Hi - sorry if necroposting like this is against the rules, but I was reminded today of the day I first realised I might be queer and got floored by my first same-sex crush, and I feel like I never really satisfyingly closed this chapter or properly expressed my appreciation. 6 years later(!!), and t...

Hi, I have two online friends, K and D. K lives in England, D lives in Italy. They met in a Discord server that I now run for LGBT+ people (although K is male and D is female), and after a while we found out they had decided they were together: it was amazing and everyone was happy for them! A few w...

Wow, can't believe it's been over 2 months since I posted here. I thought I'd update a bit, because a lot has happened in those 2 months. So, yeah. You guys were right. I've got a massive crush on ... well, I'd prefer to call him "T" now, if that's okay. And you know what? I'm actually muc...

Yeah, a little. Not as much as I was yesterday evening, but still a little. It was one hell of a thing.

No, never. This would be the first time. I've felt strong feelings for a girl a few years back, but I think I was too young to experience them properly.

Clueless. Probably all of the above but I honestly, truly have no idea.

Hi all, I wasn't going to mention this at first because I thought I could deal with it myself, but something happened today which really knocked me massively and changed my mind. There's a guy in my boarding house who I've known for a year and a half now, let's call him John for sake of argument, an...

Just having a relaxing Sunday afternoon really, not much happening in my head or anywhere else

Thanks! I always thought I was a good thinker, and I don't really let my emotions take full hold of me normally: which is why it was pretty intimidating and scary when they did. The longer I've been in this thread, the more I've understood that: no one can ever build a complete picture of themselves...

I guess I didn't really realise you could be in between bi and straight, even when bi is by itself in between the two extremes. That might well fit me, definitely for now. I'm too desperate to find an answer to really sit back and let it come to me, I suppose.

Man, sexuality is confusing.

Yeah, that makes sense. Thanks for clearing that up. I still get these kinda mood shifts, where for a few hours I think "I must be bi, because X, Y, Z", and then I start arguing with myself: "No, I have to be straight because X, Y, Z". I feel like I'm fighting a one-man war somet...

Okay. So you wouldn't call, for example, developing feelings for someone after a while of knowing them a "crush"?
No reason really, I'm just interested because I hear the word thrown around way too much to understand it properly.

Thanks for the help, I'm a lot calmer tonight than I was this morning.
I have yet another question I'm curious about: how would you define a "crush"?

Hi Mo, It's good to know that I'm not the only one who suffers from overthinkitis! :lol: I have football today, so that might help clear my head a little. I think I'm going to sleep for most of this afternoon since I'm super tired and I caught a cold: probably both connected to all of this, it's tir...

I don't really know... I guess it could be the fact that I'm discovering an entirely new and important thing about myself, which is pretty intimidating the more you think about it. Things like "Why are you questioning yourself? You've never had a crush on any other boy", and then a lot of ...

I feel like I've got a million voices in my head right now, all crashing into each other trying to tell me different things. My mood is shifting all the time and it's starting to get to me... I feel like I'm not really in control of myself at the moment; I don't know. It's such a weird experience. H...

Separately, definitely: if I tell both. If I tell one and feel that's enough then I'll leave it at that.

Be back in 45 mins or so.

Well, not really. With this sort of thing it's more of a "when the opportunity arises" kind of thing, if you see what I mean? I can't really think of any particular time or place which would be the most comfortable.

The questions thing is a really good idea. I'll do that.

No, it's definitely helping. As I said, I'm a very wordy person :D The main objective is just to let them know that I'm trying to work myself out at the moment and there are a lot of emotions flying around in my head: so if I don't seem "normal" lately or in the near future then that's wha...

There won't be a time when we'll be in the same area for a few months at least, if not after Christmas. So not really soon-ish. I have two people I could talk with in person who I think would understand and be the most supportive to start with. Now there's just the "small" issue of what to...

Hi Jacob, Thanks for the response, it really helps. I'm really not certain if the people I'm thinking of are aware of how complex sexuality is, but I would be surprised if they didn't know at least what bi, pan and the rest mean. All of the people I'm thinking of would be generally supportive and ar...

By the way I won't see anything for another 7-8 hours since it's 11 pm over here and I'm super tired

Yeah, I can definitely think of a few and could narrow it down to one or two who I know I can trust and are there to be told. I have a lifetime friend who I would tell first for sure but he lives 150 miles away and I'd much rather let it out in person than over Skype or Messenger.

Hi Heather, Thank you for the support and feedback, again I really appreciate it. I don't really have anyone specific in mind yet, I only used the "he" pronoun because anyone I did tell would be male since I'm at an all boys' school and pretty much all of my friends are male because of the...

Thank you so much for the reply! I have actually read those two articles before and they were very helpful, but I felt like I needed more of an individual response since I haven't had one yet: so I really appreciate the response. I never really thought of sexuality as shifting, I always kind of thou...