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- Sun Oct 11, 2015 12:07 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Some concerns that I have
- Replies: 21
- Views: 7654
Re: Some concerns that I have
Mo said a lot of what I was thinking already, so I think I can keep this (for me) short. What I'm hearing from you is that on the one hand, you actually know this relationship isn't going too well and this guy isn't such a great person to have sex with, but you're reluctant to break up because you f...
- Sat Oct 10, 2015 9:50 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Some concerns that I have
- Replies: 21
- Views: 7654
Re: Some concerns that I have
Hey there. I am on my phone and in a hurry, but I just want you to know right now that somebody read this. To be perfectly honest with you, your post broke my heart a little bit. I think I have a lot to say to you, but that will have wait until later. For now: you deserve so much better than what yo...
- Fri Oct 09, 2015 6:48 am
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: condoms = casual?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4248
Re: condoms = casual?
Interesting... Thanks for all your insights. I just wasn't aware before this relative made a (small) fuss that condoms have any kind of symbolic meaning for certain people. I just like the things. Birth control with zero side effects that helps prevent STIs as well, is inexpensive and available near...
- Thu Oct 08, 2015 10:56 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Stare into each other's eyes and chill?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2003
Re: Stare into each other's eyes and chill?
I suspect there's really nothing big that you are doing "wrong", it's just that relationships can't really be forced. The desire to find a mate is so strong that this can be very hard to accept, but in my humble opinion, the kind of emotional connection you seem to be looking for is to a d...
- Wed Oct 07, 2015 2:04 pm
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: condoms = casual?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4248
condoms = casual?
So the other day, a family member (not one of my parents!) found my condoms. I can't say they were very well hidden, but then, I don't think there's anything shameful about them and if you use my bathroom, well, there they are. So this relative reacted in a way that surprised me: She thought that be...
- Sat Oct 03, 2015 1:37 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: What is love?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2170
Re: What is love?
This is another tough question... I use the word love all the time when talking about chocolate or books or hair when I should probably stay "like very much". I do believe in "real" love though and have very idealized notions about it. I think even it comes to Love love, there ar...
- Thu Oct 01, 2015 3:17 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Positive 'Friendzone' Experiences
- Replies: 6
- Views: 3198
Re: Positive 'Friendzone' Experiences
What about Luke and Leia in the old Star Wars? At first he really wanted to get with her and she flirted back (mainly to make Han jealous, I think :P). Then later they're really good friends and in the end find out they are siblings. And Star Wars is huge, it's not as if I pulled that out of one of ...
- Wed Sep 30, 2015 3:05 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: My biggest relationship mistake
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2140
Re: My biggest relationship mistake
Thank you Heather! So you think that maybe when we are in our fifties, I'll be the one going "yeah, lets have sex" and he'll go "nahhh... not today..." ? :D I must say I'm kind of looking forward to that now... The sex I had when I didn't really want to was definitely in the &quo...
- Wed Sep 30, 2015 12:02 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: My biggest relationship mistake
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2140
My biggest relationship mistake
I've been thinking all day about a big mistake I made during the beginning of my first and so far only relationship and I've decided to write about it here, both to help my brain let go of the topic for the night so I can maybe sleep and also because I'm hoping that maybe someone will read it and av...
- Wed Sep 30, 2015 10:49 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Hair colors lol
- Replies: 8
- Views: 4434
Re: Hair colors lol
I bet you look gorgeous, Asleah. I love curly hair. And there's certainly something to be said about letting your hair grow out of your head just as it is. Not that I mean to judge people who don't! I just personally really prefer a natural look, whether that's natural curls (sigh of envy from me) o...
- Tue Sep 29, 2015 10:06 pm
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: New Relationship Going to End Because of Assault
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4318
Re: New Relationship Going to End Because of Assault
I am going to be late for work, but I feel the urge to log in here briefly just to say this to you: There are people in the world who will be with you for you , no matter how many personal problems and / or traumatic experiences you have, and who will honestly try to respect your boundaries. Yes, ev...
- Tue Sep 29, 2015 12:20 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Labels: Positive or Negative?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6794
Re: Labels: Positive or Negative?
This is getting harder and harder to wrap my little mind around... :) I suppose an adjective is a label when it's understood to imply more than the word itself or when it's used to sum up a person's identity or major part of their identity. And I have a problem with labels because I doubt that a sin...
- Tue Sep 29, 2015 11:18 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Labels: Positive or Negative?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6794
Re: Labels: Positive or Negative?
