Hey there idk anymore, If external condoms don't fit your penis well, I would recommend your partner using internal condoms. They can be inserted into the vagina as-is, or you can remove the ring and insert them into the anus as well. This will protect you both without anything being tailored to you...

Hey idk anymore,

If you don't want to share this with your therapist, I would recommend checking in with other professionals, like those at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255. They have a lot of experience helping folks through self-harm.

Hey LovePineapples! Please do think about what Sian said and the article she shared. We're always here to chat through it! Here's a section on trust from that same article, since you've spoken about his trouble with trusting: Trust: Is my friend or partner trustworthy, and do I trust them? Can they ...

Hey Pan, It is not wrong to see a sex worker, and you are not a bad person for seeking the help of a sex worker. Using condoms every time is a great way to protect yourself from STIs! It isn't guaranteed, however -- there is still some chance that you can transmit STIs when using condoms. That's why...

Just here to validate that it's hard to find the "right time" to re-establish boundaries or have a defining-the-relationship convo with someone! The best we can do is get to know our wants/needs as well as possible and express them with care <3

That's awesome, bikinksterboy. I also feel like I've had the time to try things out with my appearance/presentation -- and to do so privately, since I'm not leaving the house much. I've really enjoyed it and I think it's made me more comfortable in my body overall.

In my experience, when I have trouble getting out of my head, it's been helpful to have on some background music or something -- something that's minorly distracting, but that I don't have to pay much attention to (like porn). I have ADHD, so having some minor stimulation for my brain helps me enjoy...

I just want to reaffirm that it is not unempathic or cold to have boundaries! And, as Heather said, "forgetting boundaries" is not an excuse -- they are important and we need to set reminders for ourselves/rework our habits to meet people where they're at, comfortably. These things also go...

Hey Sabine, A fellow non-monogamous person here -- just wanted to throw my two cents in! I'm hearing a lot of comparisons between California and Irish girl, wondering which one is a better fit, who should get more of your time, etc. It's important to remember that in nonmonogamy, we are not burdened...

Hey eatyourgreens, THIS: I kind of thought I had to know and be sure before talking about it with others. This is a realization I have all the time when I'm trying to make difficult choices! It's so good to use your support network to air out thoughts, concerns, dreams, plans -- all of it. I hope do...

Hey there bluemoon, I'm sorry that your dad isn't helping you access comfortable clothing. If I'm honest, it sounds like his unwillingness to help you out stems from his own insecurity and/or discomfort. In any case, where this refusal comes from is his problem, not yours -- you don't have to figure...

Hey there ASelfAwareFruit, First of all, I wanna say that we at Scarleteen very much recognize that beginning to understand your sexual desires, satisfactions, etc. in your adolescence is perfectly normal -- so I wouldn't worry about whether it's "okay" to think about this at your age or n...

Hey l3af400, hope you don't mind me jumping in! Cool. So it sounds like you don't particularly derive pleasures from others, is that right? A way of rephrasing that is that you have the autonomous ability to provide your own pleasure -- which is great. Like, you can find enjoyment on your own indepe...

Hey Jess99, I hear that. As someone also living with PTSD from an abusive relationship, sometimes having healthy relationships can actually remind me of my abuse more because the contrast in the ways I've been treated is so stark. I'm glad that you're practicing breathing through it. Do you and your...

Hey BuddyBoi21, I just want to highlight something you said in your last post that seems like a theme here: I think I need to unlearn that my partner will be fine if I tell them honestly how I feel. If you read similar past posts of mine along with this one, you'll learn that my partner has had some...

Hey trentboi123, I know there's a lot of social pressure to define your sexuality, but I would encourage you to see what attracts you and what feels good without pressuring yourself to decide *right now* what your sexuality really is. In my experience, defining my sexuality has come more naturally w...

Hey trentboi123, Masturbating multiple times a day is totally normal for someone your age. You're getting to know your body! We have a great article called Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation that has some advice on whether you're masturbating too often: Generally, it’s a pretty simple formula: I...

Hey there!

Your abdomen is a huge set of muscles, so like any other muscle, it can get jumpy when it's been worked hard/is tired/is tight/ etc. I wouldn't worry. Of course, if this goes on for a long time or begins to hurt you, I would always suggest checking in with your provider just to be safe!

Hey Raffles, I hear that. I feel like I'm always chasing the appearance I think I want for myself -- and once I settle on an aesthetic, I've already outgrown it and have to keep evolving. Every time you learn something about your presentation -- even when it's something you don't [/b] like -- you're...

Hey TS_6249, Sorry to be a broken record, but the positions that work best and are comfiest are gonna depend on you and your partner(s). Communicating openly about when they are or aren't comfortable and what feels best to you both is going to be the best way to know what kinds of positions suit you.

Hey GS_6,

You can find more information about texting here -- it is always available.

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I'm working on getting you information about private boards as well, but these two avenues work very well!

Hey Sky H,

Great! Let us know if it helps.

Hey Daisy, I'm glad you found us! It sounds like you're starting from a strong place -- you had pleasurable, consensual experiences with two people. I hear you wanting your privacy -- have you talked with each boy about wanting to keep your histories private? Are there other reasons you feel regretf...

I'm really sorry that you had such an awful experience. That's not fair and you didn't deserve it. I would hate to set up a dichotomy where you expect to either be rejected or misgendered by the people you come out to. I know that our bad experiences can make us fear that those are our only options,...

Hey kumarakadp, Welcome to the boards! Unfortunately, we are not able to make diagnosis over the internet. So the short answer is that making an appointment with your healthcare provider is a great next step. In person, they will be able to give you way more info. Maybe it's an ingrown hair? Maybe i...