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- Wed Jan 18, 2023 12:07 pm
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Positive New Year's Goals
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4941
Re: Positive New Year's Goals
I'm a big fan of setting some intentions too. I like the way you put it, Mo, that it is more centered around the coming months instead of the big daunting whole year. For me, my intentions are to live very presently and connect with the people around me. Like Nicole, I am going to be graduating soon...
- Wed Jan 18, 2023 11:59 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I don't understand my sexuality
- Replies: 1
- Views: 353544
Re: I don't understand my sexuality
Hi Beepboop, Romantic attraction is not something that we tend to have the ability to control. In terms of sexuality, you are the one who decides what you feel and for whom, and at what point in your life these feelings come up. It is completely normal to have experienced romantic attraction towards...
- Wed Jan 18, 2023 11:21 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Inability to be organized
- Replies: 9
- Views: 2749
Re: Inability to be organized
Hi OddEggplant859, Sometimes it can take many iterations to find a system that works for us. I know that it has taken me years to find organizational and tracking systems that work for me because they are so individual. It's good to hear that you have reflected on yourself and are trying a new habit...
- Wed Jan 18, 2023 10:45 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Getting along better
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1387
Re: Getting along better
Hi Anonymous275, Relationships with parents can definitely be tricky to navigate sometimes because one word that almost always sums up family is complicated. But, that also means that there is a lot of room and hope for growth to find a dynamic that works for you and them. It would be helpful to kno...
- Wed Jan 18, 2023 10:34 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: I Feel Unappreciated
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3880
Re: I Feel Unappreciated
Hi Rocko, Finding close connections with friends can be super hard and quite lonely at times too but that is not something that is frequently talked about. Instead, we are given these portrayals of linking arms with the first person we see and then we're best friends for life-- but it doesn’t tend t...
- Tue Jan 10, 2023 1:17 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 247
- Views: 2900842
Re: Accepting my sexuality
Hey 42, I first off want to say that I do not think that it is selfish to want to protect your own privacy and agency as well as to look out for her other clients. I also do not think that was a fair thing for your mother to ask of you because your intention was to speak up and advocate for yourself...
- Tue Jan 10, 2023 1:02 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I'm a virgin and I'm scared to insert a finger
- Replies: 9
- Views: 56105
Re: I'm a virgin and I'm scared to insert a finger
Hi Dona, I hope you don't mind me chiming in to respond to your last post. It definitely does sound like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself and on this one act as well which I could, understandably, see leading to less arousal and more difficulty-- and cue the starting of a cycle. Since a...
- Wed Jan 04, 2023 2:28 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: How to keep a good relationship with 2 partners?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1510
Re: How to keep a good relationship with 2 partners?
Hi gizmoX, Sounds like you listened to yourself about wanting to slow down and I'm glad to hear that you found that guide about polyamory useful and were able to pass it along to your partners. How did that conversation with them about polyamory go? We you three able to decide how you all would like...
- Wed Jan 04, 2023 2:01 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 247
- Views: 2900842
Re: Accepting my sexuality
Hi theansweris42, It was great to catch up on your thread and read about the dive into hormones and also to see how you are navigating your own healthcare and emotions about your health! It's amazing to hear that you had such a good time with him, genuinely connecting with others is one of the best ...
- Tue Dec 20, 2022 12:56 pm
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: Exploring myself?
- Replies: 18
- Views: 4056
Re: Exploring myself?
Hi elemd11, It is totally normal to be a little nervous and confused learning about something completely new to you and that is the whole reason we are here and this site was made-- to support people like you. If you feel like this is not the right time for you to start experimenting with your body ...
- Tue Dec 20, 2022 11:13 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: my bf accidentally violated my sexual boundaries
- Replies: 10
- Views: 7525
Re: my bf accidentally violated my sexual boundaries
Hi whitesp4ce, I definitely want to echo Sam above and say that it sounds like you absolutely made the right call ending things with your previous boyfriend since that behavior is quite manipulative. That also sounds like an extremely hurtful and traumatic relationship you were in which makes sense ...
- Tue Dec 20, 2022 10:58 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Feeling anxious
- Replies: 14
- Views: 6436
Re: Feeling anxious
Hi MusicNerd, I hear you that opening up to people can be pretty scary because being vulnerable is extremely challenging, especially if we don't have a lot of practice at it (I've definitely been there!). Sometimes when I have been in similar situations it has been really helpful for me to remember ...
