Too, breakthrough bleeding is a common side effect of hormonal methods, period. So, it can happen any time.

Also, as I understand it, you have recently been concerned you may be pregnant. Have you yet taken a test so you can get that sorted?

With any kind of oral contraceptive, it often takes a few cycles for placebo periods and withdrawal bleeds to sync up and to become regular. It can take longer, or things can be wonkier, if before you began a pill you did not have regularc cycles., which is common for younger people. If you finish y...

Was what you saw brownish? If so, know that periods sometimes present with that color, and flow also tends to become darker and browner on tampons or pads, too. Your bowel is not connected to your vagunal canal, so fecal matter cannot just wind up in there unless someone has done something like had ...

Just to be clear, the standard with starting the pill at times other than a day one or Sunday start (on or before the Sunday after a periods begins) is one full cycle of backup, not seven days. That 7 day suggestion is for those doing a day one or Sunday start. And using condoms is using a backup, s...

(Is it a Fender? I have to ask. )

It often takes around five years or so for periods to become regular. If yours are still bery erractic after that time, that is something to check in with a doctor about, so they can make sure you don't need help or care with things that are commonly at the root of that, like disordered eating, over...

No, they could not. Only a pregnancy can produce that hormone (are rarely, it can be replicated with people with certain tyoes of cancers, but that is both unusual and isn't about you unless you have one of those cancers). We need to hold the lines we have set with you about pregnancy talk, however,...

Just FYI, a lot of what you are saying here is actually based in stereotype, not fact. So, you are not stating the obvious, at all, but instead, thinking something is universally true that was true for you about one guy, or just based on your ideas of guys as a group, a group as diverse as any made ...

If she's saying to you that she has sexual desire, but feels too scared just yet, that means what you'll need to do is wait until she feels differently. You can also let her know that if there is anything she needs from you, or needs your help with, to feel comfortable, she can let you know so you c...

Have you been charting BOTH those things -- or even just the mucus -- for at least three regular cycles, where you can look at all of those charts? If not, seriously, there's just no sense in us talking about when you did or didn't ovulate, because we can't know or at all accurately predict that fro...

Ovulation and menstruation will not occur at the same time, no. It's most common to ovulate only once in a cycle, and around the middle of a cycle, but there is variation for some that includes ovulating twice, or doing so very close to a period after it starts, or very close to a period before it b...

By all means, if and when we want to meet people, we've got to be active in doing the meeting, we can't usually be passive about it with much success. The same goes for pursuing people as romantic or sexual partners. We can't ever just figure they'll bring that to us if it's something we want. We ha...

You once struggled with a lot of fear about something, especially to the degree that your fear and anxiety took over your life. But you are finally past it, and either just totally over that fear, or have figured out a way to dial it down and manage it. Whatever that fear was about, how did you turn...

Fairy: I used to do that with the bus or train when I lived urban myself, and agreed, that's a great one! Also: prime people watching!

No one is this confused and yet still manages to live to be 40 without a full-time caretaker. Seriously. Unless he is suffering from truly serious psychosis, this isn't about him being confused or not understanding this isn't how you treat someone. I agree, I do think that approach will help. Even i...

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So, so often, our ideas about what are and are not abuse aren't based in anything sound or, worst of all, are based more in abusers excuses and rationalizations than anything else. "But I didn't hit her," is nothing more than a line from the abuser's classic handbook, and yet, you see how ...

She does, but honestly if this is someone refusing you care you have a right to, I'd personally suggest seeing if you can't swap for someone else. Sounds like your old therapist is here, then, to help you with finding a new one, and clear she's glad to give that help. So, I'd go ahead seeking one ou...

It sounds to me, from this post and others, like it was emotionally abusive and controlling, yes. But that's really something I find people do best with when they come to that themselves, if they do. So, it might be worth just looking at some pieces on abuse (and doing what you can to evaluate the r...

It's so not fair to you. We can't know things before we know them, after all, or somehow have perspective from life experiences we have not actually had. We can't be the us-of-now anytime before right now. So, one anger that is really totally in your control to learn to let go of -- and perhaps the ...

Have you ever tried writing a letter as if you were him, with him saying all of the things you would want him to? Sometimes something like that can stand in as the next-best thing. In your next-best scenario, have you tried, or are you open to trying, the non-assault version of that, like by writing...

Just one reminder that often cheap sex toys are just that, which means that: • You wind up paying more for toys over time because heap toys tend to break, and more importantly, • Cheap toys are often made with materials that aren't actually good for bodies, particularly phthalates . So, often when y...

Okay.

Let's imagine you get your ideal per what you think would help you come to peace with all this and really feel very resolved: what do you think you would need for that to happen? Again, let's not worry about realities right this second: let's start with open ideal scenarios.