Hello, again! Hopefully you've been doing well in your absence from the boards. :) And thanks for looking for answers on the site first! Appreciate you! Ultimately, we're just not going to be able to tell you what this was. If it came from your urethra, though, it was either urine, ejaculate or some...

Hi there, lycheefan. So, there's no static, or set, way that the vaginal opening, vaginal canal, or the muscles around it are. They chance in a bunch of ways, pretty much all the time, depending on a whole host of factors, things like where a person is at in their fertility/menstrual cycle (or place...

Can I just pop into the thread here and ask what happens if you don’t masturbate? Typically, feeling of sexual desire will come and go even if we don’t do anything with them, and it certainly is not unhealthy NOT to masturbate. That’s something a lot of people like to do, but it’s never something an...

100% agree with Nadine here. I want to add that there is also no such thing as a “perfect 28 day cycle.” That whole idea actually comes from a very poorly (and very racist, too!) and shockingly amateur science project of sorts in the 1940s. You can look up “Norma” and the American Museum of Natural ...

Well, literally speaking they are ongoing interactions we have with other people. Seriously, that's it. I have a relationship with my bus diver just like I I do with a lover, they are just very different kinds of relationships. Honestly, I think often the older we get, and the more complex we all be...

Absolutely agreed that media tends to overblow orgasm and make them all seem like they are that kind, especially for women!

I don't think I'd say that those of us who are ENM/poly necessarily have bigger support/social networks but I WILL say that some frameworks and ways of enacting monogamy can involve more isolation for people in couples, which can for sure make it harder for monogamous people to create networks. I th...

Hey there, Dennis. Welcome to the boards. I appreciate your offering help, but just wanted to drop a couple notes. I see you very focused on the person lulu is interested in being obsessed with her, but I am not sure I understand why you have that concern. I don't think anything she's said here abou...

Hey, Jay, I do just want to mention a couple of things! First up, I think what Latha said about only trying to work this out too much before you have even met a person who this could be about is so, so important. She's right. But I also think that if you are having feelings of anxiety at not being a...

Just FYI, I did a bunch of checking on your legal medical rights as a minor in AUS, and everything I found appears to say that at age 14, everyone has privacy rights with care and their health information. So, in this case, all that should need to happen is for you to say no, you do not consent to y...

Hi there, Laayiv. That should be a choice for you -- if a parent or anyone else is in your therapy appointment. That's not something that your mother should just be doing and without your therapist okaying it with you first! As is obvious, your therapy is going to be functionally useless this way: o...

Hi there, lulu28843. (One of my dog's names is Lulu!) I think your friend is right, that it's not an actual big deal. But I also get how you're feeling. Walking by your crush with the poopy phone bag post whole-team-radio-call-on-this-debacle sounds like it would feel mortifying, for sure. I think y...

Okay! We'll leave this here then and I hope you hear from some folks.

So, it sounds like you don't think this was about the school not knowing what was being taught, that this was in line with other vibes at school, yeah? Unfortunately, if this is a school that is led by extreme religious belief, then I think your gut feeling that correcting your teachers would have a...

Hi there, lexinicole, and welcome to the boards. :) I have a couple things I feel a little unclear about in your post, so maybe we can get on the same page with those first so I can best help out. So, generally, when people date, they do have a personal connection: like, that's kind of the whole poi...

Holy smokes. :( By all means, these things you're being told in school are not just inaccurate, they are literal fictions. Do you want to talk about possible options in dealing with this? Is this something you'd like to try and report and/or correct at school? That said, one good thing is that it so...

Hey there, Wendy. I have a few things I want to throw at you to think about. You can think about them aloud, here, and we can talk about them, or you can just think about them in your own head: whichever feels best for you. 1) This framework where someone is either straight or they're gay leaves out...

Hey there, brungerbulb. So, the very best people for you to talk about this with is going to be your healthcare team, because they have all your medical records and will know things that I can't, and that you can know, but won't have the education and experience to be your own doctor in this capacit...

Hi there, Gluggaveður! I'm happy to leave this as it is, as a callout for others who have had top surgery, but the boards have been slower lately, and I'm not sure you'll see many peer-to-peer answers right now. Too, some of these things are going to vary a whole lot from person to person, especiall...

Here you go!

https://www.scarleteen.com/anxiety_and_ ... _resources

You say you never feel bad around them: does this mean you feel good around them or more neutral? Right now what I am hearing is that if you mostly feel bad much of the time, are having trouble finding joy and pleasure in life, that you often feel anxious in this relationship and that the feelings f...

So, I'm not going to engage with this the way you're asking for a couple reasons: 1) It's outside our policies with pregnancy scares to engage with reassurance seeking or a continued focus on a scare, and 2) Much of the information you are giving here isn't the solid info you think it is. For instan...

If she is having breast tenderness AND her period is later than expected, chances are awfully good that that breast tenderness is expressly because her period is on the way. I'm so sorry to hear that your partner is being sexually coercive: begging you to be sexual even after you have said it's not ...

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. Balanitis is more a condition of inflammation and pain, than of smell. On the other hand, if you have been inconsistent with hygiene, something like a buildup of smegma is very common and can create a smell. If you do have that buildup, then it could take more th...

Hi there, potatosoup. Welcome. :) From what you have said here, it does sound like your medication is probably playing at least some part here. It may also be that your depression itself is playing a part, and that could be more than it might be if the current medication isn't a good fit for that ei...