Do you think she would force you or otherwise hurt you if you made that boundary? I ask because this is something that, if you were to hold firm on it, would at least get you in to see someone who you could tell about what's happening. Can you tell me a little bit about what's nearby your school? An...

Hi BiKinkster, My advice would be to generally default to the scientific names, especially when you're not sure what terms are okay with the people you're around. Even if they sound technical, they're not loaded in the way some slang can be. If you're with a partner, which terms are okay/preferred i...

Hi Caligirl, This is a tricky question because the paths into sex ed, even the academic ones, are super variable. I once asked a person at Planned Parenthood who I'd interviewed with how she got into the field and the answer was something not at all related (I can't remember what, exactly). I chose ...

Hi lilfauxhawk, That sounds like quite a messed up situation to have to deal with, and it's no wonder you're feeling emotionally trashed. You'll be okay, and once the dust settles you'll also be glad you dodged the bullet of being entangled with this guy for any longer than you were. This article mi...

Hi Fairyeve, In terms of the specifics of this treatment, the best person to direct those questions to is the doctor who will be performing it. I think these two articles might help you address your other concerns. If there's still anything that you're unclear on after reading them, just let us know...

Hi BiKinkster,

If it's more of a focus on the object itself (the underwear) that sounds closer to a clothing based kink. But that's one of those things where there are not a ton of hard and fast rules.

I can't say for certain, but I'm very inclined to think she's lying (because pretty much no psychiatrist is going to give a medication without seeing a client face to face). To give you an example, I've cried about how family members have behaved in therapy sessions. My counselor did not then call t...

Not really, no. It's a typical orgasm time, so there's no cause for concern.

Hi Alan, On average, people with penises take less than three minutes to reach orgasm. So your experiences fit right in with that pattern. For more advice on that subject, and how to manage feelings around quick ejaculation, check out this article: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/a_problem_...

Hi otterlyloved, Let's start with the touch question. Some people aren't that naturally touchy feely, which is fine. But it sounds like this is something you want (and enjoy) when it happens. One thing you could try is to take the pressure off yourself to know what the right way to react to a touch ...

Oh goodness. What would happen if you told her you wanted to see someone? Two questions: did you actually see her call the psychiatrist and have this conversation? And did the psychiatrist ever talk to you personally? With the bus, how does the idea of taking a bus ride into town a few times a week ...

Hi Scuttles,

This is something that would be best answered by a doctor, as it's not something we can diagnose via the internet. Pain, especially if it's recurring, is usually a sign that you're in need of a check-up to work out what's going on and offer treatment if treatment turns out to be needed.

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It's completely normal to miss someone after a break-up. The feelings you had for a person don't evaporate over night, even if you wish they would. I think you might find this article helpful right now: Getting Through a Breakup Without Actually Breaking One other recommendation I'd make is to scale...

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Hi there, [ You're correct that we will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy.[/b] We CAN and WILL talk about things like: • choosing and usi...

Hi Poohbear, It's hard to say when someone else has an orgasm, since it's only you experiencing it. It's possible that you're orgasming and it's not feeling quite like what you expect, or it may be that you're just not quite getting there. This article might give you a little more information about ...

Hi keepthefaith, I think these two articles would be a good place to start. If you don't find what you're looking for there, you can follow some of the links in the pieces to places where there might be more information on this specific topic: Innies & Outies: The Penis, Testes and More Innies &...

I hear what you're saying, but I've honestly encountered very few instances in which people, even in sex positive spaces, are unilaterally uncritical of porn. You may have had a different experience. Even in discussions in which porn is talked about in a mostly positive light, there is always acknow...

Hi Blackheart and welcome to the boards, The tricky thing is, we can't tell you what you are or how you should identify. That's something you get to work out for yourself. What we can do is give you some tools to help with that process. Have you had the chance to read about being genderqueer or gend...

Hi there, The first thing is to reframe the request for yourself. If you ask to have safer sex, you're not implying that you think your partner has an STI (or that you think having an STI makes them "dirty"). You simply asking to take a reasonably precaution to make sex safer (and to make ...

If that's something that's planned, then something we can help you out a little with is coming up with a script to explain the current situation to that psychiatrist and ask them to refer you to a counselor. Does that sounds useful to you? Then maybe make a plan to start taking some exploratory bike...

Okay, there are a few ways you could go about that. The ideal would be to get to counselor who you could see face to face (and that would be at least a little covered by insurance). Do you think your mom would be open to the idea of you getting counseling, or is your sense that she'll put up resista...

Are you comfortable with reaching out to a non-school counselor to talk with about this situation? You mentioned chatting to people. Was this with people of all ages about a variety of topics, or was it a specific topic? I would put in a vote for you joining the bowling team if it interests you. Unt...

Hi Anon, The reason for that distinction is that pre-cum poses less of a risk, period, than ejaculate. That's the reason the withdrawl method is in any way effective with preventing pregnancy. The only time ejaculate on a hand poses a risk is if there is a deliberate, immediate insertion of that han...