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by Alice M.
Wed Jul 01, 2020 1:40 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Ejaculation during Sex
Replies: 3
Views: 619

Re: Ejaculation during Sex

If a condom is not used, there are both pregnancy and STI risks regardless of if the person ejaculates once or twice.

More on those here:
STI Risk Assessment: The Cliff's Notes
The Pregnancy Panic Companion
by Alice M.
Wed May 27, 2020 4:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: tips for a child abuse survivor
Replies: 13
Views: 900

Re: tips for a child abuse survivor

Hi there, I'm glad that you do get to experience some respite from those feelings, even if it is only temporary. That's a lot to deal with, and I personally can relate to "alone time / self-care time" feeling challenging and anxiety making at times, myself. I'm glad that you've been able t...
by Alice M.
Wed May 27, 2020 1:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Masturbation and Periods
Replies: 1
Views: 1077

Re: Masturbation and Periods

Hi NH and welcome to Scarleteen. I moved your comment to its own new post. When it comes to masturbation (and really, sex in general), there's no how-to manual. There's no specific way to masturbate. You can experiment and explore to see what feels good to you. Here's an article for more information...
by Alice M.
Sun May 24, 2020 2:34 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Confusion over HPV clearance?
Replies: 3
Views: 538

Re: Confusion over HPV clearance?

Hi, You're most welcome, and I genuinely understand the anxiety. It does feel mysterious! In part because HPV research is still so ongoing. It sounds like you have a solid plan in place. Please free to keep talking about your relationship dynamics if you have concerns there, here or in a new thread ...
by Alice M.
Sun May 24, 2020 1:36 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Anal play
Replies: 3
Views: 1181

Re: Anal play

Hi there,

Yes, nitrile gloves and oil are totally fine in this situation!
by Alice M.
Sun May 24, 2020 1:26 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Confusion over HPV clearance?
Replies: 3
Views: 538

Re: Confusion over HPV clearance?

Hi there! I'm so sorry for the confusions and stress about this. There are so many misconceptions about HPV out there, I understand how it can be confusing and stressing. Here is a quote from The STI Files: Human Papillomavirus (HPV) (which I recommend that you read for even more information): There...
by Alice M.
Wed May 20, 2020 5:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2614

Re: Sex and all the complications

Hi there, just want to leave a note letting you know that we see you. Someone else will be along to respond at some point soon.
by Alice M.
Wed May 20, 2020 12:27 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pee, NOT female ejaculation
Replies: 14
Views: 35346

Re: Pee, NOT female ejaculation

Hi scorpchick, thanks for sharing your experience here. I know how shared experiences can help folks feel less alone. If you're up for advice, conversation about this and/or have questions, feel free to make your own thread and we'd be happy to discuss.
by Alice M.
Wed May 20, 2020 12:19 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school
Replies: 36
Views: 2365

Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

I'm glad you're finding that you can comfort him from afar. Just to chime in -- the pandemic is making so many things so incredibly difficult, including feeling helpless when our loved ones are far away and we can't help. Sharing traumatic experiences can definitely strengthen relationship bonds and...
by Alice M.
Wed May 20, 2020 12:15 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice about giving oral to my partner.
Replies: 1
Views: 565

Re: Advice about giving oral to my partner.

Hi KittyPink, It's definitely important that both people are comfortable during any type of sex, and enjoying it as well. I find that a lot of the advice we give here has to do with going slowly and communicating a lot with your partner when it comes to any and all partnered sex. If you're comfortab...
by Alice M.
Wed May 20, 2020 12:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to tell if someone who is bad at texting likes you
Replies: 8
Views: 517

Re: How to tell if someone who is bad at texting likes you

Hi Sabine! In my experience, these logistical questions tend to come up pretty naturally when you're getting to know someone, romantic interest or not. If it were me, I'd start by asking them about where they live and where they're from and I imagine that you can share your situation during that con...
by Alice M.
Sun May 10, 2020 1:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation Queries
Replies: 5
Views: 477

Re: Masturbation Queries

Hi GS_6,

I'm not sure what type of safety you're asking about, please feel free to clarify if you'd like!

As far as STI risks go -- yes, unprotected oral sex does pose STI/infection risks. It does not pose pregnancy risks.

More here: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
by Alice M.
Wed May 06, 2020 1:26 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I don't want to acknowledge it.
Replies: 6
Views: 953

Re: I don't want to acknowledge it.

