Yes, they support me through this. My flashbacks come up when I’m reminded about it. If it does, I cope through it all my own by doing self care process. However, I talk to my friends and fiancé through this as Dalton isolated me from my friends, and it reminds me Dalton’s not controlling me. This h...

Thank you, Sam! I do continue to have compassion towards my mom, but I don’t trust her with my vulnerabilities. When it comes to talking about this, most of this comes up through flashbacks. I only bring this up during flashbacks to my close friends and fiance.

Thank you so much for your advice and insights, Heather! I appreciate the four things you shared with me about the way people assume and blame a sexual violence abuse or any person who went through an abuse or violence. I personally have witness the four ways people victim blame personally and it wa...

Thank you, Sam and Heather! Going back to Sam’s message, I want to learn to effectively shut down these comments. I only wanted to vent about what my mom and others have told me that I chose this. I don’t know why people have the audacity to attack a sexual assault survivor’s experience when they di...

I’ve been numb and dissociative towards my family and anyone who said I wanted sex from Dalton (abusive ex). When they say comments like this, it brings me back to the incident and circumstances when I was with Dalton. It leaves me with the fact, I didn’t enjoy sex with him and it wasn’t fun. To me,...

Thank you, Sam! I’m allowing myself to heal. I’m interested to go into counseling if I need to get help with talking this out.

I’m sorry that I’m replying. I’ve been busy with work and other related things. I talked to some friends but some of them weren’t supportive. I was seeing a counselor at the time; however, I stopped seeing her due to college and finances. I started helping myself out which did help later. The proble...

The way it feels like’s it comes out when I need to talk about it. I’ve been doing better by not talking about the traumatic things unless I need to do it. I’d like to take these steps slowly as I’m healing from everything I’ve been through with my dad and Dalton. I’m getting better by not reacting ...

I’m sorry for not replying back soon enough. I’ve been working with coping with my emotions and not allowing them to take over me due to my reactions when I was mad. After my ex raped/ sexually abused and assaulted me, I became impulsive and compulsive as I’d a hard time talking to people about this...

Thank you Sam and birds_chirping for your responses. To answer your question about suppressing my emotions bird_chirping, the emotions I suppressed was anger,fear, anxiety, guilt, and shame. I’d a hard time accepting this as I thought it was my fault going over to my ex’s house as he did rape and se...

I’ve been dating my current boyfriend since September 22, 2018 which we’ve been dating for nine months. I dealt with suppressed emotions from the sexual violences I went through. I remembered my step grandpa would walk on me when I’ll be changing into clothes after I took a shower as I was nine year...

I have a library card and I will be looking into those books when I am out of college for Christmas break. My boyfriend is caring and he knows what happened with my coworker. Also, I got high with my coworker afterwards which I really do not remember all of the details. My boyfriend thinks my autism...

Yes, I would like to receive information for what to do when I get sexual. My boyfriend said that my coworker did things without my consent since I do knit clearly consent to oral sex, manual sex, and sex although it was consensual. My boyfriend and I stopped having sex due to my beliefs and morals,...

Everything was consensual except the fact that my coworker wanted head. Although I said yes, I felt as I was saying yes so that we can make out. This was consensual however I do not give a clear yes as I did like my boyfriend. It was not assault since we both agreed however something about it did no...

When I had sex with my boyfriend, I do not regret anything except the timing part. I wish Idid wait since we had sex the first day we became a couple. With my coworker who I wanted to make out with, I do not remember much of it since I got high. However, it was consensual which I am aware however I ...

How come my coworker who wanted to be friends with benefits has been sexually harassing me? Also, my boyfriend said that he technically sexually assaulted me since I did not fully consent to oral sex, manual sex, and sex although I consented to it. I have been denying it for months as I do not want ...

Ok, thank you. I was extremely stressed due to my car issues that has been kept having.

My boyfriend does not care about sex just as I do. We offer our opinions however we respect each other’s boundaries. When it comes to sex, we both are romantic and make it lovely. However, we do spend more quality time and we both love that. This makes sense however we do not have issues when it com...

My boyfriend told me he could care less about sex since he values our quality time together! With sex happening quickly, I was curious to see how I would respond and I liked it. My boyfriend wants to try oral sex which I explained that situation to him. I told him I will try it, but he told me to co...

I met my boyfriend when I graduated from high school then I saw him at my work as he was applying to become a delivery driver. We started to get to know each other well as we will talk to each other while I was working. He was there for me as I was there for him when we faced difficult situations. W...

With my coworker, I regret having sexual things with him last Fri because of the way he was treating me. My boyfriend and I communicate about this as he wants me to enjoy it and not feel force. I was raised in a conservative Christian home which I have always been against pre martial sex however I f...

I have not read any of the books because do I think I need to buy it which I cannot afford it. With my coworker, it feels like another sexual assault although I did things with consent. With my boyfriend, we both communicate and we both respect each other’s boundaries as he supports and loves me. He...

Yes, I would like to talk about these ghings since I am new to it.

Yes, I agree. However, yesterday I went to another guy’s house and we became a couple due to feelings and a connection we do have for each other. I had sex with my boyfriend and it wasgoood. He respected me for not wanting oral and he was checking up on me. I had some pain since I was a virgin and i...

For head, it was something as for trade. While manual sex and sex just happened but it was consensual. Plus, my coworker respected my boundaries. He had to stop because I was having flashbacks however we kept making out.