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by Valerie J
Thu May 06, 2021 12:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Problems masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 7635

Re: Problems masturbating

Hi jenny01, Stress can impact our ability to enjoy masturbation/sex. It sounds like you might be experiencing arousal discordance. "Arousal discordance means that physiological (in this case, bodily) and mental arousal don’t match up at the same time. This can go in either direction: you can wa...
by Valerie J
Thu May 06, 2021 9:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how to get my period back?
Replies: 1
Views: 4908

Re: how to get my period back?

Hi! I'm glad to hear that you recognize your stress levels might be impacting your period. You are most likely correct on that. Stress, of all kinds, can impact our body's functions in different ways and your body is adapting in the way it thinks it will protect you best. I would recommend you read ...
by Valerie J
Wed Apr 28, 2021 11:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nexplanon Arm Implant
Replies: 13
Views: 7564

Re: Nexplanon Arm Implant

Hi there! It is most likely your body reacting to the new hormones that have been introduced to your body. This link on Planned Parenthood talks a little more indepth about Nexplanon side-effects. Generally, most symptoms after insertion will eventually go away. If it worsens, talking to your doctor...
by Valerie J
Wed Apr 28, 2021 10:09 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Representation in Media
Replies: 0
Views: 16157

Representation in Media

These days, more and more TV shows and movies are showing positive representations of sexuality and gender expression. Shows tackle all sorts of issues regarding sexual health and relationships. What shows or characters have resonated with you recently? Have there been moments where you've felt repr...
by Valerie J
Fri Apr 23, 2021 11:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bloody Discharge on Pill
Replies: 6
Views: 3968

Re: Bloody Discharge on Pill

That's good to hear. Bodies are strange! Most of the time they are just doing what they can to protect us but its hard to navigate that. I hope things continue well with your boyfriend. I hope you are enjoying your time with him because that is the most important component! That this makes you happy...
by Valerie J
Fri Apr 23, 2021 11:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bloody Discharge on Pill
Replies: 6
Views: 3968

Re: Bloody Discharge on Pill

I'm really glad to hear you and your boyfriend are doing okay. Are you feeling okay with have safe sex again? It sounds like things are pretty safe to me. Stress can do wild things to our body and having a withdrawal bleed is one of the many things your body can do in response to stress. It most lik...
by Valerie J
Fri Apr 23, 2021 10:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bloody Discharge on Pill
Replies: 6
Views: 3968

Re: Bloody Discharge on Pill

Hi there! Thanks for writing. Taking the pill a few hours late one time is not the end of the world because of how birth control is made. Situations like these are factored into "typical use" which would still mean that in a year, the pill is 91% effective at preventing pregnancy. The typi...
by Valerie J
Fri Mar 26, 2021 11:49 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive vaginal discharge
Replies: 5
Views: 7266

Re: Excessive vaginal discharge

Hi! I think this would be a really helpful article for you to check out Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions . Having discharge that leaks through to your underwear is normal, albeit, annoying at sometimes. It is a natural thing for your vagina to be producing. That being said, what a...
by Valerie J
Tue Mar 23, 2021 2:17 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?
Replies: 5
Views: 5668

Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?

Intimacy is often described to be something only found in sexual/romantic relationships but the reality is we have intimacy in all kinds of relationships in our lives. That can be found with your family and your friends as well. Society puts a lot of focus on romantic/sexual relationships and labels...
by Valerie J
Tue Mar 23, 2021 1:00 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Quarantine, and Gender
Replies: 2
Views: 7806

Quarantine, and Gender

It has been over a year now since the COVID-19 pandemic has been affecting the world and most of us have had to make lots of changes to our lives. Our daily rituals have been uprooted and thrown around and for many people that has affected their self-perception. Many people have found themselves que...
by Valerie J
Fri Mar 19, 2021 12:28 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 31128

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

I LOVE a "loud" shirt tucked into some jeans or dark slacks with a belt and either boots or loafers. By "loud" I mean very colorful or standout patterns. Then I usually match it with an earring. These days wearing one long earring has felt more affirming. I recently bought a blac...
by Valerie J
Thu Sep 10, 2020 2:23 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth
Replies: 6
Views: 10641

Re: Learning From My Cat About Trauma + Self-Worth

Oh how I loved this post! Thank you for your cat story. There is so much for us to learn about consent through our relationship to animals. About building trust as opposed to assumed trust. I also think that you can sort of see this in relationships to the earth and how the planet responds to built ...
by Valerie J
Thu Sep 10, 2020 2:11 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hair and Presentation
Replies: 37
Views: 54024

Re: Hair and Presentation

I'm so glad you had a great experience! I know this is a little late but I really relate to your post and your worries so I thought I might share my own story. I used to think my dysphoria with my hair was superficial but I think its anything but that. Hair, historically, has been a form of cultural...