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Re: Period
Hi Itsangie09, It sounds like you've been taking wise precautions. Using a condom AND pulling out as a backup method means that it's extremely unlikely that you could have become pregnant. In fact, the two together are 96-99% effective at preventing pregnancy . So like Al said, if you've taken the t...
- Thu Apr 02, 2020 10:14 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
- Replies: 217
- Views: 77964
Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Hi Optimistic, Your posts reminded me of this quote/image: " Healing is not linear. " When trying to move on from trauma, loss, and pain we often have an expectation of "well, I'm working on it, so I should continuously get better," or "time is passing so things must improve...
- Mon Mar 30, 2020 9:48 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Is it possible for the withdrawal bleed to be late even when on birth control?
- Replies: 4
- Views: 2014
Re: Is it possible for the withdrawal bleed to be late even when on birth control?
Hi Juliaho90, We don't have the capacity to answer pregnancy anxiety questions - more about that policy here: Pregnancy Fear and Anxiety Policy The Pregnancy Panic Companion can help you determine whether or not you're likely to be at risk of pregnancy. From what you've told me, you aren't. You can'...
- Thu Mar 26, 2020 10:21 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
- Replies: 217
- Views: 77964
Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Hi 0PT1M15T1C, I've been through the same practice and training of mindfulness to get through flashbacks and traumatic experiences, and I sympathize with you! I didn't really understand the point at first or how it was supposed to help me. Over time I've started to better understand it and maybe I c...
- Tue Mar 24, 2020 10:32 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
- Replies: 217
- Views: 77964
Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?
I'm a big fan of "yes, and" thoughts. We're complicated creatures and we can have a lot of conflicting or opposing feelings and situations happening at the same time, and sometimes just accepting the complexity can put us a bit more at ease. Yes, you're experiencing all of this frustration...
- Tue Mar 24, 2020 10:21 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: I'm still having nightmares about it.
- Replies: 4
- Views: 5970
Re: I'm still having nightmares about it.
Hi KittyPink, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hear you saying you are blaming yourself, but I want you to know that this was NOT your fault. Abuse is never the fault of victims and survivors. This person should have respected you when you said that you only wanted to cuddle and make out. It's a...
- Tue Mar 24, 2020 10:05 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: any asexuals that have advice? :)
- Replies: 28
- Views: 16844
Re: any asexuals that have advice? :)
Jumping in to second (third?) the "there is no 'normal'" sentiment! Or, alternatively, EVERYONE is normal. Dominant cultural messaging (what we see in media, what we hear from others, etc) wants us to believe that there's a kind of "normal" sexuality, but it's a big lie. Human se...
- Mon Mar 23, 2020 10:09 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Research project - AIDs crisis
- Replies: 6
- Views: 5399
Re: Research project - AIDs crisis
Hi 0PT1M15T1C, I'm so glad you've developed a passion for writing, and found this topic that is fascinating and meaningful to you. Heather is a little busier these days because they're working on a new book, but when they're available they may be able to stop in and give you some personal insight if...
- Mon Mar 23, 2020 9:58 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: ..............Is anyone there?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 2060
Re: ..............Is anyone there?
Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...
- Mon Mar 23, 2020 9:56 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Online dating, worth it?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 2114
Re: Online dating, worth it?
Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...
- Mon Mar 23, 2020 9:56 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Is casual dating ok?
- Replies: 8
- Views: 3264
Re: Is casual dating ok?
Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...
- Mon Mar 23, 2020 9:56 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Help
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2082
Re: Help
Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...
- Mon Mar 23, 2020 9:54 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Struggling with dating apps
- Replies: 37
- Views: 11152
Re: Struggling with dating apps
Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock the other threads and ask that you talk to us in this thread going forward. I think that will be more productive and will also le...
- Mon Mar 23, 2020 9:45 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: I want to use eye pencil but I can't cause I'm a guy
- Replies: 4
- Views: 3333
Re: I want to use eye pencil but I can't cause I'm a guy
Hi IAmScared, How about, just to start out with, you try doing at home at night time? If you want to take photos and feel like they could be kept safely/privately on your phone or another device, you could have a fun photoshoot with yourself. If you don't feel like that would be safe, you could take...
