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by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Mar 13, 2020 4:44 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to make a carepackage for your partner
Replies: 3
Views: 693

Re: How to make a carepackage for your partner

I love this question! What a great idea. o3o I also love care packages and gift giving, so here are some of my ideas: - First off, anything she likes would be good to include. A particular candy or snack she enjoys? Maybe she collects stickers or pins? Anything that shows you're thinking of her woul...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Mar 12, 2020 10:29 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: any asexuals that have advice? :)
Replies: 28
Views: 3813

Re: any asexuals that have advice? :)

i don’t know what i want i don’t think. i have the perfect person in my life and i’m madly in love with her but she’s married and has children and grand kids. i’m 22 and she’s 58. she knows how i feel about her and we’ve remained friends. she constantly tells me that i need to get out there and try...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Mar 11, 2020 5:14 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Helping a friend
Replies: 2
Views: 583

Re: Helping a friend

Oh no! I'm so sorry for what your friend has gone through! That's so scary and awful! It sounds good that she has a friend like you to stand by her. Considering what she went through, I wouldn't be surprised if focusing on this potentialiality of pregnancy was just a way to help distract her from pr...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Mar 11, 2020 2:35 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: any asexuals that have advice? :)
Replies: 28
Views: 3813

Re: any asexuals that have advice? :)

That's... kind of not even the point. First off, that doesn't address that this is potentially self-destructive behavior for you and will not actually protect you from hurt. The thing about closing yourself off from things (people, experiences, etc.) is that you can't pick and choose. If you close y...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Mar 11, 2020 10:32 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: any asexuals that have advice? :)
Replies: 28
Views: 3813

Re: any asexuals that have advice? :)

i just made it all easier and stopped talking to her. That doesn't sound easier. It sounds like a panic reaction. It sounds self-defeating and self-destructive, unfair to both of you, and honestly incredibly hurtful to this girl. Are you cutting her off with no word? Did you give her some freaked o...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Mar 10, 2020 2:44 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: any asexuals that have advice? :)
Replies: 28
Views: 3813

Re: any asexuals that have advice? :)

=) It's absolutely not necessary to put yourself down for not enjoying harassment. Harassment is always a big negative. I mean, "aggressive pressure or intimidation" sounds really, really not great to go through. D: Just because different people handle harassment differently doesn't mean y...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Mar 10, 2020 2:15 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: It’s time to come off birth control
Replies: 11
Views: 1222

Re: It’s time to come off birth control

I kind of accidentally went off birth control a little while ago due to lack of access and really the only thing that happened is that I spotted a lot and had more random periods than I've ever had while my body sorted itself out and remembered what it was doing. I don't recall any other side effect...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Mar 10, 2020 2:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Tired of him and tired of sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 734

Re: Tired of him and tired of sex?

Welcome back, Everglow! People's libido and interest in sex can naturally wax and wane over time and partner's motivation for and interest in having sex can definitely change over time in a relationship. As for what this means for you and your relationship, though, only you can say. Maybe you do nee...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Mar 10, 2020 1:52 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Unpacking my reaction to a friend assuming my sexuality.
Replies: 6
Views: 970

Re: Unpacking my reaction to a friend assuming my sexuality.

Hi, MeditationBowl! Actually, it sounds like you're in a really good position where it's important that you and others in your position can set boundaries with your friend and these other folk. I'm mentally ill, neurodivergent, and have a history of trauma that actually left me with CPTSD. I can def...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Mar 10, 2020 1:39 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: ..............Is anyone there?
Replies: 2
Views: 715

Re: ..............Is anyone there?

Hi, there wolfcub! You've created a lot of threads recently. What do you think about the responses you got in those threads? Were they helpful? Did they feel doable? Have you tried putting any of them into practice? It's hard to offer advice on why you might not be getting responses without knowing ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Mar 09, 2020 12:18 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: any asexuals that have advice? :)
Replies: 28
Views: 3813

Re: any asexuals that have advice? :)

Hi, sky. I am asexual. =) The only thing that's agreeing to be sexual is explicitly agreeing to be sexual - and even then, minds can change at any moment and consent revoked whenever. Flirting is not an allosexual only thing. You're not barred or banned from flirting because you're asexual. You're t...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Mar 09, 2020 11:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Help
Replies: 3
Views: 620

Re: Help

I would start off with a short message that isn't overwhelming but shows you read their profile and are messaging them because you're interested in something about them. I would also ask them a question which shows you're interested in what they have to say and gives them something to respond to. &q...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Mar 08, 2020 2:07 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I think my boyfriend is bisexual
Replies: 5
Views: 997

