If a condom is not used, there are both pregnancy and STI risks regardless of if the person ejaculates once or twice.

More on those here:
STI Risk Assessment: The Cliff's Notes
The Pregnancy Panic Companion

Hi there, I'm glad that you do get to experience some respite from those feelings, even if it is only temporary. That's a lot to deal with, and I personally can relate to "alone time / self-care time" feeling challenging and anxiety making at times, myself. I'm glad that you've been able t...

Hi NH and welcome to Scarleteen. I moved your comment to its own new post. When it comes to masturbation (and really, sex in general), there's no how-to manual. There's no specific way to masturbate. You can experiment and explore to see what feels good to you. Here's an article for more information...

Hi, You're most welcome, and I genuinely understand the anxiety. It does feel mysterious! In part because HPV research is still so ongoing. It sounds like you have a solid plan in place. Please free to keep talking about your relationship dynamics if you have concerns there, here or in a new thread ...

Hi there,

Yes, nitrile gloves and oil are totally fine in this situation!

Hi there! I'm so sorry for the confusions and stress about this. There are so many misconceptions about HPV out there, I understand how it can be confusing and stressing. Here is a quote from The STI Files: Human Papillomavirus (HPV) (which I recommend that you read for even more information): There...

Hi there, just want to leave a note letting you know that we see you. Someone else will be along to respond at some point soon.

Hi scorpchick, thanks for sharing your experience here. I know how shared experiences can help folks feel less alone. If you're up for advice, conversation about this and/or have questions, feel free to make your own thread and we'd be happy to discuss.

I'm glad you're finding that you can comfort him from afar. Just to chime in -- the pandemic is making so many things so incredibly difficult, including feeling helpless when our loved ones are far away and we can't help. Sharing traumatic experiences can definitely strengthen relationship bonds and...

Hi KittyPink, It's definitely important that both people are comfortable during any type of sex, and enjoying it as well. I find that a lot of the advice we give here has to do with going slowly and communicating a lot with your partner when it comes to any and all partnered sex. If you're comfortab...

Hi Sabine! In my experience, these logistical questions tend to come up pretty naturally when you're getting to know someone, romantic interest or not. If it were me, I'd start by asking them about where they live and where they're from and I imagine that you can share your situation during that con...

Hi GS_6,

I'm not sure what type of safety you're asking about, please feel free to clarify if you'd like!

As far as STI risks go -- yes, unprotected oral sex does pose STI/infection risks. It does not pose pregnancy risks.

More here: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

Hi KC. We totally understand how family relations can be complicated. I hope you're able to reach out to one of the other resources we linked. Please let us know if you need further support doing that.

Hi there. Changes in stress and routine can affect breakthrough bleeding. Additionally, it can take a few cycles for your body to adjust when you begin or restart a hormonal method -- it doesn't mean your pill isn't working! I recommend giving it some time and reaching out to your doctor, when you c...

Hi Kela, Welcome back! Happy to have you here. There are certainly non-hormonal birth control options out there for you, and it's entirely reasonable to see how you feel off of them. I personally did this recently after many years of hormonal BC use and it was quite interesting. First I'd like to ad...

Hi boopboopboop (awesome name!) and welcome to Scarleteen. This is not an entirely uncommon situation to be in and you are not alone. Yes, it is possible for kinky sex and sexual identity to be respectful, kind, and feminist. This is something that we strongly believe in here at Scarleteen. For me, ...

Hi BrianneTollison and welcome to Scarleteen. First of all, I want to assure you that your feelings are not inappropriate. We feel how we feel -- we can only control our actions. This does sound like a situation where acting on your feelings is not appropriate, especially at camp where there is a pr...

Hi curehime and welcome to Scarleteen! You have come to right place. We have a few pieces on navigating this here. I hope you find helpful information in any of these articles. Please let us know if you have any further questions or comments, or if you'd like to talk about any of this and how it rel...

Hello roxfoxreal! That was a fun name to type. I like it. One great thing about sexual, romantic, and other types of relationships is that when you're doing it with your own (and their stated) wants, needs, desires, and boundaries in mind - the sky is the limit. I'd hazard a guess that no two relati...

Hi again. Here's the thing: You do not know what we (anyone really, but I'm talking about us right now) have experienced in our lives. I know for a fact that many of us, if not most/all, have been through serious trauma, loss, adversity, illness, heartbreak and more. Some of us ( like me ) have even...

Hi there. I want to add that I'm glad you found something to do to take your mind off of this impending appointment, and it sounds like getting waxed is a way that you're taking care of you , which is great. It's also another choice that you're able to make for your own body, which is empowering and...

Hi Justyne, it's nice to see you again. I wanted to chime in and add that I also work with children as my primary job. I also have children at home, so my life sort of revolves around kiddos. :-) Like Heather said, while we cannot know for sure how you will feel or react -- I'm one person who had an...

Hi PokeyPancake and welcome to Scarleteen. People post in this section of the message board because we label it as staff replies only, as some people prefer this for various reasons and we want to maintain that boundary so please check that first, next time. Your thoughtful reply, however, is sound ...

Hi, I'm going to step in here. I've read through your posts and feel mostly caught up. I am, however, perplexed by your last couple of statements here. I'm wondering if you understand that people can be seen as physically attractive by some or many, and still have to do things like work hard at havi...

Hi sky, As Heather mentioned above, yes, swapping therapists due to finding a better fit and/or because their approach is no longer working for you is a totally typical thing to do and I agree that while finding new mental healthcare is daunting... it's often quite worth it. Nobody likes wasting the...