Hi again, Lostand_found, That sounds like a tough position to be in at home. I'm happy that you have the opportunity to receive some counseling, I imagine that could be really helpful. I can relate to feeling different -- I am a lot different than my mother and my sisters, and it can be hard when yo...

Hi there. I'm understanding that you're feeling vulnerable and maybe self-conscious in your body and life. I'd like to point out that I know plenty of people, theatre and dance kids even, who do not feel comfortable changing in front of everyone. You took care of yourself by going to the bathroom to...

Hi and welcome to Scarleteen. Plan B works best (up to 98%) when you take it within 24 hours of the risk, so it's great you were able to get it so soon. We cannot determine if it will exactly work for you outside of the typical effectiveness rates (75%-89% or up to 98% if taken quickly), unfortunate...

Hi The (great name!), I want to leave you a message letting you know that I see you and read both of your posts. I don't feel that I'm the best person to address some of your questions -- someone else will be along with more knowledge in this area. I can tell you, though, that your gender identity f...

Hello,

As Sam said, it may be best for you to contact your pharmacist or doctor to be sure. Continuing the pill as normal sounds about right, but that could depend on which pill it is and since we are not doctors, we don't know exactly the best course of action for each type of pill.

Hi TwinCranberry and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm glad you're here. No need to apologize for asking questions -- that is literally why we are here. First I would like to ask you a question: what is your ongoing relationship with him now? From what you've told us, he does not sound like a safe or comfo...

Hi, welcome to Scarleteen. A few things, first: when something hurts like this has been for you, it's best to quit doing that particular thing. We also do not recommend using anything for masturbation or any other type of sex that has something sharp on any end. This is dangerous because it could sl...

Hi faking_normal, First of all, we won't let anyone be mean to you here. It's against our guidelines and it just wouldn't be okay, so that's not something to worry about. Like you said, keeping this a safe space for everyone is something that we take very seriously. Consent means that everyone invol...

Hey JM, I locked your initial post due our pregnancy scare policy. Would you like to talk more about ways to avoid pregnancy and STIs? You talked about feeling worried and also about what choice(s) you'd make in the event of the pregnancy. Let's talk about avoiding pregnancy, if that's what you'd li...

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services with users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not been otherwise directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question here. If you are seeing this text with a post you ma...

Hey solareclipse, checking in on you today?

Hi jerd_herley, First of all, I want you to know that you didn't do anything "wrong" and that it's okay + not uncommon to feel this way after something like this happens. Finding out later that someone perhaps mislead you about their age or were not clear... that's not fun and it's also no...

Hello there, I'm sorry that you're feeling so stuck here. Working on mental health is... well, a lot of work. It can be all consuming at times, for sure and also adds a frustrating layer of complication to our relationships. I know how it can feel like you're looking up from deep in a hole, and ther...

Hi littlebirdie and welcome to Scarleteen. You said that your bf doesn't seem open to the idea -- so I assume you've talked about it? How did that go? If everyone is enthusiastically consenting then it's okay and not "cheating" but it sounds like your bf is not on board. As far as fantasiz...

It sounds like you're both great supports for each other. I'd recommend letting him know how anxious you feel about him not responding today, if you haven't already.

That sounds like a good plan. I'm sorry about your boyfriend not responding -- that sounds worrisome and I now you could use his support right now.

Once things calm down for you a bit, that would be worth mentioning to a doctor or even school nurse or counselor.

How are you doing now?

Have you talked to any doctors or other medical professionals about this?

Other people, parents included, trying to control your body + eating habits can be really tough. I would encourage you to try to firmly hold the boundary of not eating to the point where you throw up. Maybe you could work out some kind of compromise? Figure out how much food you need to feel okay fo...

Yes -- it goes beyond that. "Everyone can have a sexuality, and that includes: People who have never had a sexual partner, people who don't ever want to have a sexual partner..." etc. Your experiences do not need to define your label (should you choose to have label your sexuality). This i...

You are very welcome. I am happy to talk about anything you read about in more depth, too.

I found a few leads on places for you to try. There is the Pride Center of Vermont Safe Space Anti Violence Program . Their hotline is open Monday-Thursday 10am-6pm and Fridays 10am-2pm. I realize that doesn't help you this weekend, they just seem to have a lot of resources and referrals there. Here...

I'm searching for resources for you right now.

Additionally, longterm -- I know school is out for winter break right now -- do you go to school? Teachers and counselors can be great resources and supports sometimes.

Let's start here: Blinders Off: Getting a Good Look at Abuse and Assault This article gives a good definition of abuse and some advice on beginning to think about and be aware of the cycles. There is also a lot of info on safety plans in here. I believe it refers more to intimate partner relationshi...