Hi there! I'm so sorry you're having this discomfort, that sounds like a real headache. My best advice is coconut oil, which will help make the hair a bit softer down there - but it's definitely not a magic solution, unfortunately. Since you mentioned women's underwear gives you dysphoria, I don't w...

Hi there, welcome to the boards. I want to start by sharing a resource we have on the 'hymen' so what I say after makes sense: My Corona: The Hymen & the Myths That Surround It So, now that we got the basics out there, I'll say that for some people it does hurt a bit to use a tampon for the firs...

Hi there, welcome to the boards. I want to start by saying that I can tell this is stressful for you, because you care about her and don't want to hurt her. It's valid and natural to be thinking of her needs and wants through this. That being said, when it comes to sex, if one partner isn't comforta...

It could honestly be a random one-off, as that can happen with birth control, but without being medical professionals and examining you we can't give an answer. If you feel like this is a big enough change to see a medical professional, it's a good idea to make an appointment just to be safe - you k...

It's okay, this stuff is definitely tricky like you said, especially at your age. I think what Heather said at the end there is super important - having certain hopes when it comes to this stuff is just a recipe for disappointment. Overthinking and comparing ourselves to other people when it comes t...

Hi ailel, What you describe could easily be symptoms of your menstrual cycle, and if I'm understanding you're not technically late yet, but it's of course up to you if you take a pregnancy test or not, and sometimes it's okay to do one just to really be sure and ease any anxiety. You know your body ...

Hi Rachel 1, I want to bring up your last thread and the advice Jacob, Heather and Sam all gave you on putting less focus on what masturbation "should" be like, and more on your mental health and finding pleasure in things in general. That being said, yes, some people can orgasm without ge...

Hi spottedowl, You know, I can relate to having an older relative who bashes therapy and doesn't really like to talk about mental health, and it can be a struggle because I just KNOW it's something that would help him. Like Latha said, though, some people that age are set in their ways and we don't ...

It's not uncommon for people to experience some tingling on their legs during masturbation, arousal and/or orgasm - unless it gets to be painful tingles, or numbness to the point you can't feel them at all, then it's nothing to be worried about. As for shaving, it depends on the kind of shaver you g...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! Ah, so I hear you saying you don't want to leave him or not say anything about it, and I think it's great you want to communicate about this, it can be a hard topic to approach. To be honest, this isn't an immediate reason to break up and is something you two can wor...

The thing is there's not a one-size-fits-all orgasm; we all experience them differently, and it might not look or feel like it does on sexual media. Like Sam said, what you're describing certainly sounds like an orgasm, but maybe it doesn't seem like it because you had a different expectation of the...

As summer ends (or winter, depending on where you are!) and a new school year (or semester) starts, it's normal to feel some stress. Okay, maybe even a lot of stress. Some of the challenges are social, some are school/workload related, or simply the change in routine can throw us off. How are you pl...

Yes, using both of those methods will have reduced your risk versus not using either or only using one. However, we can't guarantee you aren't pregnant because it's been too soon to know and we're not medical professionals. If the condom didn't break and you did everything else by the book, the risk...

Hi there, anony-moose, welcome to the boards! You don't HAVE to use a condom on your personal dildo when used to masturbate, although it's recommended like you stated for sanitary reasons, so if you have easy enough access to them do so - but otherwise, you can also just make sure to wash your dildo...

Hi Rachel 1,
Did you get a chance to read Nicole's previous answer, and was it helpful? I fully agree with her, and everyone else who has chimed in on this thread, and would appreciate if you can make sure to read their responses and let me know your thoughts on those before we move forward.

It's outside our scope, but perhaps another user that has experience in this will be able to give you some advice!

The thing is, sexuality isn't this black or white thing that needs to have a super specific and permanent label. It's a spectrum, it can and often does change over time, and it isn't always as obvious and clear as you might think it is. We can't really answer whether you're attracted to women or wha...

That's a crappy thing to say to a friend, I'm sorry they said that. You know, you'd be surprised at how many people, especially at your age but honestly at all ages, feel lonely and struggle with friendships. Even people who seem like they have plenty of friends can feel lonely. That being said, it'...

It sounds like you both really respect each other's boundaries and that's wonderful, now you have to trust each other that you'll communicate those boundaries and when/if you're ever uncomfortable. This can help ease some of the anxiety if you know you would KNOW if she's not comfortable - of course...

There's really no one way it 'has' to be - it's more like, it GETS to be however you want and are comfortable with. For some people, that might mean pushing through with anxiety and just doing it anyway. For others, it's avoiding it when anxious. You two, together, get to decide what makes most sens...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! I want to start this conversation by asking a couple questions so I can have more context and be able to give you better advice. You mentioned being scared of what your mom would think - I'm wondering why she has to know about it? It makes me ask to what extent you a...

Hi there, welcome to the boards. Sperm doesn't live very long outside the body, so even if you had ejaculated and got some on your fingers and then had manual sex 5-10 minutes later, you'd not really have to worry. Since it was pre-ejaculate, you're even safer. It might be best from now on to wash y...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! You're absolutely correct that the whole sperm race narrative is an oversimplification, and in reality, it's less of a marathon and more of an obstacle course. On top of that, the sperm aren't the only ones working - the egg cells are doing a lot too, for example. I ...

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Just want to jump back in and say I'm so glad to hear this update! You deserve to be taken seriously by your gyno, so that's awesome, and I hope she'll be someone you can keep working with