- Thu Mar 19, 2020 10:46 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
- Replies: 15
- Views: 4715
Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Hi Bubbles, I think the other volunteers in the thread have already given you some pretty good advice about how you could go about talking to your friend, which I think still applies even though you may not see her in person due to COVID-19 changing things up. And I think that's also something impor...
- Mon Mar 16, 2020 9:30 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: this is about abortion
- Replies: 6
- Views: 2518
Re: this is about abortion
Also, I want to add that I think it's really lovely that you are wondering how best to support your sister, fading_west. <3 Like Sam said, the best thing to do is to simply ask. "Thank you for sharing this with me. How can I support you?" "Is this something you want to talk about more...
- Mon Mar 16, 2020 9:26 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Crowdsourcing Boredom Busters for Social Distancing
- Replies: 8
- Views: 11112
Re: Crowdsourcing Boredom Busters for Social Distancing
I'm going to catch up on the stack of books I've been meaning to read! This year I set myself a 20 in 2020 reading challenge. Right now I'm four books into my 20, so I bet I can get ahead.
- Mon Mar 16, 2020 9:23 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
- Replies: 217
- Views: 77964
Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Since it seems they've already made the decision to close school down for the remainder of the term, I imagine the constable might have the space to work with you on this soon. Given that it's a matter of your safety, they should respond. Maybe you could write to them this week? I think Sam is out f...
- Mon Mar 09, 2020 12:07 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: How to flirt
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1423
Re: How to flirt
Hi wolfcub, We've got several articles about dating on the spectrum and about flirting! How Do I Tell a Date I'm Autistic? This one also includes some info about online dating, specifically. Communication includes not just flirting but also becoming aware of and expressing your needs: Expressing You...
- Mon Mar 09, 2020 11:58 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Struggling with dating apps
- Replies: 37
- Views: 11152
Re: Struggling with dating apps
Hi wolfcub, That's a pretty common challenge for many people. When there are so many people on these apps, sometimes people just spend time matching but not really connecting with each other. Can we talk a bit more about your lack of motivation? It sounds like maybe the apps aren't a fun or enjoyabl...
- Mon Mar 09, 2020 11:55 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: It’s time to come off birth control
- Replies: 11
- Views: 5226
Re: It’s time to come off birth control
Hi Kela, Great question re: different activities that don't require penetration! There's SO much you can do together, and I think a lot of these activities might actually be more fun/pleasurable than penetrative sex. Here's an big ol' list to get you started: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advic...
- Mon Mar 02, 2020 5:21 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)
- Replies: 21
- Views: 6264
Re: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)
Hi BuddyBoi21, You know, I've talked myself out of creating things so many times in my life because I thought I'd be embarrassed of what I made. Visual art, poetry, songwriting, writing in general. And to be honest? I'm kicking myself now for not honoring that desire to create and express myself. I ...
- Thu Feb 27, 2020 12:39 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: MtF Masturbate
- Replies: 4
- Views: 9446
Re: MtF Masturbate
Hi CaptainWildRose!
I hope someone answers your question soon, so here's a bump for this thread. I myself am not trans, but wanted to let you know that I'm also looking for some resources to try and answer your question.
I hope someone answers your question soon, so here's a bump for this thread. I myself am not trans, but wanted to let you know that I'm also looking for some resources to try and answer your question.
- Thu Feb 27, 2020 12:38 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)
- Replies: 21
- Views: 6264
Re: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)
Hi BuddyBoi21! Sorry for the delay. I’m going to try and address what you wrote, but if I leave anything out that you want to talk more about, please let me know! :) Thank you for sharing more of your story of sexual development. Much of what you’ve described is actually pretty common for many peopl...
- Thu Feb 27, 2020 12:03 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Cock rings
- Replies: 14
- Views: 8632
Re: Cock rings
Hi transfemandgay! Hmm, that does sound tricky, since silicone or other stretchy cock rings are usually pretty plain. Is there any way you could get a basic ring and dress it up? Maybe you could spray paint it gold, or add a removable piece of jewelry somehow. Or maybe there's a metal piece of jewel...