Hey Johann, I don't think ballerina99 has said anything about themselves being judgemental! I'd be really wary of wording things in ways that imply they are accountable for the situation in that way when they haven't asked about that. However I do agree that communicating is always a super option. W...

That's a tough question because what's unreal for me, could be really real for someone else. So I don't know if depictions are 'realistic' per se, they just might strike a chord. One film that does come to mind though, is eternal sunshine of the spotless mind... not because of the events of the plot...

I think this settles it, I need to watch it too.

Just grabbing the first thing that came up about passive communication on google: PASSIVE COMMUNICATION is a style in which individuals have developed a pattern of avoiding expressing their opinions or feelings, protecting their rights, and identifying and meeting their needs. As a result, passive i...

Hey! So recently I saw some really great stuff on twitter under the #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou hashtag which I thought promotes a really important ongoing conversation about all the non-physical ways abuse can happen in relationships. It also made me think about how hurting someone and unhealthy patterns ...

You know, on valentine's day I just invited a bunch of people round in a group message saying how I appreciate them all so much and would they all be my valentines. So I cooked people a bunch of food and it was lovely!

One of the biggest relationships in my life is my housemate/bestie - I don't really have a good word for our relationship. We were sexually and romantically a thing for a few years and moved in together two years ago but along the way our relationship became non-sexual and we broke up, but decided w...

Racially I never saw any Armenians anywhere in media until System of a Down, which was pretty fun as they are a pretty interesting metal band with a fair bit of folk music influence... now of course I have Kim Kardashian, too. So those are the two bits of representation I have on that front. I also ...

Hi Jacko, It sounds like that self control around boundaries and consent will definitely make things easier for you! It is good that you recognise that. As ashleigh said, there's nothing wrong with fantasies, or enjoying dressing-up. It may just be a case of buying your own stuff to dress-up in, to ...

Hi MsBee, This sounds like a really disorienting situation! I think this board would be the right place for it. I'm thinking that if asking him is what you really want to do, it's not a bad idea per se. It could clarify some things. My hope would be that he'd be honest about that situation, but he a...

Hey, So this is just a question about how you react when someone just doesn't get you and your sexuality. It could be any aspect of your sexuality but that other person just can not seem to understand. I've had people pat me on the back and call me a player because I've had more than one partner at ...

Good call Mo!

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No worries!

Hi Whatusername, Welcome to scarleteen! Have you considered asking a friend if they can receive the parcel for you. Also depending on your location, sometimes you can get a parcel delivered to a local post office or locker for you to pick up. Do you know if anywhere near you offers that service? I'm...

Hello! My thoughts are... You could let them know you are a bit concerned about how they will get on when they are not around. You could ask if that's a concern for them and if there is anything you can do. And if you are willing, you could look up some local services to hand over the contact detail...

You can perhaps ask her if you want to be sure - "Would you like to know more about the more difficult stuff I have been going through? I can share if you would like?". Asking that is often a really good way of being attentive to what someone is ready to hear but also leads into discussion...

Hey briggsy, As you have already discussed this with them and they really don't want to travel I'm afraid there isn't much you can do. I know we sometimes want to show people we care about the spaces where we live and work but it is a two sided thing. So it might be a time to start looking elsewhere...

Hi Wonderment, Good on you for wanting to do right by your friends! Have your friends given you any indication of what sort of support they'd like from you? Or have you asked them that? Because knowing and respecting what they want is really the best thing you can do for someone. So they aren't 'req...

Hey Keeper! I don't think there is anything unethical about hanging with friends when you're not feeling tip-top! That is how lots of people decide to spend time with each other... it's just a question of whether you are happy with those friendships individually. But, it sounds like you are having d...

Hi MissT, Lots of people get nipple hair actually! It is one of those physical attributes which just varies from person to person. Do you feel like it's something you want to do something about? Because it ain't compulsary, you've every right to let them be. Or are there particular fears you have su...

Hey Berry! Sorry to hear its all worrying you so much! The thing is, even with your description we can only guess what each part of your anatomy is which you describe because everyone is different and those descriptions will vary from person to person, so we could get it completely wrong. The rule w...

Hi Volleygirl welcome to Scarleteen! You know after a breakup it can take some time to open up to others and its something we need to come to in our own time. It can't be rushed and sometimes that period of not-feeling-ready however long it lasts is what that person really needs. So I would say that...

That's ok Aan! Glad what we said was helpful.

Hi Aan, and welcome to Scarleteen! Mental health, treatment, therapy, (not to mention exams) can be such a maze to feel tangled up in so I really sympathise with you. It sounds like you feel accountable to lots of people like your therapist, like your gynaecologist and other people, and if you end u...