I've thought about this an awful lot at different times in my life... For me, one of the problems with labels like "gay" is that as soon as the label is used, the labeled person is often defined by that one trait alone. Know what I mean? For example, when I was at university, there was thi...
- Tue Sep 29, 2015 10:38 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Hair colors lol
- Replies: 8
- Views: 4434
Re: Hair colors lol
My hair is the only thing I am vain about. I really like my natural hair color on me, even though it's nothing uncommon, so I've never died my hair and I've never really had a haircut either since I was a little kid. When I was very young, my parents wouldn't let me grow my hair out because it's so ...
- Mon Sep 28, 2015 11:23 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: How Easy or Hard is it for you to love your body?
- Replies: 18
- Views: 12804
Re: How Easy or Hard is it for you to love your body?
This is an interesting question, and not at all easy to answer. When it's just me alone with myself and not thinking about my body in reference to any other person, group of people or society at large, I don't really have a problem with it. I really like being in my body, it feels comfortable and ho...
- Sun Sep 27, 2015 9:11 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Betrayed
- Replies: 51
- Views: 12821
Re: Betrayed
If you don't mind me butting in here, bigbywolf, you don't sound self-centered and / or whiny to me. You sound upset and hurt, but if you're in the middle of a breakup, that's not very surprising. Neither is missing your ex even though you have a lot of negative feelings about him right now. It soun...
- Thu Sep 24, 2015 11:01 am
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)
- Replies: 14
- Views: 29006
Re: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)
You guys really ask the most interesting questions around here... While my brain fully agrees with the definition of sex you linked to above, Heather, I know that instinctively, I do feel that only intercourse is "full sex". Like, when my partner and I are being sexual together and I'm not...
- Tue Sep 22, 2015 10:06 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Positive 'Friendzone' Experiences
- Replies: 6
- Views: 3198
Re: Positive 'Friendzone' Experiences
You know, it's expressions such as "friendzone" that further my irrational fear of guys. This expression and the way it's commonly used seems to imply that men / boys only seek out women / girls to have sex with them and that aside from this function, they consider interacting with us a wa...
- Tue Sep 22, 2015 12:41 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: What is Romantic?
- Replies: 8
- Views: 4178
Re: What is Romantic?
Forgive me for digging up this older thread, but the subject is so interesting to me... What is romantic? That's such a difficult question, actually! I have an intuitive sense of what "romantic" means and I am pretty sure I am a romantic, but how to actually define that...? In a dictionary...
- Tue Sep 22, 2015 9:46 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Been feeling crappy and depressed
- Replies: 14
- Views: 6134
Re: Been feeling crappy and depressed
Hey there, I haven't much to add after all the thoughtful, lovely, intelligent people who have already replied and am just dropping in to say I read your posts and I am very, very sorry you have to go through all this. Some of it resonates with me and my own experiences. I feel for you (even though ...
- Sun Sep 20, 2015 9:58 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Gender Expression: Why is this so hard?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 2984
Re: Gender Expression: Why is this so hard?
Hey there, I doubt the social issue will be much of a problem. You wouldn't want friends who don't accept you for who you are, would you? Professionally - that would depend on the job and the people you work with, but in most places, I don't see how a woman would be at a disadvantage for looking rat...
- Sun Sep 20, 2015 9:24 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Just curious..
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3786
Re: Just curious..
Things that make me feel happier: - Walking or running outside while listening to music. It always takes a huge effort to get my ass out there, but once I did, I always end up feeling much better. - Cleaning up, especially if a lot gets thrown in bags and taken to the dump. Another activity that nee...
- Fri Sep 18, 2015 2:30 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Dealing with having been bullied
- Replies: 6
- Views: 3577
Re: Dealing with having been bullied
Just dropping in to say thank all of you again for responding. I feel a lot better right now. Sam, I love how you said that sometimes all you can do is validate someones feelings on how badly things suck. I think it's often underestimated how helpful that kind of support can be. Again, a thousand th...
- Thu Sep 17, 2015 11:47 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Playlist for When You're Struggling
- Replies: 4
- Views: 4238
Re: Playlist for When You're Struggling
Music is really powerful. At least for me. I don't turn to music so much to be "cheered up" as to feel understood. The "getting it" part is really important for me. Also, I really like songs that to take me past my current situation and re-shift my focus on the big picture. Not o...
- Thu Sep 17, 2015 11:10 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: sexual uncertainty,kallmann, kinks and past emotional abuse
- Replies: 21
- Views: 6188
Re: sexual uncertainty,kallmann, kinks and past emotional ab
Whooops, seems I posted simultaneously with Heather. Get well soon, Heather!