Good gravy, you've had to wait from November until the middle of March for a basic OB/GYN appointment?!? That is an awfully long wait. Argh. If you'd like help finding a provider who can see you sooner, I'd be glad to help with that if you'd like. Since you haven't yet seen anyone, we obviously can'...

Before we go anywhere else with this, is this something you have discussed with the healthcare provider(s) you have seen about your suspected vaginismus you posted about last year? I ask because some of my answers here would vary depending on if this is something your healthcare providers think or s...

That is not very likely, no, particularly given the timing (what level of flow you have is mostly determined before periods begin) and the fact that 5-HTP and serotonin can help with mood issues with periods, but are not likely to have any impact on your cycles otherwise. What is more likely is that...

That certainly is a lot to deal with at once! What does your larger support system look like? Do you have family members or friends who can also help you out? Are you still living at home? If so, how is that for you right now, particularly with support around your pregnancy? I am hearing you say thi...

By the by, if you don't already read Racialicious, you will probably want to jump on that. It is perpetually amazing, widely representative, and these issues come up there a lot, and with a lot of talk from a lot of gobsmackingly smart writers and community members in the comments. It is here: http:...

As we've mentioned before, in the first few packs of pill use, it takes the body a bit of time to get used to the pill and sync up with it when it comes to withdrawal bleeds, especially if and when a person started the pill mid-cycle. So, by all means, in the first few packs, a person may experience...

Your pill leaflet would not advise someone using the pill properly a) use EC or b) take more than one pill per day. Perhaps what you are looking at are the instructions when someone misses pills? Really, someone using combined oral contraceptives would have no need to use separate EC just because of...

So glad to hear you finally took that step for yourself and your own self-care. :) I'm also glad to hear you have set that limit with sexual activities, especially given how clear it is that any of this clearly triggers anxiety or fears for you. Per usual, we can't guess at things like this, or give...

Too, since condoms -- just like your ring, a medication, or anything else placed on or within the body as a part of healthcare -- don't actually take intimacy away (intimacy is emotional, after all), if you think you'd feel best about using condoms, but feel like you can't shake the idea they someho...

How fantastic is all of this!?! Rock on, ratperson!

Have you been able to do that yet, confusedteen? If not, happy to help you figure out how to bring this up and ask for this help from your family.

The hymen doesn't really have any sensory nerve endings, so as it wears away, or even with tears, it is not at all likely to cause pain. So, the pain is most likely due to an abrasion of the vagina, especially given what you have said about fingernails. By all means, it's important if we, or a partn...

Those using the pill properly would have no need to take EC, as the pill is more effective, and already does what EC does and then some (EC only contains one of the hormones combined oral contraceptives do, which is a big part of why it is less effective). But in the event someone missed pills and u...

Usually, bleeding after any kind of sex is less common rather than more -- in other words, if we're talking consensual, careful first intercourse, most people will NOT have bleeding -- unless someone was injured (and that can happen just by people being hasty, not using enough lubricant, or rushing ...

We are not ignoring you: look at your post history, and note how much time and energy you have received from us, please. The idea we have ignored you in any way is pretty outlandish.

I am closing this thread now, and please, please respect our limits and boundaries moving forward.

That means we are holding you to the limit you are not respecting by making that post. And in fact, even what you're asking here is, yet again, you refusing to respect these limits, Berry. I don't think this is about forgetting them, either. I feel very confident you know what they are. We absolutel...

Are you still together in person right now? If so, have you talked about this with him? Sometimes, we just need big talks, even if we had other plans or other thungs we want to be dojng instead.

You know, in situations like this, sometimes there are not any great choices, and it is just figuring out which is the best of the choices you have. But if you feel afraid for your safety, I would advise you just tell someone in your family. I do not understand why you would be in trouble here for a...

So, sounds like it is time to ask someone in your life for help, then. Do you live with your family? If so, who can you tell and ask there?

With questions like this -- especially when you're asking about an activity, as you are, that can't realistically create a pregnancy -- we ask users please start here: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=198 Too, you may not know if your partner ejaculated unto his hands before he d...

It's important for any sex we participate in to be something we want just as much for ourselves as a partner does, and feel just as comfortable with as they do. But I'd say that is even more important when we have any sexual abuse or assault history, because it's awfully hard to heal and build a hea...

I understand. My point is that if and when we are not comfortable being intimate with someone...well, we are not going to feel comfortable. So it may be that until you get to a point with this parner or any other where you do feel able to be more open, it just is not right for you yet to be physical...

I appreciate you putting trust in us to disclose that, and I am glad you feel able to talk about it here. Abuse and assault are things people do to others, not things victims do to themselves. What happened to you was not your fault or your doing, and it is common, especially for very young victims,...

Oral contraceptives are just as effective during the placebo week, so long as you start your next pack on time. Truly, there is no reason to shorten the placebo week by a couple days, and we see a lot of users who make mistakes or worry when they mess around with how they use their pill. So you real...

Do you feel like you would feel this way with any partner, or like this is about this particular relationship? I know that involves some guessing, but going with your gut on that, what do you think?

Too, do you feel that way about touching yourself, or just about a partner touching you?