Hi Chloe_14!, I think it's very normal to be exploring your identity. From my understanding, gender can be complex, and it can be something that people explore for many years. Here at Scarleteen, we cannot tell you what you are, but we can provide you with the proper resources so you can see for you...

Hi Nadia91, This sounds a lot like the Resolution stage of the Masters and Johnson model of sexual response (found in the article Sam sent earlier which I'm sure you saw!) and occurs after the Orgasm stage. Although, this is your body, so I can't 100% tell you what you experienced, it does sound a l...

You're welcome! If you have any further questions, please feel free to ask. Diagrams and illustrations can help a lot, but we also must remember that every body is different so these images are just something to consider when navigating that region of your body. Although, as you mentioned earlier, y...

No problem!

Hi SillyMcGoof_, Similar to what Sam said, it's totally okay to not masturbate under those conditions if it makes you uncomfortable, even if you really want to. Encountering blood while masturbating on your period might not be the easiest thing to work around, other than maybe doing it in the shower...

Hi Lande, From my experience, my gynecologist never assumed or questioned my gender identity or sexual orientation. Although, as Latha said, they can be cis/heteronormative. If anything, when you get the paperwork from the office to fill out your personal information, you could include your pronouns...

No problem! From some googling, I learned that condoms and lube can be purchased at any pharmacy or convenience store in Indonesia. I'm not too sure about how true this is, or if there are any age restrictions, so you might need to look into that yourself! Also, yes, definitely do what feels right t...

Hi naurmi008, There is a chance there was some bleeding caused by irritation from masturbation. This can result in the dark red/brown discharge and overall soreness. From my understanding, it's normal for the discharge to appear the next day when wiping. From now on, I recommend making sure that you...

Hi Yukkish, I want to add something that could create some dialogue and thought into what you're experiencing. You've referenced porn a lot in your description of the roles of men and women during sex. I'm sure you know this, but porn does not depict sex realistically, especially the roles of men an...

Hi spottedowl, I think you do a good job at sensing people's energy when you feel like you've begun to overshare, so taking that into account can definitely guide you on when to tone it down. Even just acknowledging this to the person you're speaking to (in the moment or in advance) and apologizing ...

Hi tryingmybest20, Thank you for reaching out to us and being so open about your experiences. So, we cannot tell you if you're aromantic, nor do we want to put words in your mouth regarding your experiences, but we can definitely give you the proper information so you can see if you can relate to th...

Hi blu_envy, If you don't mind me asking, when you spoke to your therapist about your experience, what did they say about it? Do you think it might be beneficial to talk about this recent experience with your therapist and see what they think is going on? I can't tell you exactly if that emotional r...

Hi Jay27, First, I want to mention that I'm happy to hear you're feeling good about how you look after your breast reduction! I have a feeling that because it's still new and fresh, you might have some lingering body dysmorphia. Although, I'm sure this will settle with time. Maybe, instead of jumpin...

Hi naurmi008, I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. Taking control of irrational fears can be difficult because it's easier said than done. You mentioned that your fears have to do with getting pregnant and I'm happy to say that you've already completed my first piece of advice which is t...

I hope what we've shared with you has eased some of your concerns!

Hi nono_nono, As I mentioned earlier, sperm cells die very quickly in open air. You mentioned that there was no ejaculation but pre-cum. Pre-cum can contain sperm, but the sperm cells die quickly once exposed to improper conditions such as temperature. This is mentioned in one of the articles I link...

Hi nono_nono, No problem! In one of my previous posts, I included some resources that explain methods of birth control to prevent pregnancy (Birth Control Bingo), condoms (Condom Basics), and what certain sexual activities could risk pregnancy (Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?...

Hello,

Oh! That's my mistake, I misunderstood! Still, there does not seem to be a risk of pregnancy here.

Hi blu_envy, I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here! I'm glad that Amanda's post and resource recommendations resonated with you. You mentioned that you got used to masturbating to kinky content and dislike the vanilla sex you tried irl, do you think that finding a partner that is interested in t...

Hi again naurmi008,

Yes, there doesn't seem to be a risk of pregnancy here!

Hi again nono_nono! As Michaela mentioned earlier, there is no chance of pregnancy. Sperm cannot survive outside the body for a long time, especially if they are not exposed to the proper conditions, and she cleaned her hands. Plus, she got her period, which is a sign that she is not pregnant. I don...

Hi nono_nono,

I completely understand how you feel. Are you interested in learning more about safe sex practices and birth control methods like condoms? We have some great resources on this and are happy to help! I think learning about these things will ease some anxiety.

Hi naurmi088, I believe so but under the right conditions, which means they have to be exposed to proper temperature and all that. Sperm in semen exposed to the open air will usually die within a few hours. I'll link below two articles that explain this more thoroughly. I think they will answer your...

Hey sparklingstar, Thank you for reaching out to us about this, we're happy to be here for you during this time! I completely understand your sadness. When my friends and I were separated because of the distances of our universities, it was really difficult at first and we were grieving the closenes...

Hi Lovelly_Kayyy, I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here. I feel like your fear of the gynecologist is a common thing I've been noticing from users on the boards and people I know irl. Not everyone has a great time at the gynecologist's office, but I can speak from my experience and hopefully, th...