Hi there bluealiendude, Wow! That seems to have worked out perfectly. I'm concerned though, about what you said about it ripping your anus even though you used a lot of lube.. why do you think that happened? Was there a jagged edge, or was it just about going too quickly and irritating/tearing the t...

Hi asofty,

Just popping in to say that, based on your latest comment here, you wanted folks to respond to this post rather than the first one. Let me know if I interpreted that wrong!

Hi there IAmScared, Ooof. Reading that last thing you said hit me right in the feels, because I feel that way too. It feels really frustrating sometimes to see these strict ideas about what "men do" and "women do", and subsequently, what we can do without provoking criticism or n...

Hi Belcano, Oof. I'm sorry to hear that things are feeling so rough right now. Why do you think that your counselor brings up that possibility this frequently? Have you talked to her about the complicated things that it makes you feel, and the doubt you're having about your ability to "make the...

Hey sky, I get what you're saying about him not always acting this way, and that he can genuinely be funny or make you laugh at times. But that doesn't erase the other stuff, that's really not okay. But you definitely have some valid concerns about how difficult things are at work right now, and fee...

Hi OPT1M15T1C, I think it totally make sense that you're feeling a mixture of emotions right now. On one hand, I'm really glad that you might be able to get some relief in terms of not being exposed to your stalker, and that constant feeling of vigilance when you're at school or out and about. But, ...

I'm so sorry to hear that, sky. It's pretty awful to watch things like that happen, especially when you yourself have been the victim of that harassment or abuse both at the hands of that person and at others. Is this the type of thing that you might feel comfortable talking with a manager about? Ev...

Hi there heyanon, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm glad that you were able to have such a nice experience! I can't say for sure whether you orgasmed or not, because each person kind defines that for themself. But I will say that those feelings of hotness, and those feelings of release sound a lot like...

Hi there sjs0511, What you're feeling is pretty understandable; you love him, and feel attached to this relationship, so it makes sense that thinking about ending it makes you feel conflicted. But I want to highlight something that you said earlier, that's really, really important: For me, if someth...

edit - horriblegoose beat me to it! But here's my response just in case: Hi there smollSexnerd, and welcome to Scarleteen! First of all, I'm so glad to hear that you're joining the good fight when it comes to sex positivity and sex ed. Especially in Virginia - we need more folks like you. <3 As for ...

Hi Lostwander, I'm sorry to hear that this happened, and that it feels like something that's coming up again and feeling upsetting. You're not really "supposed" to do anything - you're the boss, and you can decide what you want to happen from here. Does anyone else in your life know about ...

Hi there transfemandgay! While I haven't personally used one, I know a good deal about them! This article has some of the basics, but I can sum them up pretty well: 1. Start out with something adjustable/stretchy. There are lots of options available that are adjustable (a looped piece of silicone th...

Hey jennyt, Thanks for adding this in here. I love what you said about thinking about all the things that your body does for you and showing appreciation for them. I think that in a culture that focuses a lot on external appearance and size, we sometimes forget about all the other aspects of having ...

Hi there purple_giraffe, and welcome to Scarleteen! I can't say exactly why you're feeling that itchiness, but in all likelihood, it's not something to be too concerned about. The skin of the vulva and vagina are mucous membranes (like the insides of our mouths, noses, etc), so they're pretty sensit...

Optimistic, I'm so so glad to hear that you were able to take some time for yourself and connect with your body! I love what you said about it being an exploration rather than an obligation, because we're a lot less likely to enjoy ourselves if we feel like we have to accomplish something specific, ...

Hey sky, There are all sorts of ways that people can feel attraction to those around them, whether sexually, aesthetically, romantically, etc. Every person's experiences of attractions are different (and can vary from person to person or day to day!). What matters is what's "normal" for yo...

Hey there notyourpumpkin, I just wanted to pop in here and validate your fears about other people judging you or calling you a liar - there's a lot that society needs to learn about the fluidity of sexuality, and especially giving young people a break when they're figuring out their sexuality. Just ...

Hi there tamawara, and welcome to Scarleteen! I can't say for sure why you're feeling that I-gotta-pee feeling, but it's not an uncommon feeling associated with arousal and orgasm for people of all genders. Usually it has to with the muscles of the pelvic floor contracting, which might also put pres...

Hi there 90Hello09, I'm sorry to hear that this is feeling frustrating for you. I can totally understand that disappointment of building up that arousal and pleasure only to have a fizzle rather than fireworks at the end. Is this the type of thing that happens every single time that you masturbate, ...

Hi Arasia, I'm so sorry to hear that this happened. The way that he acted was totally inappropriate, and probably deliberate. And it's totally understandable that you were shocked and didn't quite know what to do; in fact, the fact that he did this in a public place where you might not expect to hav...

Hi R, First of all, welcome to Scarleteen. I’m glad you were able to find a place that feels safe enough to talk about what you’ve gone through and get things off your chest. I’m so sorry that you’ve experienced what you have. It sounds like quite a lot of predatory and manipulative behavior by this...

Hi xoadore, and welcome to Scarleteen! I want to second what horriblegoose said - we can only guess as to why someone is thinking or feeling, and the only way to know for sure is to communicate about it. Do you want to be talking regularly with him? Or define your relationship a little bit more? Wha...

Also, I just wanted to jump in and say that I'm in the midst of taking some time/space away from a partner right now, and while it isn't the same as learning to be on your own after getting out of an abusive relationship, I'm finding it pretty difficult. So I guess I wanted to validate that even whe...

Hi Mandy, I'm glad to hear that you all were able to talk about things explicitly. In terms of what you call it, that's sort of up to you! I can't speak to how common it is in high schoolers versus the main population, but I will say that you're not alone! There are all sorts of ways that people arr...

Hi Belcano, I'm glad to hear that you're reintroducing yourself to things that you're interested in as an individual. In my opinion, that's one of the most difficult things about a change in any close relationship - habits, hobbies, and things that you used to do that now you have to adjust to being...