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by Heather
Wed Aug 06, 2014 6:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how to talk to people/make friends?
Replies: 8
Views: 2703

Re: how to talk to people/make friends?

I was also to add that my experience of arts school was that it was a place mainly populated by people who did not feel like they fit elsewhere. I recall calling it "misfit paradise." :) In other words, mist likely, many of the students there will have had the same experiences you did in h...
by Heather
Wed Aug 06, 2014 6:30 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Urinating frequently
Replies: 5
Views: 2606

Re: Urinating frequently

Bacteria getting into the urinary tract, and the body being unable to fight it off, basically. UTIs are very common for people with vulvas, and often especially so when someone is new to being sexually active per activities that involve the vulva. But they are important to get treated, not just beca...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 2:58 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I hate my breast.. they are so ugly.
Replies: 5
Views: 35747

Re: I hate my breast.. they are so ugly.

I personally find it helpful when I am feeling stuck with something like this to remind myself that there is undoubtedly at least one person -- and probably way more -- who has something about their body that looks exactly like mine but that they feel good about. That helps remind me that all of thi...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 2:44 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: New Board Feedback
Replies: 4
Views: 5440

Re: New Board Feedback

Thanks, acb! On the old boards, we'd done gender instead, but this seemed a bit more useful, and also like a term more people were likely to understand clearly.
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 2:42 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I hate my breast.. they are so ugly.
Replies: 5
Views: 35747

Re: I hate my breast.. they are so ugly.

Welcome to the boards! :) How about we start with a little education about breasts? The sag, or "slope" of breasts isn't determined by size. It also usually has little to do with gravity, and a lot more to do with genetics than anything else. Breasts of all sizes can, and often do, sag , p...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 1:15 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Fantasy birth control and safer sex devices
Replies: 7
Views: 3652

Re: Fantasy birth control and safer sex devices

Snorkmaiden: you know about microbicide research, yes? :)

If not, have a peek: http://www.who.int/hiv/topics/microbici ... icides/en/

We're getting there!

(I love the idea of a uterus that can be a loaner!)
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 1:08 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Bitter about goodbye
Replies: 2
Views: 2097

Re: Bitter about goodbye

Those kinds of transitions are so hard and so bittersweet. :( You know, though, in my experience as someone who has been around for bunch of decades now, so often relationships really don't "end." I mean, we certainly can end them, and if one person in them wants them to be All Over at a g...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 1:00 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Fantasy birth control and safer sex devices
Replies: 7
Views: 3652

Fantasy birth control and safer sex devices

If you could have a means of contraception, safer sex, or both, that don't (yet!) exist, what would they be? I'd really have always just liked a simple on/off switch for my uterus, when it comes to babymaking, myself. You want the babies, you turn it on. You don't, you shut it off, without having an...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 12:50 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: The wide, wide world of relationship models
Replies: 1
Views: 1831

The wide, wide world of relationship models

One of our new users just mentioned feeling isolated because she's a teenager who's poly, so thought it might be nice in the newbie area to have a thread for folks to talk about the wide array of relationship models there are out there, and how diverse our choices can be, whatever our age. So, from ...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 12:38 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Challenging sexuality bits in your teens & 20s
Replies: 3
Views: 2205

Challenging sexuality bits in your teens & 20s

If you had to pick the top most challenging parts of your sexuality or sexual life so far, what would they be? Mine may look a little out-of-place here, because it was an awfully long time ago that I was in my teens and twenties, but I'd say some of them were: • There being little to no information...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 11:22 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Abuse & Assault Links
Replies: 0
Views: 1966

Abuse & Assault Links

Here are some links and resources to get you started! At Scarleteen: • Blinders Off: Getting a Good Look at Abuse and Assault • The Scarleteen Safety Plan • Driver's Ed for the Sexual Superhighway: Navigating Consent • Dealing With Rape • Does Your Relationship Need a Checkup? • Hello, Sailor! How t...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 10:23 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: YAY!
Replies: 20
Views: 10694

Re: YAY!

This is an awesome yay! (And am very glad you didn't injure yourself in the process!)
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 10:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Getting good at apologies
Replies: 1
Views: 1638

Getting good at apologies

This showed up today at the blog for one of my big-time favorite apps, Unstuck: In the best of times, it’s hard to admit you’re wrong. There’s nothing like digging into a piece of humble pie to remind you that — even if you’re a hot-shot, a genuine smarty-pants, or the nicest of nice guys — you stil...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 9:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?
Replies: 62
Views: 68270

Re: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?

Okay, I think I have all of you who have posted here moved from the newly registered group. If I missed anyone, just give a shout! :)
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 4:24 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Two truths and a lie
Replies: 38
Views: 11319

Re: Two truths and a lie

Bah, you got me!
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 4:23 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 3304

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

Okay. So, an idea I would put out as a starting place per some of this, something I think might help and you can do with therapy or not, is to first just sit down, for a good while, and see if you can't start writing down an idea, or list, of what you really want right now. Not in the far future, bu...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 2:15 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 3304

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

Sorry for more with the questions! Per your last paragraph, do you feel like you can or cannot yet emotionally separate "a partner," and "an abusive partner?" In other words, while you likely can do that logically, do you feel like your feelings grok that a partner does not = abu...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 2:12 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: New Board Questions or Issues
Replies: 13
Views: 7690

Re: New Board Questions or Issues

Which one, samaraj?
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 10:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What are...
Replies: 11
Views: 5167

What are...

...three websites you absolutely visit every day (or awfully close to that often)? Alas, because being online is almost entirely about work for me, and almost always has been mostly about that, my own list is work-related: for me it's our website, and then our Facebook and Twitter. However, lately, ...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 10:14 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Posting a new topic in abuse and assault?
Replies: 4
Views: 2835

Re: Posting a new topic in abuse and assault?

No worries: everything is new on this system, so we're likely all going to feel a bit confused and disoriented for a little while. :)
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 9:55 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 3304

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

Thanks for filling me in so candidly. Can I ask if you feel like you have given yourself time to simply feel disinterested in sexual relationships with others without trying to "force" feelings of interest, and with acknowledgements to yourself that it is absolutely okay -- rather than una...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 9:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Two truths and a lie
Replies: 38
Views: 11319

Two truths and a lie

Just a little icebreaker for those in the newbie group (and anyone else)! Here's how this works: think of two facts (truths) about yourself, and one lie (something that isn't true about you or your life). Post them both here. When you reply, take a guess about which of the previous posters things we...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 9:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 3304

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

I am so sorry you experienced that, AvocadoLime. I am very glad, though, you felt able to bring this here. Can you fill me in on what you have, so far, done for yourself for your healing since this relationship? That way I can have a better idea of what to suggest, and also not suggest things you ha...
by Heather
Mon Aug 04, 2014 6:51 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?
Replies: 62
Views: 68270

Re: New user now, but an old-timer at our old boards?

Okay, you two, both of you should be out of the newly registered user group now! And welcome back!
by Heather
Sun Aug 03, 2014 6:34 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: New Board Feedback
Replies: 4
Views: 5440

New Board Feedback

Just so everyone knows, because there are some new tools and features with this new board system, we are trying some new things. However, we are not by any means married to most of these things, so if you have any thoughts or feels about the setp with anything on the new boards, feel free to leave y...

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