It does make sense to try an approach that's more focused on dating - but I'm not sure how to do that! I've half heartedly downloaded apps like Tinder and Her, but dropped them afterwards. I just want someone to appear when I'm not looking, and I would like being the one that is pursued for once. :P...

Part of my stress is I don't know if I'm seeking these experiences out because I want them or because I know I'm meant to want them. I do get lonely and aroused, but I don't get satisfied from experiences with people I don't know well. So I guess I'm just doing something that feels vaguely close to ...

Hey Heather, it's good to hear from you. :D My mom is coming over from the island because I told her about how I was feeling, and I'm going to go to a co-workers party for new years. Mom is so that no matter what I start the year surrounded by love and the party is so that I can "pretend" ...

So, it's New Years soon and I just got stood up, as per. I’m just looking at New Years and where I was last year VS this year and it just feels like the ‘alone’-ness is screaming at me. Which is bullshit. I got straight As, lived alone, successfully navigated and left a relationship that was a beaut...

Hello <3 I said in my previous set of posts that I would move my discussion about sex anxieties over here. Basically, my brain is currently operating on two modes, and I am trying really hard to make the rational mode the loudest, but I would love some more evidence for my rational brain and for my ...

SandyL, thank you for your kindness! Alice, The 'I Feel Good' article really struck a chord and has got the ball running on me realizing I need to do some untangling with my understanding of sex and self-worth. Outside of my relationship with X, I have some very toxic self-imposed opinions on sex, g...

Wow, that analogy is sitting so well for me. It can extend, too. Like X was in charge of one of the taps and i had the other, and even though i was willing to keep turning my tap to get the right temperature you can't do it by yourself. You'll freeze!! And the bath was beautiful and warm at the begi...

Ok, so I'm nervous and feel like an asshole. I've heard nothing from X since we've broken up and I am assuming that will be the permanent state of affairs. Maybe he's giving me space, maybe he's being a jerk. Who cares. So I have a friend, lets call him Jay. I slept with Jay some time last year, got...

Thank you Carmen. <3 things will get better.

Thank you, Heather. Is it ok if I use this space to ruminate and understand my bad feelings some more? I didn't have any time to process the breakup - because I thought I was just going to have an open, adult conversation about wanting to spend more time with my partner. I thought a discussion would...

Hey Scarleteen, So I just broke up with someone I was very in love with because he was too busy. (I'm f20, he's m24) I'm talking maybe seeing him once a week, seldom texting between those times. For someone else that might be enough, but I was feeling very ignored. I had him over and explained that ...

Hi all, I want a sounding board for a dilemma in my life. To give context into my own situation, I'm in a six month relationship with a young man who I love. Like, love to the extent where I can imagine a life with him type love. But I know it's WAY too early to make that kind of call. He wants to m...

Hey, Scarleteen. The last time I posted about 'the Ex', was all the way back in May. So, so much has changed. This is not an ask for help, it is a thank you. So by all means, answer those who need reassurance first. I also would like to imagine this post will help anyone in a similar situation to wh...

I have another question!

Do antibiotics interfere with the pills effectiveness? My sister (studying pharmacology) says that it's been disproved, but I would rather be safe than sorry.

Hey all!

Being of the stubborn 'if you ignore it it will go away' mentality, I left the pain for a couple days. Guess who has a kidney infection now

Let me be a lesson!! If your pee and back hurt, get that doctors appointment.

Hi all! I'm experiencing super bad lower back pain that's disrupting sleep and it hurts at the end of peeing. Im pretty sure it's a UTI. But just to rule out other options, I wanted to ask if the combined birth control pill interferes with pregnancy test readings? I feel like I would "feel"...

Hello! Long time, no talk. But a weird situation has arisen. I live in a house with myself, my mother, my older sister (in her early 20s) and her boyfriend (in his early 20s). Recently my sister's boyfriend and my mother went away for two weeks. In those two weeks, my sister started to spend a lot o...

Hi again, Scarleteen! It's been a blissfully long time since I felt I needed to post. In that time, I've really found my place at uni and for the most part I'm happy. A lot of weird stuff has gone down with The Ex too. (A true standout was when a friend asked to go sit with me instead of The Ex, The...

When I say they'll be rocky, I just think it will be a time of raised emotion. I'm going to be more sad and stressed and as such shitty interactions might affect me more.

His response was "dont do what? Talk to my friends?" I'm not surprised. I just reminded him I'm literally on anxiety medication because of him - so we'll see where this goes. I'm confident in his ability to respond to this in an inconsiderate, whiny manner. Thanks for the noting of my prog...

This guy just keeps astounding me, honestly. So uni has started and it's going pretty rocky - I can't really afford the course related costs - but that's another issue. It means that these next few weeks to come will be rocky mentally. so I was on the early ferry this morning, I was wit my two frien...

That internalized sexism. :~( We can only do our best to actively be aware of it in trying to get over it! I do entirely get what you mean, and it helps a lot to see you explain it like that. It does help to put it into that perspective, and recognize that while Jess did some out-of-line things whil...

Hey all! I'm putting a lot of effort into making new friends and having a stronger support system and i think it's going really well. I had an orientation day for my university and that also makes me really excited. My only problem right now is my anger. I saw The Ex and Jess stepping off of a ferry...

I do make the prediction that "The group" won't really exist this time next year. Or at least, it will not at all have the same kind of dynamic that it currently does. This is all of our second years of uni, so we're moving into smaller, more specialized segments (apart from me, since ive ...

Hey, thanks for the reply you two! Scarleteen always grounds me just that little bit and waking up and seeing that people have thoughtful input about this stressful situation feels really good. To Sam W, I do think that that's what has happened to Jason. I think he thinks it's all completely resolve...