Relationships are a lot of give-and-take; you do have to compromise on many things, but don't always have to sacrifice much. It sounds like sometimes you feel you must sacrifice things like sleep and self-care in order to be attentive to her, which isn't the case. Of course if she needs you urgently...

That makes sense to tell them because it is basically true, you're just not giving out personal details about it. I think they will be supportive and understanding.<3

I'm glad to hear your friends have been supportive! In regards to your family, I think it's okay to leave most details out when you tell them. I'm not sure if they're the type to grill you and ask you a lot of follow-up questions, but I suggest simply telling them you wanted different things and he ...

Hi confusedhuman, I definitely agree that's a bridge to cross when you get there. To be honest, they will probably be more open and comfortable to the conversation by then, especially since you'll be older. And I think that's a great idea to provide sources, sometimes that is what it takes to get ou...

Makes sense! I understand what you mean about there being no progress if you break up, however, I invite you to consider that it also might not be a step back. Sure, you'd still be sexually frustrated, but there's added stress this relationship is bringing you that would be removed. I say this becau...

Hi BuddyBoi21, I'm glad to hear all the great things about the relationship, it really sounds like you're compatible in many ways! They seem to be fulfilling you emotionally and that's extremely important. What you explained about their boundaries, traumas and triggers, is understandable. It's okay ...

Hi Susan! I'm sorry to hear you're unable to see your boyfriend right now, I know that's a tough situation. I seems like your parents are trying to keep you as safe as possible and it's valid for them to be nervous, since our health is so important. Perhaps you could bring up to them a proposal: if ...

Hi! Thank you for expanding on that, and it makes sense why you're frustrated with the lack of information and advice from your direct family. I can't help but to think about a course I took in college that dealt with arranged marriage and how it related to feminism. You're not alone! So many girls ...

Re: webcam sites, there are several that are free to watch - tipping is encouraged, and of course it's always nice to pay performers (same with mainstream porn), but it's understandable we can't all do so. Most performers really appreciate the genuine human interaction as well. You can always tip wh...

Hey BuddyBoi21, I first want to take a moment to validate what you're feeling with everything being a shitshow and whatnot. Spend some time today and this week doing some self care if you can. Fortunately, one of the things I recommend in a self care package is masturbation, so yay, two for two! I'm...

That's great to hear. I can relate to having to spend less time online to be happier overall, especially certain social media sites I know have too much negativity for me. I really hope the walks help too!

So, the dilemma you're facing is actually not rare. Something helpful I learned in a Ethics of Sex college course was looking at sexual fantasies using consequentialism. If you're not familiar with it, consequentialism is basically an ethical/moral philosophy theory that determines whether something...

That's great to hear, I think it will be really good to talk to her about it. I understand you're uneasy, but I promise, you cannot get pregnant through clothes if one or both people's clothing completely covers their genitals.

Ah, I hear you and that makes sense. No worries about the scents, it's not something everyone has an attachment to, but maybe there's something else - and no pressure to figure it out right now and/or tell us, it's just for you to think about if you feel it might be helpful. As for the discord serve...

Hi, everything you are describing sounds normal! If the discharge is white or clear, as long as it isn't chunky (like cottage cheese chunky), you're totally fine. Discharge happens before, after, and between periods - basically at all times that you're not bleeding, you might have discharge. This ar...

Hi Sky, I'm sorry you're dealing with dysphoria, I know it can be really difficult. This is definitely a good place to come to as we're always here for you. That being said, there are outside resources we can refer you to for further help such as, for example, a mental health provider. Let me know i...

I think that is a good start as far as a safety plan, and it's super important having people who know us well enough to know when something is off. It can be hard to realize it ourselves in the moment, but an outside perspective is often what we need in situations where our mental health isn't doing...

I'm glad to hear you've had all those options, but I can see how the cold weather is going to intervene with them. Unfortunately this is a tough time for dating, and a lot of us are forced into spending more time with our partners through phone or video calls. I know it's not what anyone wants to he...

That doesn't sound silly or petty at all, it sounds perfectly normal. Most people want companionship and emotional closeness, not always in a romantic way, it could be more platonic. However it sounds like you do want romantic love. It's also okay for you not to be sure! Take time to explore this, p...

First of all, I want to say that the way you feel about this situation is completely valid and I'm so sorry you went through it. It is never okay to cross someone's boundaries and describe sexual encounters or scenarios with someone who didn't consent to it, especially if this person knew you aren't...

Hi MigueLMichaeL, If she has been consistently taking the pill at the same time every day but was 20 minutes late this once, you shouldn't worry. 20 minutes is still a safe time frame. That being said, we have suggested you start using condoms as a backup (on top of your girlfriend taking the pill)....