Alice is right, I did have to sit this through. We keep going in circles with all this like, I know what I want in relationships and how to treat people and all that, but you say the same things whenever I bring up my unwavering relationship ideals. I feel better, now. I shouldn't be so concerned wi...

First of all, Heather, that's a funny question. You asked something similar on my other discussion. Secondly, I'm sorry. I won't use graphic language like I did on your forums again. Anyways, I would like to talk about masturbation and why I feel like I could be doing something different, something ...

I've taken a week or so to think about my answer to Sam's great question. I don't just want a pussy to hammer back and forth within. I don't what to enhance my masturbation. I don't want to conquer a woman or her body. I don't want these because I know there are very underlooked female equivalents t...

I'm sorry if it's awkward that I keep waiting some days in between each message I post here because I have tons of work to do and little time to read and write on these forums and figure out how to talk about serious subjects like this. I live in a shithole where I have no control whatsoever over th...

What about the adult industry? If I were to become a porn actor any time in the future, would that be a good environment for me to look for and get to know people who have wants and needs similar to mine? I don't know much about the adult industry so I may have the right or wrong idea.

Okay Karyn, I get it now. Since sex aside from masturbation is an activity involving multiple people, they all have to invest in each other's pleasure as well as their own. Otherwise, it won't work right. I'm still kind of confused because isn't it okay to engage in sexual activity whenever partners...

As long as both people know that that's what the relationship is about, and have agreed it's okay, then yep that can work. (However, sex often isn't that enjoyable if one or both/all people involved are basically just in it to get off - essentially using the other person as a tool for their own mas...

Thank you, awesome peeps. I'll make the best of my life as I become an independent you adult. I just have one quick question, answers may vary: Would it be okay to enter a sexual relationship if both partners are just looking for a sexual outlet?

I forgive you from your initial response, Mo. Thank you again. Anyways, I've taken your advice. I talk to people at school about non-sexual things, ask questions and let them answer without interrupting, and I try to be as nice as I can to everyone I meet. But I don't feel like I'm getting very far....

I'm quite sorry. I was going to write up a lot more even before you replied, Mo. I know I may be a little young to be kinky and I know not to ask for or talk about sex immediately after I first meet a woman. I didn't want to cram everything into one post and make you read every little detail to form...

There's no exact definition of "casual sex". A lot of people think casual sex is the same as a one-night stand. That's not true for everyone. Casual sex can still have the components and dynamics of sexual relationships that were already romantic to begin with. You can still call it casual...

I've been having a great life. I hang with good people, I have a nice family, and I'm gonna get to go to a new school later this year where I can hopefully find potential partners who share my interests. The thing is that it's gonna be a while until I can get into the new school. I might not even ma...

I started this long discussion on the newbies' forum about my sexual frustration and lack of love and sex. Mo and Karyn talked on that discussion about how you should avoid getting into a relationship with someone when you just plain want a relationship because it's hard to see people as individuals...

Hullo, Scarleteam? I have a suggestion to help you improve your website. As some of you may know, I've had a long discussion with a few staff members in the Newbieville forums. The discussion is about how I was frustrated with not having someone to express myself to romantically and sexually. I have...

(cityofthedead, I appreciate that you wanted to add a supportive comment here - but I think it's important to center transgender voices in this conversation; there are aspects of dating and relationships that are going to be vastly different for trans people and challenges we have to deal with that...

It's okay, buddy. I'm glad you like this site. I sure do. :) I have a full-time male identity, but the feelings and experiences you share here aren't much different from mine, and probably many others in our age groups. Not having ever had romantic/sexual relationships, it's crazy how normal it is t...

If you're scared shitless of being a "forever alone", the answer to that topic title is "yes". If you aren't fixated on other people and their relationships with you, no. I'm still a teenager and I'm totally straight, but I've started a very similar discussion here. I know it may...

Heather's right. I think we've finished Story Mode. :P I don't care whether or not it's a happy ending. It's just an ending. From here I'll continue with my life and grow the heck up. I'll work on myself and my characteristics that not only will get me laid sooner, but will be an awesome person to e...

Pursuing a romantic relationship with someone just because we want a relationship in general and not because we're interested in them specifically, as a person, tends not to lead to satisfying or healthy relationships. I'd suggest that if you're not feeling strong attraction to this person, it's pr...

So, I had a class with Crunchy, and I sat across from her at lunch. There were a bunch of other girls at the table, as usual. I would say hello to them and give a small comment when a chance came. But I was too focused on my crunchy food to really interact with Crunchy herself. I know I could've giv...

Well, there's this girl named...uh... Crunchy. :P No, I ain't givin' you any actual people's named in my life. We come by each other sometimes at school as we roam the halls and we sometimes sit and talk together at lunch. She's very friendly with me but we only see each other under the roof of the ...

Mo wrote:Do you want to talk at all about ways to express interest in starting a relationship with someone that are more likely to be received well?

Yes, Mo! I don't know if the girls I go to school with are really interested in me, but I'd love to give it a shot.

Thank you very much for your advice, Heather. I have considered your method of narrowing down all the girls to have a relationship with, but I'm afraid to express my desires for a romantic/sexual relationship because I've tried it before and I got in a hell lot of trouble. Also, while I know desires...

Heather, that first thing you typed up in the second paragraph of your reply above, about finding the kind of relationship I want and pursuing that goal, yes, that is what I want your help with. The thing is just that it seems impossible to be able to find one suitable person among a whole crapload ...

I really want to have a passionate relationship, of course, but that's the focus of this discussion. I have so many other wonderful things in my life. I have all the support I need. It's just how I want to experience love and sexuality in ways I haven't before and involve another person (in this cas...