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by Heather
Sun Nov 19, 2023 8:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: misleading sex ed?
Replies: 3
Views: 2898

Re: misleading sex ed?

So, it sounds like you don't think this was about the school not knowing what was being taught, that this was in line with other vibes at school, yeah? Unfortunately, if this is a school that is led by extreme religious belief, then I think your gut feeling that correcting your teachers would have a...
by Heather
Sun Nov 19, 2023 7:02 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I thought I was Bi but now I don’t know what I am.
Replies: 5
Views: 11020

Re: I thought I was Bi but now I don’t know what I am.

Hi there, lexinicole, and welcome to the boards. :) I have a couple things I feel a little unclear about in your post, so maybe we can get on the same page with those first so I can best help out. So, generally, when people date, they do have a personal connection: like, that's kind of the whole poi...
by Heather
Sun Nov 19, 2023 6:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: misleading sex ed?
Replies: 3
Views: 2898

Re: misleading sex ed?

Holy smokes. :( By all means, these things you're being told in school are not just inaccurate, they are literal fictions. Do you want to talk about possible options in dealing with this? Is this something you'd like to try and report and/or correct at school? That said, one good thing is that it so...
by Heather
Thu Nov 16, 2023 9:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex life ruined because I don't know my sexuality
Replies: 10
Views: 17490

Re: Sex life ruined because I don't know my sexuality

Hey there, Wendy. I have a few things I want to throw at you to think about. You can think about them aloud, here, and we can talk about them, or you can just think about them in your own head: whichever feels best for you. 1) This framework where someone is either straight or they're gay leaves out...
by Heather
Thu Nov 16, 2023 9:20 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: HRT and Surgical Menopause
Replies: 7
Views: 8021

Re: HRT and Surgical Menopause

Hey there, brungerbulb. So, the very best people for you to talk about this with is going to be your healthcare team, because they have all your medical records and will know things that I can't, and that you can know, but won't have the education and experience to be your own doctor in this capacit...
by Heather
Wed Nov 15, 2023 3:11 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: top surgery?
Replies: 3
Views: 5335

Re: top surgery?

Hi there, Gluggaveður! I'm happy to leave this as it is, as a callout for others who have had top surgery, but the boards have been slower lately, and I'm not sure you'll see many peer-to-peer answers right now. Too, some of these things are going to vary a whole lot from person to person, especiall...
by Heather
Wed Nov 15, 2023 9:27 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No orgasm on SSRI and low sex drive in general
Replies: 5
Views: 25361

Re: No orgasm on SSRI and low sex drive in general

You say you never feel bad around them: does this mean you feel good around them or more neutral? Right now what I am hearing is that if you mostly feel bad much of the time, are having trouble finding joy and pleasure in life, that you often feel anxious in this relationship and that the feelings f...
by Heather
Wed Nov 15, 2023 9:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i'm anxious
Replies: 8
Views: 6880

Re: i'm anxious

So, I'm not going to engage with this the way you're asking for a couple reasons: 1) It's outside our policies with pregnancy scares to engage with reassurance seeking or a continued focus on a scare, and 2) Much of the information you are giving here isn't the solid info you think it is. For instan...
by Heather
Tue Nov 14, 2023 3:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i'm anxious
Replies: 8
Views: 6880

Re: i'm anxious

If she is having breast tenderness AND her period is later than expected, chances are awfully good that that breast tenderness is expressly because her period is on the way. I'm so sorry to hear that your partner is being sexually coercive: begging you to be sexual even after you have said it's not ...
by Heather
Tue Nov 14, 2023 3:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis question smell
Replies: 1
Views: 4163

Re: Penis question smell

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. Balanitis is more a condition of inflammation and pain, than of smell. On the other hand, if you have been inconsistent with hygiene, something like a buildup of smegma is very common and can create a smell. If you do have that buildup, then it could take more th...
by Heather
Tue Nov 14, 2023 2:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No orgasm on SSRI and low sex drive in general
Replies: 5
Views: 25361

Re: No orgasm on SSRI and low sex drive in general

Hi there, potatosoup. Welcome. :) From what you have said here, it does sound like your medication is probably playing at least some part here. It may also be that your depression itself is playing a part, and that could be more than it might be if the current medication isn't a good fit for that ei...
by Heather
Tue Nov 14, 2023 11:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dry Humping using condom
Replies: 3
Views: 11412

Re: Dry Humping using condom

You could, but there would be no need for it (full clothing provides complete barriers from anything your body fluids or skin could do), and it might wind up tearing in the process.
by Heather
Mon Nov 13, 2023 2:32 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Struggle masturbating
Replies: 7
Views: 6037

Re: Struggle masturbating

Hey there, Jax, welcome to the boards.