- Tue Dec 13, 2022 2:23 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 247
- Views: 2900842
Re: Accepting my sexuality
Hi 42, I think it is totally reasonable to talk to her about those things and even ask about what her credentials are, her confidentiality, additionally stressing how you do not feel comfortable and safe talking to her. You could also bring up (I think it was said previously in this thread) asking h...
- Tue Dec 13, 2022 1:01 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Period Question
- Replies: 8
- Views: 1312
Re: Period Question
Hi Edhelraen, It sounds like seeing an OB/GYN about this issue will help you have some peace of mind since you have had some problems arise in the past around your cycle. However, it can be normal for some fluctuation in the blood flow throughout your period. From what I have read from your posts it...
- Wed Dec 07, 2022 12:55 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
- Replies: 17
- Views: 3298
Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Hi Anne, No worries that many of those things did not resonate with you. We are all so individual about what we do or do not find enjoyable. One of the main purposes behind that post was to show the breadth of things that can be used as a form of self-care. At its essence, for me at least, taking ca...
- Wed Nov 30, 2022 2:07 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 247
- Views: 2900842
Re: Accepting my sexuality
Hi 42, I haven't popped onto this thread in a while but it was great to catch up and see some new excitement and hope around finding a way to get you the independence that you have been needing and wanting for so long. I hear you on the fact that no one really teaches kids all the "life" t...
- Wed Nov 30, 2022 12:55 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
- Replies: 17
- Views: 3298
Re: I need penetration to reach orgasm and I'm unhappy about that
Hi Anne! I've been following along on your thread and have brainstormed some ideas that require minimal supplies if any. I feel you with the cold weather at the moment (I'm in upstate New York and we have definitely entered the dreary winter). I can list some of the ideas that I thought of or know t...
- Wed Nov 23, 2022 12:31 pm
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence
- Replies: 6
- Views: 5164
Re: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence
I have written and re-written what I want to post on this thread quite a few times because nothing quite captures what I feel in the wake of more violence to a community that I love. So, what I feel is a lot. I will shamelessly admit that I had to pull up an emotion wheel to try and figure out all o...
- Wed Nov 02, 2022 11:23 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Clarification Question
- Replies: 13
- Views: 6564
Re: Clarification Question
For those other scenarios, since there is ejaculate involved there is some pregnancy risk but it would be categorized as lower risk depending on the amount of fluids, how close to the genitals, and how recent. Sperm can survive for about 15-30 minutes outside of the body (dry surfaces or skin). If t...
- Wed Oct 26, 2022 3:42 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 247
- Views: 2900842
Re: Accepting my sexuality
Hi theansweris42, First of all, I do want to reiterate Sam's post about the therapist that it is unethical for them to see you in that capacity. However, if you have no other choice than to go see this person then make sure you tell them that you were forced to go and get their help to intervene in ...
- Wed Oct 26, 2022 3:08 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I have this fetish that's dangerous and can't get rid of
- Replies: 15
- Views: 6610
Re: I have this fetish that's dangerous and can't get rid of
Hi Knr, I'm not quite sure if I'm understanding you correctly. But, what I think I'm hearing from your last post is that one of the main things you are dealing with are fatphobic comments from your psychiatrist. However, you have to keep seeing them at the moment because they are prescribing you med...
- Wed Oct 19, 2022 2:51 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 247
- Views: 2900842
Re: Accepting my sexuality
Hi 42, That is a beautiful quote and I'm glad you shared it-- I added it to a list of favorite quotes of mine! Feeling like you've made progress just to feel like you are back in the same place again can be exhausting and disheartening, but there is always a path forward. I hear you because vocalizi...
- Wed Sep 28, 2022 5:15 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 247
- Views: 2900842
Re: Accepting my sexuality
Hi theansweris42, It's good to hear from you again and no worries about the response delay, we will always be here when you need us. I'm glad to hear that your school does have a counselor because they are a resource that is explicitly there to support you, that is their whole role. However, I know ...
- Wed Sep 28, 2022 4:29 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: help! i cant stop looking through my ex's social media :(
- Replies: 8
- Views: 3921
Re: help! i cant stop looking through my ex's social media :(
Hi garfieldfan and welcome to Scarleteen! I first want to acknowledge that it sounds like a difficult time for you right now. I want to assure you that this is not an uncommon thing for people to experience after a breakup at all, so you're not alone. Are you aware of what tends to make you feel the...
- Wed Sep 28, 2022 4:08 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: How to continue
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2454
Re: How to continue
Hi Maximil, People with penises tend to need a brief break after ejaculation which is the "refractory period." This is the amount of time when the body is not able to achieve orgasm again. The length of that time depends from person to person but it can be around 15-20 minutes. People with...