good question! hmm.... well, I guess I would think that they wouldn't say something like "you're a really great friend, MusicNerd" and then go out with other people they actually have a romantic interest in lol

mm, yeah that makes sense. thanks, Sam W.

hmm, maybe one day my friendly interest won't be perceived solely as platonic lol

Hmm... see, in theory that all makes sense to me, but like I don't even know how to show interest in someone in-person without being a tongue-tied brain-farting mess. lol Like, I know how to be warm and friendly and become friends with someone, but anything more than that feels like trying to commun...

So yeah, didn't really know where to put this, but uh...... yeah, how does that whole flirting thing work? Basically, I have anxiety mainly in dating and flirting-type situations. So, whenever I'm in a situation where I notice someone cute who may or may not want to talk to me, I usually don't have ...

Well, I identify as a woman and am cis, and there're definitely some privileges that come with being cis that I continually try to educate myself on regularly. But when it comes to how I feel based on gender expression: I feel like I present myself a lot more femininely than how society would label ...

This is a really interesting question, Sam! Hmm, well.... I personally think I feel sexual desire "too much" or more than the average bear, especially for someone who's never gone past making out with anyone (which can make me judge myself at times, but I'm working on not doing that)... Bu...

Hey Redskies! Thanks so much for your really informative and helpful response. I totally forgot that my mom works in human resources for a company in the US. I asked her what the typical treatment is of people who make it known that they have a disability before they're hired, and she told me that e...

Hey y'all! So, I'm currently filling out applications for internships and on one of them it asks if you have a disability. One of the illnesses mentioned on the list of disabilities was "major depression". The thing is, I do have depression, and even though I'm privileged enough to be on m...

[Trigger Warning: cissexism, bullying, strong gender binarism] Found a really striking music video on tumblr called "Little Game" by BENNY. One of my friends posted this on hir tumblr and I was totally floored: http://youtu.be/WNr3x1kVVEc I can't believe that an artist who's only 15 years...

Hey Nite Hawk! So, I can't 100% guarantee that this will be your experience, but I could tell you about when I got my tattoo over the summer. :) I actually have a tattoo on my upper inner arm, and tbh: even though people told me it was gonna feel like cat scratches, I didn't believe them because it ...

Ooh~ Okay, I'll def check it out! Thanks so much, Heather!!

Hey Heather! Thanks for all of your awesome recommendations!! :) OMG, I've actually come across that Mia McKenzie essay recently! The two extremes of racism in dating she addresses in that piece (esp. anti-black racism in online dating) really spoke to me, and are things I've been really struggling ...

Hi there! So, does anyone here have any book recommendations that deal with advice on dealing with racism in queer dating (especially for queer women)? I haven't had any luck in finding books on that topic. Thanks!

Well, let me first clarify that when I say "love" in this context, I mean romantic love. Sometimes I have these existential musings (sorry, idk how to make that sound less pretentious lol) where I think back on my own experiences and those of others and think up different questions. In thi...

This is a great idea for a topic, DulceDiva! Hmm... Well, as someone who's never been in a romantic/sexual relationship, I've had quite a bit of time to think about the pros of being single. *cough* 20 years *cough* lol :D I can go where I want, whenever I want, and I don't have to worry about coord...

Hey there! I was MusicNerd on the old boards, and I still am now.