your support network to air out thoughts, concerns, dreams, plans -- all of it. I hope do...
- Sun Nov 29, 2020 12:36 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: My dad won't let me buy new underwear?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3743
Re: My dad won't let me buy new underwear?
Hey there bluemoon, I'm sorry that your dad isn't helping you access comfortable clothing. If I'm honest, it sounds like his unwillingness to help you out stems from his own insecurity and/or discomfort. In any case, where this refusal comes from is his problem, not yours -- you don't have to figure...
- Sun Nov 29, 2020 11:09 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Just BDSM in general
- Replies: 6
- Views: 4931
Re: Just BDSM in general
Hey there ASelfAwareFruit, First of all, I wanna say that we at Scarleteen very much recognize that beginning to understand your sexual desires, satisfactions, etc. in your adolescence is perfectly normal -- so I wouldn't worry about whether it's "okay" to think about this at your age or n...
- Wed Nov 25, 2020 10:54 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: I am Trans and Relationships are difficult.
- Replies: 5
- Views: 5808
Re: I am Trans and Relationships are difficult.
Hey l3af400, hope you don't mind me jumping in! Cool. So it sounds like you don't particularly derive pleasures from others, is that right? A way of rephrasing that is that you have the autonomous ability to provide your own pleasure -- which is great. Like, you can find enjoyment on your own indepe...
- Sun Nov 22, 2020 9:20 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Being told I chose to be sexually assaulted when I went through sexual coercion and assault
- Replies: 18
- Views: 18097
Re: Being told I chose to be sexually assaulted when I went through sexual coercion and assault
Hey Jess99, I hear that. As someone also living with PTSD from an abusive relationship, sometimes having healthy relationships can actually remind me of my abuse more because the contrast in the ways I've been treated is so stark. I'm glad that you're practicing breathing through it. Do you and your...
- Sun Nov 22, 2020 9:05 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Sexual outlets
- Replies: 23
- Views: 10171
Re: Sexual outlets
Hey BuddyBoi21, I just want to highlight something you said in your last post that seems like a theme here: I think I need to unlearn that my partner will be fine if I tell them honestly how I feel. If you read similar past posts of mine along with this one, you'll learn that my partner has had some...
- Sun Nov 22, 2020 8:30 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Straight or bi?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 8002
Re: Straight or bi?
Hey trentboi123, I know there's a lot of social pressure to define your sexuality, but I would encourage you to see what attracts you and what feels good without pressuring yourself to decide *right now* what your sexuality really is. In my experience, defining my sexuality has come more naturally w...
- Sun Nov 22, 2020 8:20 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Masturbation
- Replies: 9
- Views: 7560
Re: Masturbation
Hey trentboi123, Masturbating multiple times a day is totally normal for someone your age. You're getting to know your body! We have a great article called Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation that has some advice on whether you're masturbating too often: Generally, it’s a pretty simple formula: I...
- Sun Nov 22, 2020 8:13 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: weird twitching?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2448
Re: weird twitching?
Hey there!
Your abdomen is a huge set of muscles, so like any other muscle, it can get jumpy when it's been worked hard/is tired/is tight/ etc. I wouldn't worry. Of course, if this goes on for a long time or begins to hurt you, I would always suggest checking in with your provider just to be safe!
Your abdomen is a huge set of muscles, so like any other muscle, it can get jumpy when it's been worked hard/is tired/is tight/ etc. I wouldn't worry. Of course, if this goes on for a long time or begins to hurt you, I would always suggest checking in with your provider just to be safe!
- Sun Nov 22, 2020 8:09 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: Hair and Presentation
- Replies: 37
- Views: 52743
Re: Hair and Presentation
Hey Raffles, I hear that. I feel like I'm always chasing the appearance I think I want for myself -- and once I settle on an aesthetic, I've already outgrown it and have to keep evolving. Every time you learn something about your presentation -- even when it's something you don't [/b] like -- you're...
- Fri Sep 25, 2020 12:11 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Girth or Length?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3180
Re: Girth or Length?
Hey TS_6249, Sorry to be a broken record, but the positions that work best and are comfiest are gonna depend on you and your partner(s). Communicating openly about when they are or aren't comfortable and what feels best to you both is going to be the best way to know what kinds of positions suit you.
- Fri Sep 25, 2020 12:09 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Quick Query
- Replies: 8
- Views: 4124
- Fri Sep 25, 2020 11:15 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore (update)
- Replies: 9
- Views: 23341
Re: Masturbation doesn't feel that good anymore (update)
Hey Sky H,
Great! Let us know if it helps.
Great! Let us know if it helps.
- Fri Sep 25, 2020 9:40 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Not feeling good about myself
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4687
Re: Not feeling good about myself
Hey Daisy, I'm glad you found us! It sounds like you're starting from a strong place -- you had pleasurable, consensual experiences with two people. I hear you wanting your privacy -- have you talked with each boy about wanting to keep your histories private? Are there other reasons you feel regretf...
- Sun Sep 20, 2020 7:56 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: Coming out as agender?
- Replies: 21
- Views: 13824
Re: Coming out as agender?
I'm really sorry that you had such an awful experience. That's not fair and you didn't deserve it. I would hate to set up a dichotomy where you expect to either be rejected or misgendered by the people you come out to. I know that our bad experiences can make us fear that those are our only options,...
- Sun Sep 20, 2020 7:29 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Black lump on labia minora
- Replies: 2
- Views: 2072
Re: Black lump on labia minora
Hey kumarakadp, Welcome to the boards! Unfortunately, we are not able to make diagnosis over the internet. So the short answer is that making an appointment with your healthcare provider is a great next step. In person, they will be able to give you way more info. Maybe it's an ingrown hair? Maybe i...