Re: I think my boyfriend is bisexual

Hi, dark_sunshine. It kinda sounds like you need to take some more time to really think about why it is this makes you uncomfortable, especially when you're only making assumptions about his identity and don't know for sure. As Sam W said, wanting to try anal only means that someone wants to try ana...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Mar 07, 2020 8:21 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Coming out to my mom as trans
Replies: 2
Views: 1764

Re: Coming out to my mom as trans

Hey, MysticTeifling! I'm so sorry your mom is dismissing you and your experiences. It's really hard when the people we care about so deeply and who love us and are supposed to support and protect us won't trust that we know ourselves best and even actively (even if not maliciously) hold us back from...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Mar 04, 2020 5:49 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: deciding where to live
Replies: 3
Views: 854

Re: deciding where to live

I totally feel you! I went from living at home through HS, doing my undergrad for college in another city, moving back home, having a brief job back in my college town, doing my grad for college in another state, moving back in with my parents, temporarily staying in my parent's future retirement ho...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Mar 04, 2020 2:18 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Cannot stop masturbating
Replies: 4
Views: 1182

Re: Cannot stop masturbating

Hi, usrname! Hope it's okay if I jump in here. Sounds like most the staff is off today, so I just wanted this throw this in here in case you come back today. Since there seems to be a lot of mental upset here (compulsion, masturbating even though/in spite of it not really feeling good, lack of focus...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Mar 03, 2020 10:48 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What is the difference between sexual attraction and willingness to have sex?
Replies: 4
Views: 668

Re: What is the difference between sexual attraction and willingness to have sex?

I'm ace, so I'm not exactly the perspective you're looking for here, but a lot of ace people struggle with what sex drive/libido vs. attraction is, so this something I've participated in discussions regarding similar topics of at length. One of the best ways I've seen sex drive vs. sexual attraction...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Mar 02, 2020 5:06 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Why am I questioning myself if I like boys ?
Replies: 4
Views: 1280

Re: Why am I questioning myself if I like boys ?

Honestly, it can be a lot easier to support and accept others than have to face our own queerness. Supporting and accepting a friend is a part of being a friend. It sucks to watch people we care about going through hard things, but at the end of the day, they're the ones who really have to get thems...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Mar 02, 2020 10:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Cock rings
Replies: 14
Views: 1380

Re: Cock rings

I've been thinking on this, and I would also suggest - just like it was suggested to give yourself a "dry run" with wearing the ring - you do a "dry run" with viagra without a ring at first. You likely won't react exactly the same way every time you take a dose, but giving yourse...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Mar 02, 2020 9:29 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: deciding where to live
Replies: 3
Views: 854

Re: deciding where to live

I've recently been stuck in some cycles of indecisiveness considering my own career situation, so I understand how frustrating this cycle can be! First off, I want to address some of the type of thinking I see in your post. It sounds like you're kind of stuck in some black-and-white thinking . For e...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Mar 01, 2020 8:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I start this conversation with my partner?
Replies: 4
Views: 748

Re: How do I start this conversation with my partner?

Welcome to the boards, smollSexnerd! So one thing I think would be good for you to think about before entering this conversation is this: if things continued as they are without changing, how long would you be willing to stay? Another six months? A year? Five? Ten? For the rest of your life? Sit dow...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Feb 28, 2020 12:10 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: MtF Masturbate
Replies: 4
Views: 904

Re: MtF Masturbate

Thanks, CaptainWildRose! I know it's not the same as getting to chat with someone and you may have already read/watched all these, but I did find some pieces that may be of interest to you regarding how masturbating and sensation will change! Trans women, how did you feel after getting vaginoplasty?...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Feb 27, 2020 3:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: MtF Masturbate
Replies: 4
Views: 904

Re: MtF Masturbate

Hi, CaptainWildRose - can I ask for a quick clarification? For transition, do you mean HRT, bottom surgery (and what kind: orchiectomy, penectomy, vaginoplasty, labiaplasty, clitoroplasty?), or both? I can't personally help answer this question either, but I have some potential resources, but what y...
by Gone.Sorry.
Thu Feb 27, 2020 2:43 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Navigating Relationships While Trans
Replies: 12
Views: 1020

Re: Navigating Relationships While Trans

Thanks for all the background, 0PT1M15T1C! It helps really understand where you're coming from. No need to apologize for having your own relationship to your own identity. <3 In no particular order, here are some thoughts scrambling around my brain in response to your questions that I'm having troub...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Feb 26, 2020 11:08 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Advice for Dealing with Bad Cramps?
Replies: 4
Views: 829

Re: Advice for Dealing with Bad Cramps?

If you suspect endometriosis, it'd be really good to go in and get checked for that! There are some treatment and management options that will be more easily available if you've got a diagnosis, if you do in fact have endometriosis. ^^ Here's another thing I found that I had forgotten about! Persona...

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