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by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:51 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Quarantine, and Gender
Replies: 2
Views: 920

Re: Quarantine, and Gender

I love what you've observed and are asking about here, Valerie. And I can really relate to some of what you're saying here. I've also had something extra in the mix during all of this, which is pandemic + late perimenopause, which combined have meant an array of body changes quite outside my control...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 925

Re: Break-up

I can understand. I've both witnessed many relationships that started out very sexually/physically passionate fizzle out over time, and I've been in a couple of those myself. It can be very sad and painful. I also get that breakups in the middle of all this with the pandemic can feel extra awful. I ...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 925

Re: Break-up

Hey there, Laura. It’s good to see you again, but I wish it was under different circumstances. I’m so sorry about the dissolution of your sexual relationship, your breakup, and how you’ve felt during both. It sounds like it’s been very disorienting, confusing and lonely. Shifts in sexual orientation...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Took my Yasmin pill late
Replies: 1
Views: 973

Re: Took my Yasmin pill late

Hey there. :) With combined oral contraceptives, you ha e a 24 hour grace period before a pill is missed and a 12 hour grace period before it’s considered late. You weren’t outside either. That said, combining pills and condoms as a regular practice — not just when you think you’ve messed up with th...
by Heather
Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:44 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating again
Replies: 3
Views: 549

Re: Masturbating again

Sure thing. :)
by Heather
Mon Mar 22, 2021 12:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating again
Replies: 3
Views: 549

Re: Masturbating again

The thing about orgasm is that it doesn't always happen: it's not a guarantee, and it's not something we can make happen every time by doing the same things that make it happen sometimes. Going without sex or masturbation isn't something that generally makes it harder for people to reach orgasm, no....
by Heather
Fri Mar 19, 2021 10:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: some clarification
Replies: 6
Views: 462

Re: some clarification

Have you looked at any of these resources yet, Miguel? Some are free!

http://www.scarleteen.com/anxiety_and_o ... _resources
by Heather
Fri Mar 19, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: some clarification
Replies: 6
Views: 462

Re: some clarification

Hey there, Miguel. We’ve answered these questions for you already and already provided you links to more in-depth information. We’ve also already been clear about our limits with these kinds of questions and reassurance-seeking. What are you doing to help you manage this kind of anxiety when it come...
by Heather
Fri Mar 19, 2021 6:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worries
Replies: 5
Views: 860

Re: Worries

Maybe you need to cut him loose with this fear and let him manage it himself? After all, it’s not like HE would be the one pregnant here, and YOU are the one now having to bear the physical burden of extra (and unnecessary, as there was nothing your pill wasn’t already doing that Plan B could add sa...
by Heather
Thu Mar 18, 2021 12:00 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: About Shaving
Replies: 6
Views: 2858

Re: About Shaving

I do just want to add that one thing pubic hair does is help keep bacteria *out* of the vestibule and internal genitalia. That doesn't mean it isn't okay to trim or remove pubic hair if that's what you want to do, it's just to say that doing so actually doesn't the opposite of keeping it "clean...
by Heather
Thu Mar 18, 2021 11:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2361

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

If we've been raised to believe that we're responsible for someone else's feelings, it's hard to see that. It sounds like your mother absolutely doesn't mean to do you harm, but she very clearly has her own work to do on whatever has her stuck in this emotional spot and keeps her creating her part o...
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 12:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ex
Replies: 1
Views: 523

Re: ex

Hey there, samrolets.

Can I ask about how things ended with the two of you? When they did or since, did she set any limits or boundaries about pursuing that kind of relationship with her again?
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 12:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused
Replies: 9
Views: 1049

Re: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused

I get it! It just doesn't work that way, period, because pregnancy isn't like an infection, where someone's body just needs to be introduced to the germ. Rather, sperm cells are only one *part* of the whole process, and only one of several factors essential for pregnancy. They also can't go anywhere...
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 10:48 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 1602

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

Hey there, CatHaru. Are you both up to date with your basic sexual healthcare, especially if you haven't been stringent about barrier use for all the sexual activities where STI transmission can occur? That isn't to say that must be what this is about, but it's one possibility, so I want to be sure ...
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 9:16 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2361

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

Hey there. Thanks for filling me in some more. I think that one thing you're going to have to keep in mind is that you can't control your mother's feelings or responses. I know she has certainly given you the idea that you can, but you actually can't, and trying to do things in such a way that you t...
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 9:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Crushing on Friend/Exploring Bisexuality
Replies: 4
Views: 1055

Re: Crushing on Friend/Exploring Bisexuality

My pleasure! I have some feedback on that for you to do what you will with. I can see pros and cons for that. The pros are that it's a ritual and setting you already feel comfortable with, and it's also something that's already very much about the two of you and your relationship. I think that latte...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused
Replies: 9
Views: 1049

Re: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused

I might suggest that you try to let go of the idea that it sounds silly. People have the fears that they have, and even when they're not rational or reasonable, they're real, and they usually come from something real (like, in this case, from things like sexual shame, religious fears, fear of grave ...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 1307

Re: Anal masturbation

There are some things to bear in mind when it comes to safety, for sure. 1) Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. The anus doesn't produce its own lubrication and anal tissue is delicate and easy to tear or fissure, so using lube is really important. 2) Don't use anything that doesn't have a flared base. If...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:25 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Pubic Hair and the Clit
Replies: 2
Views: 1113

Re: Pubic Hair and the Clit

Hi again, jenny. Generally, you should be able to find the hood visually -- if it's hidden by public hair -- by pushing back the pubic hair covering it. Or, you can find it by feel. Since it's just on top of the clitoral glans, which tends to be very sensitive, especially once someone's aroused, if ...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:21 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masturbation and crisis about it
Replies: 3
Views: 894

Re: Masturbation and crisis about it

Hey there, welcome to the boards. :)

Ideally, you obviously don't want any of this to be something associated with panic, since the goal is comfort and pleasure. What do you feel like you need in order to feel more relaxed instead of panicked?
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Crushing on Friend/Exploring Bisexuality
Replies: 4
Views: 1055

Re: Crushing on Friend/Exploring Bisexuality

Hey there, historygirl. Welcome to the boards. :) Since it sounds like your friend already knows about your limitations when it comes to not being out to family, and it also sounds like you feel confident that putting yourself out there to her in terms of dating wouldn't create problems with your fr...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:46 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Advice
Replies: 3
Views: 1315

Re: Advice

Unless it's lawful for you to use in your area, we can't talk with you about it here on our boards, and that's for your own safety and protection. You're using an anonymous name, but the boards themselves are public-facing. This is my favorite site for drug information for young people, and here's t...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2361

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

belled, thanks for being so open and sharing all of that with me. I'm so sorry that this has been the situation and dynamic you have been living with for so long. You're so empathetic and caring towards your mother: I really admire how kind you are and how understanding, even when her own issues hav...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 3:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: High Sex Drive
Replies: 5
Views: 503

Re: High Sex Drive

You're welcome. :)
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 3:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: High Sex Drive
Replies: 5
Views: 503

Re: High Sex Drive

Nope! There's nothing wrong with having a desire to be sexual just like there's nothing wrong with having a desire to eat something good, or go for a swim or take a nap. Sexual desire is something that's just a really common part of being human.

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