So, is this a kind of shaking that keeps you from being comfortable or able, physically, or hurts in some way? Or is it just something that happens that you are wondering why it happens?
by Heather
Wed Nov 08, 2023 10:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Discharge
Replies: 3
Views: 4020

Re: Discharge

So, sounds like there's probably no cause for concern about it. If it were those other colors, or smelly, then we'd have reason to be concerned about a possible infection, but just more discharge and more fluid discharge is totally normal, especially at the age you're at. The amount of discharge you...
by Heather
Wed Nov 08, 2023 9:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Discharge
Replies: 3
Views: 4020

Re: Discharge

Hi there, naurmi.

What's the color like with that discharge? Is it grayish, greenish or yellowish? Or more like whitish or clear?
by Heather
Wed Nov 08, 2023 9:34 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I just can't finish
Replies: 13
Views: 13443

Re: I just can't finish

Sounds like you're on the right path now!
by Heather
Wed Nov 08, 2023 9:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Urethra
Replies: 1
Views: 1882

Re: Urethra

Hi there, Bromine, welcome to the boards. :) It's actually really hard to even see the urethral opening, it's so small. (The urethra is a tube inside the body: we can't see it from the outside at all.) I do think that describing it as usually flat is accurate. There's an image here made for medical ...
by Heather
Wed Nov 08, 2023 9:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Just had my first time, need to debrief
Replies: 1
Views: 3442

Re: Just had my first time, need to debrief

Hey there, predatorywasp. Welcome to the boards. I'm so glad that you had a first intercourse experience you feel good about. So, this thing with first intercourse where you find that, despite goodness knows how many cultural tropes to the contrary, you feel exactly the same? Normal. Typical. Totall...
by Heather
Tue Nov 07, 2023 1:44 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't find / feel clitoris
Replies: 5
Views: 20969

Re: Can't find / feel clitoris

Glad to be of help. You know where to find us if you want to pick this up again or want help with something else!
by Heather
Tue Nov 07, 2023 12:43 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Can't find / feel clitoris
Replies: 5
Views: 20969

Re: Can't find / feel clitoris

Aha! It does indeed sound like you found your clitoral glans. Thanks for answering those questions for me. It does sound like you might be putting some pressure on to your body to perform that could be some of why you're not feeling a lot of sensation there. Too, the whole of the clitoris is WAY big...
by Heather
Tue Nov 07, 2023 9:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm getting scared again
Replies: 5
Views: 15552

Re: I'm getting scared again

I'm not going to engage with you around the questions where you're asking us to repeat answers we have already given you. Not only did we already answer those -- and of course our answers were truthful and accurate -- but you're asking us to engage with your anxiety in a way we know not to be helpfu...
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 10:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old virgin
Replies: 5
Views: 10003

Re: 20 year old virgin

This is very clearly an emotionally abusive relationship that is becoming sexually abusive. The only thing that anyone can do to do right by themselves in that situation is to get out, or, if they need time to do that -- like because they live with the person, or have kids with them -- to make a pla...
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:23 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?
Replies: 25
Views: 129504

Re: Do I actually have to take my birth control at the exact same time every day?

It sounds to me like what they were probably trying to do was to help you be sure that any bloodwork they repeated would be covered by your insurance.
by Heather
Mon Nov 06, 2023 9:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: masturbation
Replies: 11
Views: 33160

Re: masturbation

Hey there, emi. Not everyone is comfortable getting a sex toy through a parent, so if you're not, that's okay. If you are, though, looking at your posts here and what you have said about what you enjoy so far, it sounds like a vibrator meant for external (as in, not inside the vagina, but on the ext...