I can say with absolute certainty that nobody's love is worthless [/i]. And that certainty derives from the fact that no one person is worthless. I'm sorry that your mom said that to you and made you feel like you shouldn't give your love freely as felt good to you. I am also someone who has loved v...

Hey dudehelp, I just want to start out by saying that there is no normal way to be attracted to bodies, and the attractions you've mentioned (primarily to bellies) make total sense. Stomachs are great! Genital attraction, or lack thereof, is different for everyone as well. You mentioned that you fee...

Sex is and should be defined by the participants of the act(ions) and can be whatever they decide is sex.

I *love* this, sunadonis!

I just want to reassure you that there isn't one "right" way to experience arousal. A lot of people experience pleasure from clitoral stimulation primarily or alone. As for subtle versus intense arousal, I think that's pretty subjective and you're not experiencing arousal the "wrong w...

I don't think I saw Booksmart here -- it's SO good and cute!!! And on Hulu!

Oooh, great question, asunflower!

The films that come to mind for me are Pariah (2011), Moonlight (2016), and Tangerine (2015). These are definitely not happy-go-lucky films, though -- so I'd love to hear other folks' suggestions!

Hi Hel, It sounds like you like this guy, and also like you get along well with your new friend. I'm glad! But I'm seeing that this girl's feelings might be making you feel like you are in competition with her for his affections. Can you say a little bit more about where that competitive feeling com...

Hey girlplayer, This is *such* a good question. I think the answer is so individual, too -- how I experience love may feel different from how you do. Our founder, Heather Corinna, wrote this awesome Love Letter to look at what love means. Here is a great excerpt from that letter: If you're asking me...

Hi Hel,

Okay! If you want to talk more about that discomfort, we are still here to think through it together.

Hi strawberryeyes, That bump isn't anything to worry about -- it sounds like you've found your clitoris! Our article Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus, and More has a great introduction to the clit. Here's an excerpt: Looking at the vestibule, between those inner labia from the top d...

Hey Kittypink, Polyamory & open relationships can be beautiful things -- that's how I have chosen to live my life & I'm always down to talk about why. However! I would never recommend choosing polyamory because you're in a place of self-deprecation. You are a whole and beautiful and wonderfu...

Hey Buddyboi, I get the fixation on whether things are going to end, and I agree with Jacob that it's important to listen to what those feelings are telling you -- even if that doesn't mean ending your relationship. Those kinds of feelings can be very important moments for figuring out your needs in...

Hi User0811, First, I want to say that I'm sorry that you are living with PTSD and that it's affecting your relationship to your body. I know that can be so hard to navigate. I want to affirm that you did not do anything wrong, and certainly didn't "vandalize" your own sexual desires! PTSD...

Hi there Lola43, What you're describing (manual sex) does not present a pregnancy risk, and is low STI risk. I would recommend reading over our guide, Can I Get Pregnant or Get or Pass On an STI From That? . Maybe even read it/share it with your partner! It sounds like this topic carries a lot of an...

Hi Liltimmyt, We don't mean to worry you; just to make sure you're aware of what to look for when getting STI tested/asking your partners about their testing history. We have an article that outlines which STIs can be detected by which tests (e.g. swab, blood): Testing, Testing . If you're worried a...

Hi there, MuchShy! It makes sense that if you wash away your menstrual blood, it will be harder to insert a tampon (the menstrual blood usually acts as lubricant for the tampon for a painless insertion). I would recommend one of two things: either use a little bit of lube to insert the tampon after ...

Hi CatMommy, It's hard to say whether different STIs would survive via the "turkey-baster" route, and it is also dependent on whether the ejaculate remains at body temperature between ejaculation and insemination, so I would still recommend the precautions that Mo referenced. Further, I ha...

Hi Annabanane, Yes, varying clit size is normal! It is also perfectly normal for more of the clitoris to be internal than externally visible. It sounds like you know how to make your body feel good, and that's what's most important! Also, to your earlier question -- yes, is it possible for you to fe...

Hey Lande! I'm going to do my best to address all of this! <3 1. Admittedly, washing your hands thoroughly is going to be your best bet. There are some soaps out there that are specifically advertised as "odor-neutralizing" that may be helpful, but I haven't used them myself so I can't att...

Hey Okie, I'm so sorry that your "no" was ignored and that you were pressured into sex. That is never okay. I'm glad that you no longer feel as though this was your fault -- it absolutely wasn't! His behavior was manipulative and coercive and that's not on you at *all.* Thank you for shari...

Hey Aly! Okay, a couple of things -- I'm not an Implant user, but also am a sexual health counselor. I AM, however, a very long-time user of the IUD, so I'll talk a bit about that, too! It is possible for your period to lighten or disappear with either the Implant or the hormonal (NOT the copper) IU...

Hey Sky,

That sounds normal enough to me. Pulling back on the foreskin can tug at places where it starts attaching to the shaft, which may hurt a bit. However, if you have ongoing pain or want a second opinion, you can always talk with your medical provider. <3

BuddyBoi,

I hear that re: being raised with shame. If you ever want to talk through that further, we're here!

Hey A.Feind1983, The question of what your sexual orientation is is entirely up to you. It sounds like attraction to women may certainly factor into it, but you get to decide how that defines your identity. Want to take a look at our article, Q is for Questioning? I think it might be really helpful ...

Hey Ciaraj, First of all, let me congratulate you on finding a flirtation opportunity in quarantine! :lol: That's a feat. Of course, I don't know her and can't come to any definitive conclusions about whether she's flirting with you or not. But if I boil it down, it looks like our questions are -- c...