Hi KC. We totally understand how family relations can be complicated. I hope you're able to reach out to one of the other resources we linked. Please let us know if you need further support doing that.
by Alice M.
Sun May 03, 2020 4:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Spotting after 4 days after protected sex
Replies: 6
Views: 640

Re: Spotting after 4 days after protected sex

Hi there. Changes in stress and routine can affect breakthrough bleeding. Additionally, it can take a few cycles for your body to adjust when you begin or restart a hormonal method -- it doesn't mean your pill isn't working! I recommend giving it some time and reaching out to your doctor, when you c...
by Alice M.
Sat Mar 07, 2020 3:20 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: It’s time to come off birth control
Replies: 11
Views: 1207

Re: It’s time to come off birth control

Hi Kela, Welcome back! Happy to have you here. There are certainly non-hormonal birth control options out there for you, and it's entirely reasonable to see how you feel off of them. I personally did this recently after many years of hormonal BC use and it was quite interesting. First I'd like to ad...
by Alice M.
Sat Feb 29, 2020 9:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: first encounter with porn/arousal was intense BDSM, now i don't know how to have a healthy relationship with it
Replies: 3
Views: 733

Re: first encounter with porn/arousal was intense BDSM, now i don't know how to have a healthy relationship with it

Hi boopboopboop (awesome name!) and welcome to Scarleteen. This is not an entirely uncommon situation to be in and you are not alone. Yes, it is possible for kinky sex and sexual identity to be respectful, kind, and feminist. This is something that we strongly believe in here at Scarleteen. For me, ...
by Alice M.
Sat Feb 29, 2020 9:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 1062

Re: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

Hi BrianneTollison and welcome to Scarleteen. First of all, I want to assure you that your feelings are not inappropriate. We feel how we feel -- we can only control our actions. This does sound like a situation where acting on your feelings is not appropriate, especially at camp where there is a pr...
by Alice M.
Sat Feb 01, 2020 8:24 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Anything on autism for girls?
Replies: 2
Views: 1145

Re: Anything on autism for girls?

Hi curehime and welcome to Scarleteen! You have come to right place. We have a few pieces on navigating this here. I hope you find helpful information in any of these articles. Please let us know if you have any further questions or comments, or if you'd like to talk about any of this and how it rel...
by Alice M.
Thu Jan 16, 2020 6:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: FWB guidelines?
Replies: 2
Views: 6077

Re: FWB guidelines?

Hello roxfoxreal! That was a fun name to type. I like it. One great thing about sexual, romantic, and other types of relationships is that when you're doing it with your own (and their stated) wants, needs, desires, and boundaries in mind - the sky is the limit. I'd hazard a guess that no two relati...
by Alice M.
Fri Dec 13, 2019 1:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 7429

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

Hi again. Here's the thing: You do not know what we (anyone really, but I'm talking about us right now) have experienced in our lives. I know for a fact that many of us, if not most/all, have been through serious trauma, loss, adversity, illness, heartbreak and more. Some of us ( like me ) have even...
by Alice M.
Fri Dec 13, 2019 11:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Abortion appointment on Saturday
Replies: 21
Views: 1760

Re: Abortion appointment on Saturday

Hi there. I want to add that I'm glad you found something to do to take your mind off of this impending appointment, and it sounds like getting waxed is a way that you're taking care of you , which is great. It's also another choice that you're able to make for your own body, which is empowering and...
by Alice M.
Thu Dec 12, 2019 3:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Abortion appointment on Saturday
Replies: 21
Views: 1760

Re: Abortion appointment on Saturday

Hi Justyne, it's nice to see you again. I wanted to chime in and add that I also work with children as my primary job. I also have children at home, so my life sort of revolves around kiddos. :-) Like Heather said, while we cannot know for sure how you will feel or react -- I'm one person who had an...
by Alice M.
Wed Dec 11, 2019 3:49 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’m sorry but I have no one else
Replies: 46
Views: 2527

Re: I’m sorry but I have no one else

Hi PokeyPancake and welcome to Scarleteen. People post in this section of the message board because we label it as staff replies only, as some people prefer this for various reasons and we want to maintain that boundary so please check that first, next time. Your thoughtful reply, however, is sound ...
by Alice M.
Wed Dec 11, 2019 2:32 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend and abandonment issues
Replies: 138
Views: 7429

Re: Boyfriend and abandonment issues

Hi, I'm going to step in here. I've read through your posts and feel mostly caught up. I am, however, perplexed by your last couple of statements here. I'm wondering if you understand that people can be seen as physically attractive by some or many, and still have to do things like work hard at havi...
by Alice M.
Wed Dec 11, 2019 1:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’m sorry but I have no one else
Replies: 46
Views: 2527

Re: I’m sorry but I have no one else

Hi sky, As Heather mentioned above, yes, swapping therapists due to finding a better fit and/or because their approach is no longer working for you is a totally typical thing to do and I agree that while finding new mental healthcare is daunting... it's often quite worth it. Nobody likes wasting the...

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